The men who get the attractive women

[Anonymous]

Be an aloof jerk. I mean I hate to say not but every time I’m nonchalant and noncommittal I seem to get the good looking women. I thought as I got older the stupid games would stop - but they don’t it’s still the same.

I had dated someone for long time and was married. When I dated Tony ex-gf post divorce I was a good bf. I paid for all the dates, planned everything, helped her with her house renovations, went to her kids sports events, flowers…you get the point. I have always stayed in shape so I’m not a soft guy physically. Have a good job and kids of my own. I made time and communicated well as that was an issue in my marriage so instructed to improve. What did it get me? Ghosted literally.

After that I decided to not be a nice guy anymore. I went in a rampage dating wise and dumped women, slept with them and did the slow fade (I don’t ghost), was sometimes seeing two at a time and for some reason my phone was constantly blowing up with them saying they missed me, had feelings for me and two instances leaving things at my door like a bottle of my favorite bourbon or some chocolates my. I was actually dumbfounded at the second one as I had shown them basically little to no affection and for some reason they caught feelings.

I’m with someone now who I’m more open with and I am not an aloof jerk with her and she communicates well. She’s different than the other women I’ve dated in the past who I’ve dated long term or otherwise. Maybe that’s why I’m not behind some fortress of solitude anymore as I date her. Funny thing is I still get texts from the women I dated previously and I just ignore them - at least the ones I don’t block completely of course which I did do a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be an aloof jerk. I mean I hate to say not but every time I’m nonchalant and noncommittal I seem to get the good looking women. I thought as I got older the stupid games would stop - but they don’t it’s still the same.

I had dated someone for long time and was married. When I dated Tony ex-gf post divorce I was a good bf. I paid for all the dates, planned everything, helped her with her house renovations, went to her kids sports events, flowers…you get the point. I have always stayed in shape so I’m not a soft guy physically. Have a good job and kids of my own. I made time and communicated well as that was an issue in my marriage so instructed to improve. What did it get me? Ghosted literally.

After that I decided to not be a nice guy anymore. I went in a rampage dating wise and dumped women, slept with them and did the slow fade (I don’t ghost), was sometimes seeing two at a time and for some reason my phone was constantly blowing up with them saying they missed me, had feelings for me and two instances leaving things at my door like a bottle of my favorite bourbon or some chocolates my. I was actually dumbfounded at the second one as I had shown them basically little to no affection and for some reason they caught feelings.

I’m with someone now who I’m more open with and I am not an aloof jerk with her and she communicates well. She’s different than the other women I’ve dated in the past who I’ve dated long term or otherwise. Maybe that’s why I’m not behind some fortress of solitude anymore as I date her. Funny thing is I still get texts from the women I dated previously and I just ignore them - at least the ones I don’t block completely of course which I did do a lot.

Women are complicated. This is a fact. You need a balanced approached with them. The romantic guy from the romance novel won’t get you far. The wife beater from the movie on the lifetime network won’t get you any woman either. You need to find the right balance and it’s not as easy as people think. In my opinion you will have more success with women who initially chase you and then you pay attention to them. If you chase a woman, acts like a desperate romantic, spends days and hours planning the most extravagant Valentine’s Day date forget it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not always the most handsome or most wealthiest guys who land quality women.

A sense of humor can do wonders.

Look at Pete Davidson for example.

He’s funny as hell & can get any girl he (and everyone else wants!!)

I do not think Pete Davidson is traditionally handsome in a Hollywood hunk/celebrity type of way.

But I find him uniquely handsome in his own way which sets him apart from the cookie cutter men celebrities.

Plus he has zero filter, is actually a great comic and also a very talented actor.

I would totally go out with a guy like him but unfortunately I would be at the back of the line since he has an enormous amount of suitors already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be an aloof jerk. I mean I hate to say not but every time I’m nonchalant and noncommittal I seem to get the good looking women. I thought as I got older the stupid games would stop - but they don’t it’s still the same.

I had dated someone for long time and was married. When I dated Tony ex-gf post divorce I was a good bf. I paid for all the dates, planned everything, helped her with her house renovations, went to her kids sports events, flowers…you get the point. I have always stayed in shape so I’m not a soft guy physically. Have a good job and kids of my own. I made time and communicated well as that was an issue in my marriage so instructed to improve. What did it get me? Ghosted literally.

After that I decided to not be a nice guy anymore. I went in a rampage dating wise and dumped women, slept with them and did the slow fade (I don’t ghost), was sometimes seeing two at a time and for some reason my phone was constantly blowing up with them saying they missed me, had feelings for me and two instances leaving things at my door like a bottle of my favorite bourbon or some chocolates my. I was actually dumbfounded at the second one as I had shown them basically little to no affection and for some reason they caught feelings.

