So a little aggressive is OK? |
| This happened at my public high school and it was so uncomfortable. The captain would call everyone in for a pep talk and then a prayer and you couldn't really leave. I was angry the coach let this teammate do this every week. She was also not a nice person and constantly tried to get favors that no other player or captain ever got before. We all made her captain hoping that would be enough control for her since she was bossy even though she was one of the weakest players, but no. It just gave her more power. |
Lesson learned, I guess. Though it may not have happened this way with someone else, perhaps it's best not to give a bossy person more opportunity to boss. |
| Yes this is what came out of it. She was peppy and a good captain otherwise so it was a shame. I also finally understood why born again christians can be toxic. They feel empowered that their sins have been wiped away and are too driven by God controlling them anew to realize they have to do the hard work of actually fixing their toxic behaviors. |
Born again Christians don’t think God “controls them.” People can be toxic no matter their religion, or lack of religion. Toxic behavior is a different than sin. My brother in law is an atheist and he’s extremely toxic. He has zero care or regard for the feelings and opinions of other people to the point he’s basically a loner and has no friends. |
Agreed - Anyone can be toxic, with or without religion. It's a personality trait available to all. Born again Christians don't think that God controls them in the sense that they are robots for God. They believe that God is guiding them. Funny - my brother-in-law is a born-again Christian, who is just as much a pain in the a_ _ as he was before he was saved. Now he invokes Jesus more. |
+1. My atheist BIL briefly managed a team in his office. Until his VP called him into his office and said "let's agree you should never manage people again." Anybody can be topic. This isn't a trait of Christians or atheists exclusively. |
Born again Christians don’t think God guides them. Where are you getting your information on born again Christians? |
I learned in Sunday school that God guides his followers. I'm not born again, but figure god guides all his followers. Here's a whole website Bible verses about god's guidance https://www.biblestudytools.com/topical-verses/bible-verses-about-guidance/ |
| What I meant is that they all of a sudden see themselves very positively as if now that they belong to God, God can wipe away their sins and they are now somewhat godlike in behavior. But they haven't really done the work to change habits, so they succumb to bad habits easily. It's not a disciplined way of life for them at least during the time they are born again. |
Born again believe you go to heaven if you " accept Jesus as your savior." so yes no need to change behavior. It's popular with drug addicts and alcoholics. Catholicism requires you to repent and change to go to heaven. |
| Back to sports, it is fine if there is a group that wants to meet before to pray. It's another thing when you have a team prayer. |
Assuming there's a heaven and the above is correct, sounds like born-agains and Catholics both can't be right. |
| It's more complicated than that but the gist is that yes God is the only one that saves us and we can't save ourselves but he wants us to be like him so there is a process to get there either on earth or to be with him in heaven. Some Christian religions focus on the process more than others. |
So Catholics and born-agains can both be right about what it takes to get into heaven? If so, is seems like the born-again method is a lot faster and easier. You're saved and that's it. Meanwhile, Catholics have to keep following the rules to assure their place in heaven. Maybe this means that more people switch from being Catholic to born-again, than the reverse. |