PreK teacher recommending redshirting my son

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to know why kindergarten seems so rigorous now when it didn't before, here it is.

UMC white people redshirt their perfectly normal and average kids, which skews the norms and expectations.

So now you have old ass kids in kindergarten-and they are usually all white and affluent. Minorities and BIPOC don't do this, usually because they can't afford another year of preschool.

So, who gets the short end of the stick again? You guessed it. If everyone just sent their kids to school on time, school would be more developmentally appropriate.

As it is, there are 13 year olds in my 6th graders class. My child is 11. Let my kid tell it, the 13 year olds are the smartest. My 8 year old was telling me about a boy turning 10 in her class in March-shes in 3rd grade. They aren't smart they are just OLD.

You have it backwards. The standards changed and people reacted. But nice try blaming the awful white people. And this is generally a private school problem. Sounds like you go to a school that encourages this. Why do you stay?

You don't get out much if you think this is a private school problem.

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Anonymous wrote:If you want to know why kindergarten seems so rigorous now when it didn't before, here it is.

UMC white people redshirt their perfectly normal and average kids, which skews the norms and expectations.

So now you have old ass kids in kindergarten-and they are usually all white and affluent. Minorities and BIPOC don't do this, usually because they can't afford another year of preschool.

So, who gets the short end of the stick again? You guessed it. If everyone just sent their kids to school on time, school would be more developmentally appropriate.

As it is, there are 13 year olds in my 6th graders class. My child is 11. Let my kid tell it, the 13 year olds are the smartest. My 8 year old was telling me about a boy turning 10 in her class in March-shes in 3rd grade. They aren't smart they are just OLD.

You have it backwards. The standards changed and people reacted. But nice try blaming the awful white people. And this is generally a private school problem. Sounds like you go to a school that encourages this. Why do you stay?

You don't get out much if you think this is a private school problem.

Nor do you if you don’t think emphasis on testing brought this on. You’re incredibly uninformed.

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Anonymous wrote:Well since everyone has said go ahead and send, I will take the other side as I would definitely consider holding a small/quiet May boy. I have friends who did. If you don’t want to of course no need, but my nephew is one and has always struggled to keep up all the way through. Some kids just take longer. I held my late august Dd girl and she’s nowhere close to the oldest at her private school. So don’t do it if you don’t want but it’s not a crazy idea.

To be fair, you may not be privy to the exact reasons a person held back their kid. They might be telling you it’s because he is small or quiet, when really the teacher gave more detailed information about the child’s behaviorin the classroom or delays for example.

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As it is, there are 13 year olds in my 6th graders class. My child is 11. Let my kid tell it, the 13 year olds are the smartest. My 8 year old was telling me about a boy turning 10 in her class in March-shes in 3rd grade. They aren't smart they are just OLD.

What?!

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Anonymous wrote:I followed the preschool teacher’s advice to redshirt my July birthday son. He is now almost 14 and I have been so glad I followed her advice. He is a thriving, social, straight A student and athlete.

That being said, I would not redshirt in your case. Your teacher has not, unlike our teacher, indicated any issues with your child regarding his ability to keep up with the academics or follow guidelines/standards in a classroom environment.

I think you should follow your gut and send your child on time.

Of course he is. He's behind in school.

It was a great decision! No regrets.

Still wouldn’t make it in OP’s case.

LOL. Imagine stunting your child on purpose.

Results speak for themselves. I’d make the same decision again.

Who brags about their standards? LOL.

*low standards

Your attempts to upset me over my decision are hilarious.

Oh, honey. You can't upset people who are determine to fail. I just want to make sure others realize what you're doing to your child. But that's ok! McDonald's will need employees until the robots take over.

What is she doing to her child? Whatever point you think you're making isn't coming through with your unhinged rants.

She's holding her child back. Literally.

And? So what? If you have any evidence that this is some huge tragedy, let us know.

Hey, his life you're destroying.

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Anonymous wrote:It is a church affiliated preschool. They tend to lean towards holding summer unless the kid is obviously advanced or bigger.

She also said he wouldn’t be able to handle the extended day option which is a full day (an hour shorter than elementary school) and he’s doing well in it with the longer time. We just started in the spring.

So, simple solution. Switch him to a 9-3 preschool now so he gets used to it. He'll do great. He's right on target, not behind.

Yes, his school now is this time and he’s doing well.

So why even post?

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Anonymous wrote:I followed the preschool teacher’s advice to redshirt my July birthday son. He is now almost 14 and I have been so glad I followed her advice. He is a thriving, social, straight A student and athlete.

That being said, I would not redshirt in your case. Your teacher has not, unlike our teacher, indicated any issues with your child regarding his ability to keep up with the academics or follow guidelines/standards in a classroom environment.

I think you should follow your gut and send your child on time.

Of course he is. He's behind in school.

It was a great decision! No regrets.

Still wouldn’t make it in OP’s case.

LOL. Imagine stunting your child on purpose.

Results speak for themselves. I’d make the same decision again.

Who brags about their standards? LOL.

*low standards

Your attempts to upset me over my decision are hilarious.

Oh, honey. You can't upset people who are determine to fail. I just want to make sure others realize what you're doing to your child. But that's ok! McDonald's will need employees until the robots take over.

What is she doing to her child? Whatever point you think you're making isn't coming through with your unhinged rants.

She's holding her child back. Literally.

And? So what? If you have any evidence that this is some huge tragedy, let us know.

Hey, his life you're destroying.

Oh the drama! Destroyed!? He will be fine and you know it.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. If she holds him back so he is 6 turning 7 in kindergarten then he is still technically going to be a 7 year old in kindergarten. My DS is in kindergarten now and is 5. He turns 6 just before he goes to first grade. Her son would be 7 finishing K when most kids are 5 finishing K. I too would be wary of what comes later. Having a 19 year old still attending high school is prob going to be an issue

Actually most kids are 6 finishing K. The only kids still 5 are those with late June-Aug birthdays, which is not most.

I really don't see why turning 19 right before high school graduation would "prob be an issue." Why? Tons of kids live at home and attend local college after high school. Having a senior turn 18 or 19 is no difference.

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I actually think having a child go off to college at 19 is a benefit not a negative.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually think having a child go off to college at 19 is a benefit not a negative.

Agree. Thinking back, most of the kids I remember being 17 at the start of college took 5 years to graduate anyhow. They didn’t fail out or anything, but rather started college without a clear purpose/track then changed majors along the way.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually think having a child go off to college at 19 is a benefit not a negative.

It's gross to have an adult man in high school with 13 year olds.

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With all the army recruiters roaming the high school - no thank you. I'd rather he be 17

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Anonymous wrote:With all the army recruiters roaming the high school - no thank you. I'd rather he be 17

Army and Marines are the easiest branches to get into which is why they target the less smart 19 year olds.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually think having a child go off to college at 19 is a benefit not a negative.

It's gross to have an adult man in high school with 13 year olds.

High school is a range of 13-19+. This is where it is the biggest issue given classes are mixed like math. My MS is taking a HS class and many kids are much much older.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually think having a child go off to college at 19 is a benefit not a negative.

It's gross to have an adult man in high school with 13 year olds.

There will always be some adult men in high school even without redshirting - not everyone stays 17 senior year.