I’m with someone now who I’m more open with and I am not an aloof jerk with her and she communicates well. She’s different than the other women I’ve dated in the past who I’ve dated long term or otherwise. Maybe that’s why I’m not behind some fortress of solitude anymore as I date her. Funny thing is I still get texts from the women I dated previously and I just ignore them - at least the ones I don’t block completely of course which I did do a lot.

Sounds like when you were an aloof jerk, you got a lot of attention from women but not from the women you'd actually want to be in a relationship with. There were probably a lot of daddy issues. So just being a man who gets attractive women might not be a good long-term goal.

[Anonymous]

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But we care waaaaay less than men do. Attraction is only partially based on appearance. We a rule, its always better to be funny than muscular.

Has the relative importance of humor v. physical appearance remained fairly constant as you've gotten older? I've always been funny, but I only felt like women were attracted to that as I got into maybe my later twenties. When I was in high school, it seemed like the girls were chasing the jocks.

There are any number of possible variables, so I don't want to make too much of my experience; but I feel like some of the dynamic has to do with women's tastes in men changing as they matured.

Yeah I bet they were chasing jocks as a status thing more than a looks thing, but I do recall high school girls being more into looks than college girls. I think that girls in high school aren't authentic about what they really want because they don't know themselves that well. As for late twenties, I'm not sure; I got married when I was 24. But I'm 40 now and while my husband happens to be both very fit and very funny, between the two, humor definitely sustains our relationship more than his body does. Heck, it even sustains it more than his professional success. I guess it's just really nice to be with someone who is a near-constant endorphin boost.

[Anonymous]

Lol, I love how money matters.

Just goes to show women are gold diggers.

My best friend is chief surgeon. He probably makes $500k-1M. He's 6'5".

He's a total womanizer and has probably slept with every woman in the major city he lives in. It's not even an exaggeration at this point to guess he's slept with over 500-1000 women.

Trust me ladies, if a guy has money your looks are no longer impressive, because he's probably already slept with a dozen or more 10/10 hotties, or regularly sleeps with one every weekend. You better have something else to cover if you wanna keep rich dude longer than a one night stand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well these men you are talking about are often not married and/or get divorced shortly after getting married. They also tend to go through a lot of relationships. Further, the so called attractive women that pay attention to them have issues of their own. These women want a trophy boyfriend/husband as well. Don’t envy these type of guys. You see a guy hot or not with a smoking hot guy and you wish you were that guy nope be happy you are not.

I second all of this. I'm newly in the market in my mid-50s, and the only guy who is showing me any interest is a serial dater whose only marriage ended in divorce long ago. He definitely knows how to flirt and make me special. It's fun for now, but it won't last.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol, I love how money matters.

Just goes to show women are gold diggers.

My best friend is chief surgeon. He probably makes $500k-1M. He's 6'5".

He's a total womanizer and has probably slept with every woman in the major city he lives in. It's not even an exaggeration at this point to guess he's slept with over 500-1000 women.

Trust me ladies, if a guy has money your looks are no longer impressive, because he's probably already slept with a dozen or more 10/10 hotties, or regularly sleeps with one every weekend. You better have something else to cover if you wanna keep rich dude longer than a one night stand.

Someone who is going to cheat is going to cheat, no matter what their SO looks like. There are no guarantees in life, but a woman's best bet is to marry someone with good character. There are a lot of men who both make a lot of money and have good character, but you probably wouldn't know them because you're happy to be best friends with someone who is a terrible person.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Good at oral sex, stay in bed after sex, has a good size penis

That's not how you get the attractive women. That's how you keep the attractive women after they've given you a shot.

+8?

I’ve got a big one and its only ever gotten me past the friendzone once. She “happened to find” xl condoms in my stuff. Funny enough, we slept together that night.

I don’t think there’s any way for a woman to know (even if they care) if you’re not a shower.

Women don’t care about size at all.

I am a woman and certainly do care about size. I would never admit it to anyone ( other than a well-endowed lover) and would never discuss it with friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol, I love how money matters.

Just goes to show women are gold diggers.

My best friend is chief surgeon. He probably makes $500k-1M. He's 6'5".

He's a total womanizer and has probably slept with every woman in the major city he lives in. It's not even an exaggeration at this point to guess he's slept with over 500-1000 women.

Trust me ladies, if a guy has money your looks are no longer impressive, because he's probably already slept with a dozen or more 10/10 hotties, or regularly sleeps with one every weekend. You better have something else to cover if you wanna keep rich dude longer than a one night stand.

