PSA - If your kids are dating, make sure they have birth control!

[Anonymous]

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So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

Weird. I waited until I got married at 29.

Ewww lol

You realize you are an anomaly.

[Anonymous]

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So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

It literally IS working, though. He's not having sex. Doubt he will through college, at least if he's accepted to Annapolis. Sure, after graduation, all bets are off, but YES, until then, that threat of dismissal keeps him abstinent. He's told me he's terrified of getting a girl pregnant, and that's why he's not doing it. Why aren't you believing anyone? Do you honestly believe all teens are having sex? That's just...bizarre.

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I can buy that all teens aren't having sex, but I can't buy that your male teen is having these conversations with you. You seem very enmeshed.

You don't think that's how a teen boy would reply when his parents have the safe sex conversation with him and remind him of what a pregnancy would do to his plans? A single conversation does not "enmeshed" make, but keep projecting, I guess.

Let me ask how many virgins are at Annapolis?!?! ZERO

Wake up mom! He is not waiting until 22yrs old unless he is a disgusting dork no one wants to get near. You are literally insane!!!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well, my DS is dating and hasn't had sex. "Having a baby would derail all my plans, Mom."

Teens lie. Surprise, surprise.

So you know PP's son better than she knows her own child? And this knowledge is entirely based on the fact that YOUR DAUGHTER is having sex.

It will apparently surprise you to learn that many of us were also teens once. So we remember what we were doing and what our friends were doing. As it happens, I didn't have sex and didn't lie about it. I had plenty of friends who had no sex, either. A lot of teens today (likely more) are not having sex and they are not lying about it.

Right. I didn't have sex as a teen. DH did. Whatever. But DS knows he can kiss Annapolis goodbye if he gets a girl pregnant, and that's one giant carrot that's kept him in line.

That's why he will fund Plan B. Good man.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

It literally IS working, though. He's not having sex. Doubt he will through college, at least if he's accepted to Annapolis. Sure, after graduation, all bets are off, but YES, until then, that threat of dismissal keeps him abstinent. He's told me he's terrified of getting a girl pregnant, and that's why he's not doing it. Why aren't you believing anyone? Do you honestly believe all teens are having sex? That's just...bizarre.

This is sad to me. I don’t want my sons to feel terrified and threatened. I’d rather hear something like, “Annapolis is my dream and goal. One of the reasons I’m choosing not to have sex is that I don’t want to jeopardize that.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

It literally IS working, though. He's not having sex. Doubt he will through college, at least if he's accepted to Annapolis. Sure, after graduation, all bets are off, but YES, until then, that threat of dismissal keeps him abstinent. He's told me he's terrified of getting a girl pregnant, and that's why he's not doing it. Why aren't you believing anyone? Do you honestly believe all teens are having sex? That's just...bizarre.

NP
I can buy that all teens aren't having sex, but I can't buy that your male teen is having these conversations with you. You seem very enmeshed.

You don't think that's how a teen boy would reply when his parents have the safe sex conversation with him and remind him of what a pregnancy would do to his plans? A single conversation does not "enmeshed" make, but keep projecting, I guess.

Let me ask how many virgins are at Annapolis?!?! ZERO

Wake up mom! He is not waiting until 22yrs old unless he is a disgusting dork no one wants to get near. You are literally insane!!!!

He's always been risk-adverse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, my DS is dating and hasn't had sex. "Having a baby would derail all my plans, Mom."

Teens lie. Surprise, surprise.

So you know PP's son better than she knows her own child? And this knowledge is entirely based on the fact that YOUR DAUGHTER is having sex.

It will apparently surprise you to learn that many of us were also teens once. So we remember what we were doing and what our friends were doing. As it happens, I didn't have sex and didn't lie about it. I had plenty of friends who had no sex, either. A lot of teens today (likely more) are not having sex and they are not lying about it.

Right. I didn't have sex as a teen. DH did. Whatever. But DS knows he can kiss Annapolis goodbye if he gets a girl pregnant, and that's one giant carrot that's kept him in line.

That's why he will fund Plan B. Good man.

Plan B isn't 100%, and since he's the man, he can't control whether she choose to keep a baby or not. I suspect things would be different if he was a girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

It literally IS working, though. He's not having sex. Doubt he will through college, at least if he's accepted to Annapolis. Sure, after graduation, all bets are off, but YES, until then, that threat of dismissal keeps him abstinent. He's told me he's terrified of getting a girl pregnant, and that's why he's not doing it. Why aren't you believing anyone? Do you honestly believe all teens are having sex? That's just...bizarre.

This is sad to me. I don’t want my sons to feel terrified and threatened. I’d rather hear something like, “Annapolis is my dream and goal. One of the reasons I’m choosing not to have sex is that I don’t want to jeopardize that.”

