Brunch Granny! Please do an AMA.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could not have a child because you could not afford a babysitter... yet CAN afford avocado toast and almond milk lattes every morning, an insatiable thirst for Napa cabs, and to remain unmarried so both you and the boyfriend pay two rents, two sets of bills, and build no equity for years on end. Got it.

Preach sister, preach! I wish people would listen to you instead of trying to emulate Carrie Bradshaw!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion:
anti brunch granny is not completely wrong.
Just sayin’

Well maybe men should grow up and make us want to get married and start popping out babies before we turn 30?

I didn’t say it was fair.
But she’s not wrong about biology.

So does that mean that Brunch Granny is PRO brunch for those of us in our 50s past child bearing years?

Do whatever you want after menopause. But being a layabout day drunk on weekends while you're still a gorgeous 20-something is a fool's errand.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion:
anti brunch granny is not completely wrong.
Just sayin’

Well maybe men should grow up and make us want to get married and start popping out babies before we turn 30?

I didn’t say it was fair.
But she’s not wrong about biology.

So does that mean that Brunch Granny is PRO brunch for those of us in our 50s past child bearing years?

Do whatever you want after menopause. But being a layabout day drunk on weekends while you're still a gorgeous 20-something is a fool's errand.

Are those my only options? a) layabout day drunk or b) move back to my hometown so I can marry directly after college so my parents can be young grandparents? It's so hard to decide.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's making me laugh are the rootless yuppies who eagerly move away from all of their family to spend their 20s and 30s in a big city. Boast about big city living, blow money and time on hip dinners and brunches, wanderlust traveling as if they're a perpetual college sophomore, and a posh apartment with all the accoutrements. But then whine they couldn't possibly have children when they're more than old enough to do so because they can't afford a baby sitter. Wait, I thought you moved away from family for a great big city career? But the career i.) doesn't provide free on-site child care and/or ii.) doesn't pay you enough to afford it? Sounds like you might as well have started a career closer to family, so they could help with childcare. But that was too boring, right. You wanted what Carrie Bradshaw had. Lean in, sweetie.

+ infinity

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion:
anti brunch granny is not completely wrong.
Just sayin’

Well maybe men should grow up and make us want to get married and start popping out babies before we turn 30?

I didn’t say it was fair.
But she’s not wrong about biology.

So does that mean that Brunch Granny is PRO brunch for those of us in our 50s past child bearing years?

Do whatever you want after menopause. But being a layabout day drunk on weekends while you're still a gorgeous 20-something is a fool's errand.

Are those my only options? a) layabout day drunk or b) move back to my hometown so I can marry directly after college so my parents can be young grandparents? It's so hard to decide.

I think the argument was originally in reference to not being able to afford child care. If you moved away from all of your family support system (ex. free childcare) and you're still too broke 5 and 10 years after college to afford kids and childcare, maybe it's time to admit you were bamboozled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion:
anti brunch granny is not completely wrong.
Just sayin’

Well maybe men should grow up and make us want to get married and start popping out babies before we turn 30?

I didn’t say it was fair.
But she’s not wrong about biology.

So does that mean that Brunch Granny is PRO brunch for those of us in our 50s past child bearing years?

Do whatever you want after menopause. But being a layabout day drunk on weekends while you're still a gorgeous 20-something is a fool's errand.

Are those my only options? a) layabout day drunk or b) move back to my hometown so I can marry directly after college so my parents can be young grandparents? It's so hard to decide.

I think the argument was originally in reference to not being able to afford child care. If you moved away from all of your family support system (ex. free childcare) and you're still too broke 5 and 10 years after college to afford kids and childcare, maybe it's time to admit you were bamboozled.

Why are you presuming that everyone's family is ready to do free child care for you? If you're in your 20s when you have kids, and your parents were also in their 20s when they had kids, that means they're in their 40s now - do you think most 40-somethings are in a position to retire so they can give free babysitting to their grandkids?

You live in a bizarre fantasy world, and frankly one that sounds a lot less fun than SATC ever was.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion:
anti brunch granny is not completely wrong.
Just sayin’

Well maybe men should grow up and make us want to get married and start popping out babies before we turn 30?

I didn’t say it was fair.
But she’s not wrong about biology.

So does that mean that Brunch Granny is PRO brunch for those of us in our 50s past child bearing years?

Do whatever you want after menopause. But being a layabout day drunk on weekends while you're still a gorgeous 20-something is a fool's errand.

Are those my only options? a) layabout day drunk or b) move back to my hometown so I can marry directly after college so my parents can be young grandparents? It's so hard to decide.

Omg. I can’t even imagine moving back to my hometown. I’d choose to never have kids if that was my only option for having kids.

