Brunch Granny! Please do an AMA.

[Anonymous]

Could not have a child because you could not afford a babysitter... yet CAN afford avocado toast and almond milk lattes every morning, an insatiable thirst for Napa cabs, and to remain unmarried so both you and the boyfriend pay two rents, two sets of bills, and build no equity for years on end. Got it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could not have a child because you could not afford a babysitter... yet CAN afford avocado toast and almond milk lattes every morning, an insatiable thirst for Napa cabs, and to remain unmarried so both you and the boyfriend pay two rents, two sets of bills, and build no equity for years on end. Got it.

No Granny, we are shacking up together with our rescue grayhound. And no almond milk because almonds take too much water to grow. We make our own pourover coffee from ethically sourced beans after we've had our non-procreative romp on our Brooklinen sheets. Get it right.

[Anonymous]

I've gotten heated in arguments on here-- but over important issues, not what other people do with their lifestyle choices. Sheesh Granny you need to do some introspection as to why you are so worked up.

[Anonymous]

Guys, brunch granny is just trolling us. I don’t think it’s real. There’s no way some of these comments from her are real.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Could not have a child because you could not afford a babysitter... yet CAN afford avocado toast and almond milk lattes every morning, an insatiable thirst for Napa cabs, and to remain unmarried so both you and the boyfriend pay two rents, two sets of bills, and build no equity for years on end. Got it.

No Granny, we are shacking up together with our rescue grayhound. And no almond milk because almonds take too much water to grow. We make our own pourover coffee from ethically sourced beans after we've had our non-procreative romp on our Brooklinen sheets. Get it right.

And we are living in my TH while my SO rents out his condo. Our equity is smoking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had brunch a couple times in my late 20s (pre-kids). It was nice, I guess.

If brunch is an important part of your life, much is lacking.

This is true. After you give birth you realize how embarrassingly pointless and decadent you were living for so many years. Such a waste.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Dp- she also said that all the good men are snapped up at 25.
That’s why the brunching gals won’t ever find a good man. They waited too late.

More or less true.

Not even close.

[Anonymous]

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Savings from what? You had just started working. How did you pay for a house and daycare? Not much free daycare 20+ years ago.

The people who have the best real estate investments now started off buying when they were single and then upgrading and/or accumulating more properties along the way. They had money to invest in real estate early on because they weren't shelling out money for daycare, diapers, etc.

Variety of ways to have the 5 to 6% down in your early and mid 20s. Bat mitzvah money. Save the signing and annual bonus at your new career. Not wasting money eating out 20 times a week and shopping and taking trips so you can brag on instagram. Average starting salary for a college grad is now $55,000 -- upwards of $100,000 plus each if you're software engineers, finance, or consulting. And it's quite comment to get help from one or both sets of parents to cover the down payment on the house as a wedding gift. Parents love helping out college-educated young love birds. And grandparents want grandbabies as soon as possible, of course.

How much did you both make out of college - 25 years ago?

And that covered a mortgage and daycare for 3 kids? And grad school tuition?

She's a liar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:
Dp- she also said that all the good men are snapped up at 25.
That’s why the brunching gals won’t ever find a good man. They waited too late.

More or less true.

Not even close.

Many good men don't want "older" wives and have plenty of choices in a younger demographic as the men themselves age. Not fair, but a reality.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had brunch a couple times in my late 20s (pre-kids). It was nice, I guess.

If brunch is an important part of your life, much is lacking.

This is true. After you give birth you realize how embarrassingly pointless and decadent you were living for so many years. Such a waste.

Those were the best years of my life and I don't view them as a waste at all. Glad I at least have the memories and think of then often when I'm up at 3am with sick kids or what have you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had brunch a couple times in my late 20s (pre-kids). It was nice, I guess.

If brunch is an important part of your life, much is lacking.

This is true. After you give birth you realize how embarrassingly pointless and decadent you were living for so many years. Such a waste.

Really?
After I gave birth I thought, “ oh my god, I’ve ruined my life”
That is literally what I thought.
Sometimes I still think that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Dp- she also said that all the good men are snapped up at 25.
That’s why the brunching gals won’t ever find a good man. They waited too late.

More or less true.

Not even close.

Many good men don't want "older" wives and have plenty of choices in a younger demographic as the men themselves age. Not fair, but a reality.

In that case why tie yourself down with a spouse and a kid and no brunch when you're the young one, since the "good men" who don't want "older" wives are going to dump you once you're the older wife anyway?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had brunch a couple times in my late 20s (pre-kids). It was nice, I guess.

If brunch is an important part of your life, much is lacking.

This is true. After you give birth you realize how embarrassingly pointless and decadent you were living for so many years. Such a waste.

Those were the best years of my life and I don't view them as a waste at all. Glad I at least have the memories and think of then often when I'm up at 3am with sick kids or what have you.

+1

So much fun.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Dp- she also said that all the good men are snapped up at 25.
That’s why the brunching gals won’t ever find a good man. They waited too late.

More or less true.

Not even close.

Many good men don't want "older" wives and have plenty of choices in a younger demographic as the men themselves age. Not fair, but a reality.

In that case why tie yourself down with a spouse and a kid and no brunch when you're the young one, since the "good men" who don't want "older" wives are going to dump you once you're the older wife anyway?

+1

What "good man" wants to date a younger woman? Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Dp- she also said that all the good men are snapped up at 25.
That’s why the brunching gals won’t ever find a good man. They waited too late.

More or less true.

I tell all my single clients in their 40s and 50s that they have to wait fir the second round of a few good men whose wives died early. These were men who were committed to someone by 25 and married by 30. They would have stayed in the marriage forever without the death of theyr spouses. I know it is ghoulish but it is the way to get good men when mostly loser men are available.