He stumbled across this story last year and it terrified him, yes. I agree that it's sad. Just pointing, that yes, sometimes threats work.
https://www.aclu.org/press-releases/coast-guard-cadet-reaches-settlement-coast-guard-academy-over-policy-banning-parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What age did your DD go on birth control?

OP here. DD (16) just started this year due to heavy periods but after finding out about her friend, I am glad to know she has at least one layer of protection now. Will also discuss condom use.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

It literally IS working, though. He's not having sex. Doubt he will through college, at least if he's accepted to Annapolis. Sure, after graduation, all bets are off, but YES, until then, that threat of dismissal keeps him abstinent. He's told me he's terrified of getting a girl pregnant, and that's why he's not doing it. Why aren't you believing anyone? Do you honestly believe all teens are having sex? That's just...bizarre.

This is sad to me. I don’t want my sons to feel terrified and threatened. I’d rather hear something like, “Annapolis is my dream and goal. One of the reasons I’m choosing not to have sex is that I don’t want to jeopardize that.”

He stumbled across this story last year and it terrified him, yes. I agree that it's sad. Just pointing, that yes, sometimes threats work.
https://www.aclu.org/press-releases/coast-guard-cadet-reaches-settlement-coast-guard-academy-over-policy-banning-parents

Honestly? Kids like yours with future plans and a solid understanding of the consequences of their actions aren’t the ones who are likely to be having sex. (Talk to him about STIs and the benefits of condoms even for oral though.)

But for parents with impulsive kids? Making certain their kids have access to birth control (and condoms for STIs) and safety to help manage potential mistakes is important!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, my DS is dating and hasn't had sex. "Having a baby would derail all my plans, Mom."

Teens lie. Surprise, surprise.

He cares way more about attending his chosen college (which prohibits children) vs. having sex. Sorry yours don't have goals.

You can't avoid nature.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, my DS is dating and hasn't had sex. "Having a baby would derail all my plans, Mom."

Teens lie. Surprise, surprise.

So you know PP's son better than she knows her own child? And this knowledge is entirely based on the fact that YOUR DAUGHTER is having sex.

It will apparently surprise you to learn that many of us were also teens once. So we remember what we were doing and what our friends were doing. As it happens, I didn't have sex and didn't lie about it. I had plenty of friends who had no sex, either. A lot of teens today (likely more) are not having sex and they are not lying about it.

PP to whom you are responding here. I don't have a daughter.

Just because you didn't doesn't mean others won't. There is no way to predict.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

It literally IS working, though. He's not having sex. Doubt he will through college, at least if he's accepted to Annapolis. Sure, after graduation, all bets are off, but YES, until then, that threat of dismissal keeps him abstinent. He's told me he's terrified of getting a girl pregnant, and that's why he's not doing it. Why aren't you believing anyone? Do you honestly believe all teens are having sex? That's just...bizarre.

It sounds like he doesn't understand how birth control works. I'm not condoning that teens should have sex, but it sounds unhinged that he's terrified. I wouldn't pat myself on the back if I were you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

Weird. I waited until I got married at 29.

Ok, that is weird

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

It literally IS working, though. He's not having sex. Doubt he will through college, at least if he's accepted to Annapolis. Sure, after graduation, all bets are off, but YES, until then, that threat of dismissal keeps him abstinent. He's told me he's terrified of getting a girl pregnant, and that's why he's not doing it. Why aren't you believing anyone? Do you honestly believe all teens are having sex? That's just...bizarre.

NP
I can buy that all teens aren't having sex, but I can't buy that your male teen is having these conversations with you. You seem very enmeshed.

You don't think that's how a teen boy would reply when his parents have the safe sex conversation with him and remind him of what a pregnancy would do to his plans? A single conversation does not "enmeshed" make, but keep projecting, I guess.

Let me ask how many virgins are at Annapolis?!?! ZERO

Wake up mom! He is not waiting until 22yrs old unless he is a disgusting dork no one wants to get near. You are literally insane!!!!

He's always been risk-adverse.

Then he definitely shouldn't go into the military.

I think you're a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

So you won’t buy birth control and think only threatening your kids will keep them abstinent. Um ok.

You do realize it works for a lot of kids, right?

It doesn’t AT ALL. They just won’t open up to you or tell you anything. Even when they go to college.

It literally IS working, though. He's not having sex. Doubt he will through college, at least if he's accepted to Annapolis. Sure, after graduation, all bets are off, but YES, until then, that threat of dismissal keeps him abstinent. He's told me he's terrified of getting a girl pregnant, and that's why he's not doing it. Why aren't you believing anyone? Do you honestly believe all teens are having sex? That's just...bizarre.

They are all having sex at Annapolis.