[Anonymous]

I don't think it's really about what you decide now, since the most hostile comments are likely from 30- and 40-somethings closing in on the end of fertility. It's more about your posture moving forward. Instead of admitting your were bamboozled, made mistakes and squandered years of your life, you double down and encourage other young women to follow in your lonely, regretful, and unfulfilled rootless footsteps, as if you seek to create more victims to join you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's really about what you decide now, since the most hostile comments are likely from 30- and 40-somethings closing in on the end of fertility. It's more about your posture moving forward. Instead of admitting your were bamboozled, made mistakes and squandered years of your life, you double down and encourage other young women to follow in your lonely, regretful, and unfulfilled rootless footsteps, as if you seek to create more victims to join you.

Are those the most hostile comments? Really?

[Anonymous]

We need to start a support group

Brunch victims anonymous

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion:
anti brunch granny is not completely wrong.
Just sayin’

Well maybe men should grow up and make us want to get married and start popping out babies before we turn 30?

I didn’t say it was fair.
But she’s not wrong about biology.

So does that mean that Brunch Granny is PRO brunch for those of us in our 50s past child bearing years?

Do whatever you want after menopause. But being a layabout day drunk on weekends while you're still a gorgeous 20-something is a fool's errand.

Are those my only options? a) layabout day drunk or b) move back to my hometown so I can marry directly after college so my parents can be young grandparents? It's so hard to decide.

Omg. I can’t even imagine moving back to my hometown. I’d choose to never have kids if that was my only option for having kids.

Ha +1

Sometimes I feel bummed about how my life has turned out, and then I remember that I got out of my sad, depressing hometown, and then I feel great. Things could be so much worse!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion:
anti brunch granny is not completely wrong.
Just sayin’

Well maybe men should grow up and make us want to get married and start popping out babies before we turn 30?

I didn’t say it was fair.
But she’s not wrong about biology.

So does that mean that Brunch Granny is PRO brunch for those of us in our 50s past child bearing years?

Do whatever you want after menopause. But being a layabout day drunk on weekends while you're still a gorgeous 20-something is a fool's errand.

Are those my only options? a) layabout day drunk or b) move back to my hometown so I can marry directly after college so my parents can be young grandparents? It's so hard to decide.

Omg. I can’t even imagine moving back to my hometown. I’d choose to never have kids if that was my only option for having kids.

Ha +1

Sometimes I feel bummed about how my life has turned out, and then I remember that I got out of my sad, depressing hometown, and then I feel great. Things could be so much worse!

Yup. I’m pretty happy to have autonomy to make my own choices.

And I’m not just another breeder with no aspirations in my hometown.

[Anonymous]

Brunch granny's premise is just be born into an UMC two-parent household and marry young into another UMC two-parent household, so your parents and in-laws will give you a $50,000 cash wedding gift to use as a down payment on a house. In addition to paying for all of the rings, wedding and honeymoon, of course. And of course you have no student loan debt because, again, you and your husband were privileged UMC college students. And go ahead and take a step back in your career because you have inheritance windfalls to look forward to. This is basically advice for those lucky enough to be born into the top 5%.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think it's really about what you decide now, since the most hostile comments are likely from 30- and 40-somethings closing in on the end of fertility. It's more about your posture moving forward. Instead of admitting your were bamboozled, made mistakes and squandered years of your life, you double down and encourage other young women to follow in your lonely, regretful, and unfulfilled rootless footsteps, as if you seek to create more victims to join you.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Unpopular opinion:
anti brunch granny is not completely wrong.
Just sayin’

Well maybe men should grow up and make us want to get married and start popping out babies before we turn 30?

I didn’t say it was fair.
But she’s not wrong about biology.

So does that mean that Brunch Granny is PRO brunch for those of us in our 50s past child bearing years?

Do whatever you want after menopause. But being a layabout day drunk on weekends while you're still a gorgeous 20-something is a fool's errand.

Are those my only options? a) layabout day drunk or b) move back to my hometown so I can marry directly after college so my parents can be young grandparents? It's so hard to decide.

I think the argument was originally in reference to not being able to afford child care. If you moved away from all of your family support system (ex. free childcare) and you're still too broke 5 and 10 years after college to afford kids and childcare, maybe it's time to admit you were bamboozled.

Why are you presuming that everyone's family is ready to do free child care for you? If you're in your 20s when you have kids, and your parents were also in their 20s when they had kids, that means they're in their 40s now - do you think most 40-somethings are in a position to retire so they can give free babysitting to their grandkids?

You live in a bizarre fantasy world, and frankly one that sounds a lot less fun than SATC ever was.

Yea, this makes no sense. 45 year old grandparents can’t both quit their jobs to provide free childcare, AND make enough money to give their kids a big fat down payment for a house. And if grandma was a SAHM, that’s even less money.

This basically only works for women who managed to figure out which guy among all the 19/20 year old guys would strike it rich, we’re able to lock him down, and then stopped working permanently once their first kid came along. That’s just not gonna happen for 99.9% of women.

If Granny were smart, instead she’d be renting about how men were sold a lie that they could waste their 20s playing video games and sleeping around before somehow magically landing a dream job. If more high quality men were available at 22, women would be more likely to marry young.