Happy wife, happy life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men will automatically prioritize their own happiness/pleasure because they've been raised in a culture that centers men. They often need to be reminded to consider others. Women often prioritize the needs/wants of others (kids, spouse, friends, family) over their own, because that's what our culture encourages them to do.

"happy wife" doesn't necessarily mean you always please her. It means you support her happiness by doing things like making sure she has time to herself to pursue an identity outside of service, and you consider how your actions will impact her.

And men still fsck it up.

What an ignorant and sexist post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men will automatically prioritize their own happiness/pleasure because they've been raised in a culture that centers men. They often need to be reminded to consider others. Women often prioritize the needs/wants of others (kids, spouse, friends, family) over their own, because that's what our culture encourages them to do.

"happy wife" doesn't necessarily mean you always please her. It means you support her happiness by doing things like making sure she has time to herself to pursue an identity outside of service, and you consider how your actions will impact her.

And men still fsck it up.

What an ignorant and sexist post.

Which part?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men will automatically prioritize their own happiness/pleasure because they've been raised in a culture that centers men. They often need to be reminded to consider others. Women often prioritize the needs/wants of others (kids, spouse, friends, family) over their own, because that's what our culture encourages them to do.

"happy wife" doesn't necessarily mean you always please her. It means you support her happiness by doing things like making sure she has time to herself to pursue an identity outside of service, and you consider how your actions will impact her.

And men still fsck it up.

What an ignorant and sexist post.

Lots of truths in the post. It’s actually quite not ignorant. And it can be sexist and true, that’s life. Life is sexist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men will automatically prioritize their own happiness/pleasure because they've been raised in a culture that centers men. They often need to be reminded to consider others. Women often prioritize the needs/wants of others (kids, spouse, friends, family) over their own, because that's what our culture encourages them to do.

"happy wife" doesn't necessarily mean you always please her. It means you support her happiness by doing things like making sure she has time to herself to pursue an identity outside of service, and you consider how your actions will impact her.

And men still fsck it up.

you sound like a super nice person. I wish you could be my wife!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men will automatically prioritize their own happiness/pleasure because they've been raised in a culture that centers men. They often need to be reminded to consider others. Women often prioritize the needs/wants of others (kids, spouse, friends, family) over their own, because that's what our culture encourages them to do.

"happy wife" doesn't necessarily mean you always please her. It means you support her happiness by doing things like making sure she has time to herself to pursue an identity outside of service, and you consider how your actions will impact her.

And men still fsck it up.

This is as far from the fruth as is possible. Society doesn't prioritize men. Men from an early age learn that society treats them as disposable and if they want to be valued they need to produce. The ones that produce get a chance to form families where they are expected to produce and provide. The ones that don't produce.. well.... those are invisible to both women and society at large.

This is an unpleasant truth- it is much more acceptable for a single woman in her 30s to live at home if she is under-employed or in a low-paying job. She can still have the respect of friends, family and the community. She can find love and improve her financial situation via marriage. A man doing the same thing is a “loser.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men will automatically prioritize their own happiness/pleasure because they've been raised in a culture that centers men. They often need to be reminded to consider others. Women often prioritize the needs/wants of others (kids, spouse, friends, family) over their own, because that's what our culture encourages them to do.

"happy wife" doesn't necessarily mean you always please her. It means you support her happiness by doing things like making sure she has time to herself to pursue an identity outside of service, and you consider how your actions will impact her.

And men still fsck it up.

This is as far from the fruth as is possible. Society doesn't prioritize men. Men from an early age learn that society treats them as disposable and if they want to be valued they need to produce. The ones that produce get a chance to form families where they are expected to produce and provide. The ones that don't produce.. well.... those are invisible to both women and society at large.

This is an unpleasant truth- it is much more acceptable for a single woman in her 30s to live at home if she is under-employed or in a low-paying job. She can still have the respect of friends, family and the community. She can find love and improve her financial situation via marriage. A man doing the same thing is a “loser.”

Yes but it’s only recently that “single cat lady who knits” has ceased to be an insult.

[Anonymous]

Because happy husband, happy life doesn’t rhyme.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because happy husband, happy life doesn’t rhyme.

Happy guy, no black eye

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Because women shape households the way men don't.

That’s a pretty arrogant and broad take, but sure.

Also, sister, why are you subjugating yourself and perpetuating traditional patriarchal gender roles that equate domestic responsibilities solely to the realm of women?

You replied to a comment about matriarchy by calling it patriarchy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Empty testes, life is besties

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why men's happiness isn't considered as valuable?

Men were traditionally trained to be physical providers, not emotional providers. This saying is a reminder to think about emotion.

[Anonymous]

Most women who love the expression wouldnt want their sons to follow “happy wife, happy life” so blindly .


I think it’s a foolish mantra . Happiness is not something you get externally. Happiness is internal and can only come from you not from kids or a spouse . You have to naturally be a happy person or at least an optimist who sees the glass as half full and can smell the roses from time to time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because happy husband, happy life doesn’t rhyme.

Women don't need reminders.

[Anonymous]

I also disagree that most men put their happiness first. Not necessarily. Most men already compromise happiness when they get married in the first place .

Men are more depressed than women so no they aren’t happy to be pack mules in service of a critical father and mother and later on a critical wife and critical kids.

Women are generally happier and socially conditioned to be smiley and friendly and happy in a way that’s seen as soft or odd for men

[Anonymous]

The person who presents with the most problems controls the relationship. Likely they have to be accommodated in order for the family/household to run smoothly.

Men tend to be less dramatic, but only sometimes.