Who pays for wedding discussion
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Anonymous
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OP nowadays anything goes.
Please be upfront with them on what you are will to pay for. People go crazy for these things when they have no money and honestly it's absurd. Marriages can last a lifetime one day is not going to change that outcome. I am happy to attend my friends' kids black tie over-the-top weddings and celebrate. My kids know even though finances say this is a drop in the bucket for us, nope never in my world. That is just me. Everyone should do them. |
Anonymous
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We married 20 years ago and split things up the primarily the traditional way. Though rehearsal dinner did include all out of town guests, and most were out of town so it was a big ordeal and was nearly as expensive as the wedding reception my parents paid for. DH paid for band, limo and honeymoon. I paid for flowers and photography/ video. We split a morning after brunch. DH parents also gave a small down payment on a TH.
We have boys and girls and save the same amount for all. They know they have this savings account and they can decide what to use it for. |
Anonymous
In certain moneyed circles. Or in circles that would like to give the appearance of having more than they do. Usually when the brides are heading for SAHM status or are very young, in my observation. |
Anonymous
He totally should! My parents gave each of us 3 siblings checks for the same amount when the first got engaged. To be used for a wedding, down-payment, whatever. They didn't want us to ever fight about money or think we were not being treated equally. |
Anonymous
Only to people like you. I would love to give my child the gift of covering a wedding at any age, if I could afford it. And, really, I don't care what you think about that. |
Anonymous
OMG--yes! Indian weddings are often over the top (I'm part of an Indian American family). Most are done to showcase for friends and family, with definition of friends being "anyone you have every met or worked with" I'm thankful that I don't think my kids will want anything like that when they get married. I've been to so many with 500-700+ in attendance, where the bride/groom don't even know half the people. |
Anonymous
Those days are over. |
Anonymous
DP here. I don't think so. If you can't afford a wedding, you can't afford to be married. |
Anonymous
+1. Why should the bride’s parents pay for an event that both the bride and groom partake in equally? And why are parents cagey about how much they can contribute? |
Anonymous
| If the brides parents paying was a tradition from dowry’s, then what did the grooms family give? A house? Why did it evolve to the grooms family giving basically nothing and brides family paying $$$? |
Anonymous
Dumb comment. Like saying if you can’t afford a down payment on a home you can’t afford to be married. |
Anonymous
This is antiquated. Don't follow this. |
Anonymous
Depends on the parents' net worth, income, etc. If you, the bride's parents, have $10m+ net worth, the couple may expect it. We paid for our wedding and my parents gave us $10,000 as a wedding gift, and they told me this is what they were doing before I planned the wedding (I don't think my parents have a $10m + networth, but they are doing well enough that this gift was probably not a sacrifice). |
Anonymous
Is accurate to say if cannot afford to pay rent, phone bill and utilities then cannot afford to be married. |
Anonymous
| ^ all those expenses are cheaper divided by 2 |