Brunch Granny! Please do an AMA.

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, PP, you are right—it does sound just like the Cecily Strong critic.

Why is one person absolutely obsessed with other women's fertility and the criticism thereof? What on earth could drive the irrational emotionality of it?

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Anonymous wrote:What does having an abortion have to do with it?

Abortions weaken the uterus. It is similar to the effect of a miscarriage.

This is a joke, right? Pls tell me it's a joke???!!!

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Anonymous wrote:I think the ticking biological clock thing is so overstated. I got accidentally pregnant from one time unprotected sex at 38. And I know sooooooo many other women that have similar stories from their late 30s and 40s. I only know two women who had fertiility issues—one had issues starting at age 25 because it turned out an ovulation problem she never knew about. The other didn’t start trying until late 30s—so very well may have had the same issues if she had started earlier.

Also, I’ve done a lot of geneological research reviewing census records from the 19th and early 20th century. A certain percentage of women were just infertile or had low birth rates regardless of the early marriages and lack of birth control. For women that were gererallt fertile, if they didn’t die or have catastrophic gyn problems from chldbirth, they were generally having kids into their 40s. Elizabeth cady Stanton had her last at 44 (feminism not having dried up her ovaries).

Basically every mother I know who gave birth after age 36 had complications; either with the pregnancy, delivery and/or the child is on the spectrum or has food allergies that could kill them. You folks live in delusional la la land if you think every woman can be on birth control for decades and booze through their 20s and early 30s, maybe even an abortion along the way, and then pop out healthy babies. Trust the science.

That’s bizarre and not supported by statistics whatsoever. Doubt it.

I had my third when I was months away from being 38- my first at 33.He was an oops baby. Vaginal delivery, no pain meds. He's the sweetest, smartest 3rd grader now.

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Anonymous wrote:It's shocking how many allegedly grown and college-educated parents don't comprehend what a mortality table is. Do you think you and your husband have a 100% chance of living to the age 78 average life expectancy? Or even 58 or 68? Do you think you both have a 100% of being of sound mind and body at 78? Or even 58 or 68?

Do you understand that we don't plan our childbearing around seeing our grandchildren being born and celebrating milestones? How weird to live through future generations instead of living your own life?

This is a cope. You didn’t plan anything if you had a child in your late 30s. You were desperately racing against the clock.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's shocking how many allegedly grown and college-educated parents don't comprehend what a mortality table is. Do you think you and your husband have a 100% chance of living to the age 78 average life expectancy? Or even 58 or 68? Do you think you both have a 100% of being of sound mind and body at 78? Or even 58 or 68?

Do you understand that we don't plan our childbearing around seeing our grandchildren being born and celebrating milestones? How weird to live through future generations instead of living your own life?

This is a cope. You didn’t plan anything if you had a child in your late 30s. You were desperately racing against the clock.

So what? You also were desperately racing to get your kids in by your personal timeline. Everyone makes different choices. Brunch Granny prioritized being a young granny, while others of us prioritized travel or education or building a financial future.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's shocking how many allegedly grown and college-educated parents don't comprehend what a mortality table is. Do you think you and your husband have a 100% chance of living to the age 78 average life expectancy? Or even 58 or 68? Do you think you both have a 100% of being of sound mind and body at 78? Or even 58 or 68?

Do you understand that we don't plan our childbearing around seeing our grandchildren being born and celebrating milestones? How weird to live through future generations instead of living your own life?

This is a cope. You didn’t plan anything if you had a child in your late 30s. You were desperately racing against the clock.

Attacking people like this isn't the move of a happy person who is satisfied and cool with their choices. Do some introspection as to why other people's uteri mean so much to you.

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Anonymous wrote:What does having an abortion have to do with it?

Abortions weaken the uterus. It is similar to the effect of a miscarriage.

This is a joke, right? Pls tell me it's a joke???!!!

DP. No, I am absolutely convinced there is someone posting who thinks an abortion or miscarriage is harder on the uterus than carrying to term and going through labor.

People aren't rational when driven by just ideology.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's shocking how many allegedly grown and college-educated parents don't comprehend what a mortality table is. Do you think you and your husband have a 100% chance of living to the age 78 average life expectancy? Or even 58 or 68? Do you think you both have a 100% of being of sound mind and body at 78? Or even 58 or 68?

Do you understand that we don't plan our childbearing around seeing our grandchildren being born and celebrating milestones? How weird to live through future generations instead of living your own life?

This is a cope. You didn’t plan anything if you had a child in your late 30s. You were desperately racing against the clock.

So what? You also were desperately racing to get your kids in by your personal timeline. Everyone makes different choices. Brunch Granny prioritized being a young granny, while others of us prioritized travel or education or building a financial future.

You need to figure out why you are so triggered and defensive

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's shocking how many allegedly grown and college-educated parents don't comprehend what a mortality table is. Do you think you and your husband have a 100% chance of living to the age 78 average life expectancy? Or even 58 or 68? Do you think you both have a 100% of being of sound mind and body at 78? Or even 58 or 68?

Do you understand that we don't plan our childbearing around seeing our grandchildren being born and celebrating milestones? How weird to live through future generations instead of living your own life?

This is a cope. You didn’t plan anything if you had a child in your late 30s. You were desperately racing against the clock.

So what? You also were desperately racing to get your kids in by your personal timeline. Everyone makes different choices. Brunch Granny prioritized being a young granny, while others of us prioritized travel or education or building a financial future.

You need to figure out why you are so triggered and defensive

DP. Good advice. You should take it yourself.

[Anonymous]

I had my first kid at 26 and the second at 29. I probably should have waited. I had a kid during the recession and couldn’t get a job and sort of became a SAHM my default. DH and I couldn’t start maxing out his 401K until we were maybe 32. Yay that I’ll have my kids out of the nest when I’m relatively young but my earning potential is shot and DH will have to retire later. Also my pregnancies were complicated so I didn’t even get that benefit.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does having an abortion have to do with it?

Abortions weaken the uterus. It is similar to the effect of a miscarriage.

This is a joke, right? Pls tell me it's a joke???!!!

DP. No, I am absolutely convinced there is someone posting who thinks an abortion or miscarriage is harder on the uterus than carrying to term and going through labor.

People aren't rational when driven by just ideology.

I?

Wow. That's terrifying that someone is so ignorant and, like you say, irrational.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's shocking how many allegedly grown and college-educated parents don't comprehend what a mortality table is. Do you think you and your husband have a 100% chance of living to the age 78 average life expectancy? Or even 58 or 68? Do you think you both have a 100% of being of sound mind and body at 78? Or even 58 or 68?

Do you understand that we don't plan our childbearing around seeing our grandchildren being born and celebrating milestones? How weird to live through future generations instead of living your own life?

This is a cope. You didn’t plan anything if you had a child in your late 30s. You were desperately racing against the clock.

I had my first child at 34, not in my late 30s.

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Anonymous wrote:You need to figure out why you are so triggered and defensive.

DMV is the capital of over-educated childless 30-somethings and quite literally the birthplace of ivf.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion:
anti brunch granny is not completely wrong.
Just sayin’.

New research says anti-brunch granny is quite astute: "Research shows that marrying young without ever having lived together with a partner makes for some of the lowest divorce rates." - WSJ

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Anonymous wrote:You need to figure out why you are so triggered and defensive.

DMV is the capital of over-educated childless 30-somethings and quite literally the birthplace of ivf.

Norfolk isn’t in the DC area.

And IVF didn’t start in the states.