husband as "junior partner" in childrearing

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One complaint you sometimes hear from dads is that they feel like the wife's employee or junior partner in childcare. I've always wondered exactly what is meant by this or what is involves in practice. Is it about not knowing what to do? Not feeling sufficiently involved in decisions? Not being around enough? If you're a man who feels this way (or a wife whose DH complains about it) can you explain what it means?

It’s rarely a fault of the man and usually a reflection of the woman’s attitude, whereby she positions herself as in charge and hers is the only correct way. So she will task him AND direct him, because to her, his ways of doing things are always wrong and she is quick to criticize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One complaint you sometimes hear from dads is that they feel like the wife's employee or junior partner in childcare. I've always wondered exactly what is meant by this or what is involves in practice. Is it about not knowing what to do? Not feeling sufficiently involved in decisions? Not being around enough? If you're a man who feels this way (or a wife whose DH complains about it) can you explain what it means?

It’s rarely a fault of the man and usually a reflection of the woman’s attitude, whereby she positions herself as in charge and hers is the only correct way. So she will task him AND direct him, because to her, his ways of doing things are always wrong and she is quick to criticize.

So these grown men who work demanding and important jobs are somehow magically so simple that they cannot speak back and communicate with their wives?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Someone needs to be the primary. There is a reason you don't see Co-CEOs. Not everything can be equally shared. Doesn't matter which parent does it, but things move more smoothly when one is the lead.

The 1950s called...

Too much redundancy is simply a waste of resources.