Someone who is going to cheat is going to cheat, no matter what their SO looks like. There are no guarantees in life, but a woman's best bet is to marry someone with good character. There are a lot of men who both make a lot of money and have good character, but you probably wouldn't know them because you're happy to be best friends with someone who is a terrible person.

Lol, he's not actually a terrible person. Very empathetic. Very funny.

He just likes to sleep with women. Hey, if women want to put out so easily then it doesn't make him a bad person for taking advantage of it. Maybe women shouldn't open their legs at the drop of a dime then? He makes it clear that when they sleep that there should be no long term relationship expectations.....and yet the women still put out because he has a lot of money and he's tall. That's their issue..

And heck, maybe consenting adults simply like to have a lot of sex? Big whoop. Stop being such a prude. As if sex obligates anyone to have a relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lol, I love how money matters.

Just goes to show women are gold diggers.

My best friend is chief surgeon. He probably makes $500k-1M. He's 6'5".

He's a total womanizer and has probably slept with every woman in the major city he lives in. It's not even an exaggeration at this point to guess he's slept with over 500-1000 women.

Trust me ladies, if a guy has money your looks are no longer impressive, because he's probably already slept with a dozen or more 10/10 hotties, or regularly sleeps with one every weekend. You better have something else to cover if you wanna keep rich dude longer than a one night stand.

Someone who is going to cheat is going to cheat, no matter what their SO looks like. There are no guarantees in life, but a woman's best bet is to marry someone with good character. There are a lot of men who both make a lot of money and have good character, but you probably wouldn't know them because you're happy to be best friends with someone who is a terrible person.

Lol, he's not actually a terrible person. Very empathetic. Very funny.

He just likes to sleep with women. Hey, if women want to put out so easily then it doesn't make him a bad person for taking advantage of it. Maybe women shouldn't open their legs at the drop of a dime then? He makes it clear that when they sleep that there should be no long term relationship expectations.....and yet the women still put out because he has a lot of money and he's tall. That's their issue..

And heck, maybe consenting adults simply like to have a lot of sex? Big whoop. Stop being such a prude. As if sex obligates anyone to have a relationship.

They ALWAYS think they have some magic pootang that will get him to change his mind. Lol They all claim they are fine with no-strings....that guy is going to run into that one true, bunny-boiling pyscho eventually.

[Anonymous]

I find men to be magnetic when they can a genuine laugh out of me or make me wonder about something interesting. And if he has a nice voice, it makes me want to listen to him more. Too frequently I feel like I have to fake a laugh or continue a mundane conversation to be polite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I "knew" a man who weighed 130 pounds, looked like Crispin Glover and had no money (worked as a librarian!) and was a total womanizer. I think the secret was that he would notice many unique things about a woman that were NOT looks based. He would make her feel special and like the only woman in the world without ever saying anything about her appearance since that would have given her all the power. Of course it was all bull since he jumped from woman to woman but it worked for him.

+1. Make her feel special, it is not hard guys.

That's what she said.

[Anonymous]

I dated incredible good looking women when single. I had an average job, crooked teeth, used car and a small apartment.

Cosmopolitan Magazine cover girl, TV actresses, five foot nine inch blondes with knock out bodies and all type of jobs like lawyers, nurses, stewardesses, Wall Street traders, bankers, architects, secretaries.

It is just a matter of working your way down. Meaning I go to club, bar I hit on hottest girl first and go backward. Same at work. And if you see one be prepared.

The Cosmo model true story I was driving my Jeep wrangler one way her the other I waved and I hung a uturn caught up at light and asked her out to meet me at the happy hour one mile up. I dated a hot Italian girl I saw eating dinner with her girlfriends through window and I went in and asked her out

Also going out a lot really helps. When single I go out on average 100-200 nights a year. It’s a numbers game. And go out by yourself. It speeds up process. For example I read a hot happy hour bar opened up near house and a singles hotspot on Thursday night. So I go by myself. My goal is buy one beer hit it at right time only spend 30 minutes. I ended up meeting a drop dead gorgeous blonde. Old trick talk to her less pretty friend or friend in relationship first build up trust then go for hot one. And I move place to place. I often hit six places up one night.

I leave Saturday night for dates or Sunday for brunch.

And pretty girls bring pretty girls.

[Anonymous]

They can come from other women chattering about your big D or prowess in bed. That or just being in proximity with them and having interesting conversations or being humorous until they make it obvious they like you. Both of those worked for me while I failed 100% of the time trying to just randomly pick up attractive women at a club/bar/whatever.