sex partners

[Anonymous]

It's fine if you aren't into monogamy or health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re not in a relationship but have discussed number of sexual partners?

I mean the OP did say serious relationship which suggests they have been dating for a few weeks at least so presumably this came up in conversation.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea how many sexual partners I’ve had. Could be 60. Maybe less? Maybe more? I definitely lost my virginity too young to a coercive older boyfriend, and then didn’t really know how to say no and got myself into some situations I didn’t want to be in. Then one time when I was 19 I did say no, and fought like hell, and it happened anyway. After that I spent a decade or so depressed and promiscuous. I did everything I could to devalue sex. Finally I sought counseling and healed.

I met my husband in my mid-30s and have been happily monogamous since then.

That’s my story. Some people just really enjoy sex and don’t have a moral hang up about a number of partners. If that’s not you, OP, you’re probably not a good match for this person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea how many sexual partners I’ve had. Could be 60. Maybe less? Maybe more? I definitely lost my virginity too young to a coercive older boyfriend, and then didn’t really know how to say no and got myself into some situations I didn’t want to be in. Then one time when I was 19 I did say no, and fought like hell, and it happened anyway. After that I spent a decade or so depressed and promiscuous. I did everything I could to devalue sex. Finally I sought counseling and healed.

I met my husband in my mid-30s and have been happily monogamous since then.

That’s my story. Some people just really enjoy sex and don’t have a moral hang up about a number of partners. If that’s not you, OP, you’re probably not a good match for this person.

any STD?

[Anonymous]

If you have has only 1 sex partner and your partner has had 60 then Number of people you have indirectly slept with:
790,779,661

https://www.drfelix.co.uk/sexual-exposure-sti-risk-calculator/

[Anonymous]

She certainly hasn’t been discriminating and you may just be #61 on the road to wherever. You might as well enjoy the ride because it’s likely she’s done everything you have dreamed about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea how many sexual partners I’ve had. Could be 60. Maybe less? Maybe more? I definitely lost my virginity too young to a coercive older boyfriend, and then didn’t really know how to say no and got myself into some situations I didn’t want to be in. Then one time when I was 19 I did say no, and fought like hell, and it happened anyway. After that I spent a decade or so depressed and promiscuous. I did everything I could to devalue sex. Finally I sought counseling and healed.

I met my husband in my mid-30s and have been happily monogamous since then.

That’s my story. Some people just really enjoy sex and don’t have a moral hang up about a number of partners. If that’s not you, OP, you’re probably not a good match for this person.

any STD?

Nope. I was very very lucky. Very stupid, and very lucky. I was on the pill and mostly used condoms, but not always.

[Anonymous]

Just another notch on the bedpost.

[Anonymous]

It's pretty clear the women in this thread answering.

Man here. I've had a higher number of partners than that, so it wouldn't bother me. We'd just get tested if we plan on unprotected sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a man in his thirties, would you consider entering a serious relationship with a 28-year-old woman who has had over sixty sexual partners?

No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have has only 1 sex partner and your partner has had 60 then Number of people you have indirectly slept with:
790,779,661

https://www.drfelix.co.uk/sexual-exposure-sti-risk-calculator/

The number of indirect partners is interesting but unimportant. The real question is one of lifestyle mismatch.

When I was that age I had had exactly one sex partner. I don’t think I’d have meshed well with a 60+ person.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t pursue a relationship with anyone who is missing the emotional intelligence to dissemble a bit; unable to even offer a coy “I had a bit of a wild partying phase in college.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea how many sexual partners I’ve had. Could be 60. Maybe less? Maybe more? I definitely lost my virginity too young to a coercive older boyfriend, and then didn’t really know how to say no and got myself into some situations I didn’t want to be in. Then one time when I was 19 I did say no, and fought like hell, and it happened anyway. After that I spent a decade or so depressed and promiscuous. I did everything I could to devalue sex. Finally I sought counseling and healed.

I met my husband in my mid-30s and have been happily monogamous since then.

That’s my story. Some people just really enjoy sex and don’t have a moral hang up about a number of partners. If that’s not you, OP, you’re probably not a good match for this person.

I’m so sorry, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea how many sexual partners I’ve had. Could be 60. Maybe less? Maybe more? I definitely lost my virginity too young to a coercive older boyfriend, and then didn’t really know how to say no and got myself into some situations I didn’t want to be in. Then one time when I was 19 I did say no, and fought like hell, and it happened anyway. After that I spent a decade or so depressed and promiscuous. I did everything I could to devalue sex. Finally I sought counseling and healed.

I met my husband in my mid-30s and have been happily monogamous since then.

That’s my story. Some people just really enjoy sex and don’t have a moral hang up about a number of partners. If that’s not you, OP, you’re probably not a good match for this person.

I’m so sorry, PP.

Yes, thank you for sharing. I wish that more women could talk about their periods of promiscuity without the risk of being slut-shamed. I am certain it would prove illuminating for men to read about drunk semi-consensual sex, coercion, remorse and desperate attempts to find a loving partner. Get a group of women together talking and you’ll quickly see how little their personal sexual pleasure factored in any of their encounters.

[Anonymous]

In my fun years I had plenty of partners, but no where near 60, and I’m glad I did. It didn’t take long before I realized that most men only care about their own satisfaction and not a woman’s and that I needed to do something about it. Once I became more vocal about my needs sex got much better as I discovered what really got me off, not just what got a man off. I knew my DH was the real deal when the first time we were together all he wanted to know was what turned me on.