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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you ask my 70 years old dad he would say she is a wh**re......The days are GONE when men can have multiple partners and women can't....It is equal promiscuity today. Personally I wouldn't have sex with someone who has had that many partners. I am not a promiscuous man and I don't want a promiscuous woman either.

This is absolutely your choice. And there are women who feel the same way. If you haven't already partnered up, hopefully you find one of these women and you two will have a wonderful life together.

But there's nothing inherently superior about this preference. (Not sure if you were making any kind of superiority argument; but there are plenty of people who do.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Being in a relationship with a woman who had 60+ partners is like paying full price for a new car and receiving a rental or used car. Why would anyone agree to that?

More like paying full price for a surgeon who has had 60+ patients. If you want to pay full price to be the first patient, that's your choice.

[Anonymous]

You need at least 16 years of education and formal training to become a surgeon. You don’t need formal training to bang 60+ guys.

[Anonymous]

My wife probably had 25+ by the time I met her at 28. She has a ridiculous body and guys were always throwing themselves at her, plus, she loves sex. We’ve been married 20+ years and she’s been a great/loyal parter. And, she still loves sex. As soon as the company left yesterday she got on top and I thought I wasn’t going to be able to get up afterwards.

[Anonymous]

Would I date this woman? I was the shy guy with women so probably anyone I have dated had more partners than me. I dated someone for a year who had 50 partners. We talked about what all of this meant for both of us and realized it didn't amount to anything. People are complicated with a wide range of behaviors. What counted was how we related to each other.

[Anonymous]

I just don't understand how this is a topic of conversation to anyone with a modicum of maturity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need at least 16 years of education and formal training to become a surgeon. You don’t need formal training to bang 60+ guys.

You need an engine to be a car. No problems with that analogy, but you draw the line at credentials? Ok.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:As a man in his thirties, would you consider entering a serious relationship with a 28-year-old woman who has had over sixty sexual partners?

As a woman of any age, I would not date a man who asked me how many sexual partners I had. It's irrelevant, sexist and misogynist.

The relevant questions have to do with STDs, and agreement to jointly test and share results, plus consent about the parameters of monogamy or non-monogamy.

All of this.
But op is a misogynist so not surprising he'd care about this
But misogynists are at core insecure and they use shaming to mask insecurities

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need at least 16 years of education and formal training to become a surgeon. You don’t need formal training to bang 60+ guys.

Surgeons train by doing surgery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need at least 16 years of education and formal training to become a surgeon. You don’t need formal training to bang 60+ guys.

Surgeons train by doing surgery.

PP thinks that women are inanimate objects that break down with use; not people who improve with experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you ask my 70 years old dad he would say she is a wh**re......The days are GONE when men can have multiple partners and women can't....It is equal promiscuity today. Personally I wouldn't have sex with someone who has had that many partners. I am not a promiscuous man and I don't want a promiscuous woman either.

This is absolutely your choice. And there are women who feel the same way. If you haven't already partnered up, hopefully you find one of these women and you two will have a wonderful life together.

But there's nothing inherently superior about this preference. (Not sure if you were making any kind of superiority argument; but there are plenty of people who do.)

It's a lifestyle mismatch IMHO. When I was young, I didn't understand it. I only had 3 partners before meeting my now exH. He was 11 years older, and did say he slept with dozens of women in his 20s. I thought I was so hot and beautiful that he would change this pattern for me. Gosh, I was so wrong! He cheated on me spectacularly after 10 years of marriage. Slept with women who were married, older than me, much younger than me, his colleagues, rented his mistress a hotel across from our hotel on vacation and visited her during the day. It was disgusting to find out.

Now I know it was a red flag I ignored. Maybe I was just bad in sex and not what he wanted. But men I date now say I'm actually very good and can't believe my single digit body count (years of practice with a male whore do make a difference, I guess). I would only stay long term with someone who shares similar views at human sexuality as an exclusive thiing between two people who are in loving relationship.

[Anonymous]

"The most desirable men" / "access to sex." These kind of phrases reflect a warped worldview. Find people you like. Have sex with them if that will make both of your lives happier. Don't make it any more complicated than that. Certainly don't make it some creepy algorithm where the highest scorers in your f**ked up game get more sex coins to deploy for sex and obtain an even higher score!

You are the one talking about "games" where you win "sex coins to deploy for sex and obtain an even higher score." The fact you can come up with an idea like "sex coins" shows how screwed up you are.

It is more complicated than finding men you like and having sex with (lots of) them. That is if you want these men (and the women who know you) to treat you as someone they respect.

Did you care about all the men you have been with? No. Were there lots of them? Yes. Women who value themselves reserve sex for men they care deeply about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Being in a relationship with a woman who had 60+ partners is like paying full price for a new car and receiving a rental or used car. Why would anyone agree to that?

More like paying full price for a surgeon who has had 60+ patients. If you want to pay full price to be the first patient, that's your choice.

This is just my life experience, so its a sample size of 1, but my best lover by a huge margin had zero experience when we met. Her entusiasm, high drive, willingness to try new things, dirty mind all made her a prodigy in the bedroom.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

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Probably has serious emotional problems and daddy issues.

Would you say that about a male?

What are you talking about? It is much easier for a woman to be promiscuous than it is for a man.

A man with 60+ partners (assuming he did not pay for any of them) is likely to be near the top 1% of desirability since most women are more discriminating (except the women like the one who is the subject of this thread).

People always make this argument and I don't understand the point.
If you say that it's the number that's disgusting, then it should apply the same to a man with the same number.

But apparently it's actually about skill or effort because a man with 60 partners must have great game or whatever.
So is it less disgusting for an ugly woman to have had 60 partners than a beautiful woman to have had 60, because it was less easy? Is this really about rewarding effort? And if it is, then anyone who has anything that came easily to them is disgusting?

Men in general are more promiscuous as they risk less (infections, pregnancy, public opinion), and they pay for sex. Directly or indirectly, through control over resources.
As a woman, I’m equally disgusted by men with 60+ partners. These guys wouldn’t be my playing field if I were dating

That’s not the main reason men are promiscuous, it’s the fact that we have different balances of hormones that influence sex drive. Women who take male hormones see a big boost in sex drive as well.

[Anonymous]

I don't get guys who get hung on how many men their partners have slept with previously.

I'm a guy in my 40s. If I was in the market right now, I would not care.

It could be 600, not 60, and I wouldn't care.