Bisexual men married to a woman

[Anonymous]

Are you satisfied in your marriage? Does your wife know you are bi?

[Anonymous]

Sometimes and hhhheeelllll no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes and hhhheeelllll no.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Sometimes and yes. No further comment.

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend found out that I have been with a couple guys in the past. I thought she would freak out and leave, but she didn't. She said it doesn't bother her in the least. Asked if I'm gay, which I'm not. Told me that as long as we are faithful to each other that is all that matters. Didn't make me feel like a freak or anything. She's pretty awesome.

[Anonymous]

We have been together for decades so she is my life partner and yes she knows. We are both basically pansexual and discuss that fact openly. We are also monogamous.

[Anonymous]

I wish we had good data on bi men because many of us are still in the closet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you satisfied in your marriage? Does your wife know you are bi?

To borrow from Hillary Clinton “what difference—at this point—does it make?!?!”

DH chose a team. Got married and is no monogamous.

Heterosexual men don’t just turn off attraction to all other women when they get married, but that doesn’t mean they need to have lengthy conversations with their wives about how they are attracted to other women. Because it’s irrelevant.
Same is true if you are bi.
Doesn’t matter.
You’re now voluntarily in the “look but don’t touch” club (and btw, you don’t need to be obvious about the looking part!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish we had good data on bi men because many of us are still in the closet.

I agree with PP that it’s just fine to stay closeted once you e chosen to commit to someone.

[Anonymous]

My husband’s bisexuality is the reason I married him. I find it incredibly attractive.

[Anonymous]

I think my girlfriend is secretly turned on that I've fooled around with guys a couple times. (before we met)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish we had good data on bi men because many of us are still in the closet.

I agree with PP that it’s just fine to stay closeted once you e chosen to commit to someone.

Who teaches this? It was totally not fine. Eventually this type of person cheats but they've convinced themselves that the spouse doesn't need to know because now it's been too long. Sexuality is the basis of romantic relationships. Be honest people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish we had good data on bi men because many of us are still in the closet.

I agree with PP that it’s just fine to stay closeted once you e chosen to commit to someone.

Who teaches this? It was totally not fine. Eventually this type of person cheats but they've convinced themselves that the spouse doesn't need to know because now it's been too long. Sexuality is the basis of romantic relationships. Be honest people.

Most bisexual people are in monogamous relationships. To paint a picture that all bisexual people will eventually cheat is classic biphobia. Most bi people never cheat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish we had good data on bi men because many of us are still in the closet.

I agree with PP that it’s just fine to stay closeted once you e chosen to commit to someone.

Who teaches this? It was totally not fine. Eventually this type of person cheats but they've convinced themselves that the spouse doesn't need to know because now it's been too long. Sexuality is the basis of romantic relationships. Be honest people.

Most bisexual people are in monogamous relationships. To paint a picture that all bisexual people will eventually cheat is classic biphobia. Most bi people never cheat.

I'm responding to someone who says they are closeted and haven't told their spouse. So obviously they feel the need to keep this part of them hidden. You think that type of person can repress their sexuality well? I do not. Not to mention that person is giving themselves leeway to be dishonest to their partner already in a very important aspect of their relationship. I take issue with how no one has addressed this and some offhand comment about bisexual people not cheating is not terribly convincing without any actual data and understanding of what people cheat and what people don't in this group.

Why not respond to the person who says they are closeted? I never see anyone on here have a problem with closeted people when in fact it is extremely unhealthy and dishonest behavior to everyone involved. Lets see you respond with more passion to the closeted people here doing real damage, emotionally, physically, and financially both to LGBTQ and straight spouses before worrying about some article on statistics that likely is extremely off. Bisexual people are not at all on the lower end of groups of people that cheat and closeted people are definitely on the high end of groups of people that cheat.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wish we had good data on bi men because many of us are still in the closet.

I agree with PP that it’s just fine to stay closeted once you e chosen to commit to someone.

Who teaches this? It was totally not fine. Eventually this type of person cheats but they've convinced themselves that the spouse doesn't need to know because now it's been too long. Sexuality is the basis of romantic relationships. Be honest people.

Most bisexual people are in monogamous relationships. To paint a picture that all bisexual people will eventually cheat is classic biphobia. Most bi people never cheat.

I'm responding to someone who says they are closeted and haven't told their spouse. So obviously they feel the need to keep this part of them hidden. You think that type of person can repress their sexuality well? I do not. Not to mention that person is giving themselves leeway to be dishonest to their partner already in a very important aspect of their relationship. I take issue with how no one has addressed this and some offhand comment about bisexual people not cheating is not terribly convincing without any actual data and understanding of what people cheat and what people don't in this group.

Why not respond to the person who says they are closeted? I never see anyone on here have a problem with closeted people when in fact it is extremely unhealthy and dishonest behavior to everyone involved. Lets see you respond with more passion to the closeted people here doing real damage, emotionally, physically, and financially both to LGBTQ and straight spouses before worrying about some article on statistics that likely is extremely off. Bisexual people are not at all on the lower end of groups of people that cheat and closeted people are definitely on the high end of groups of people that cheat.

Being closeted is a hard way to live. If you’re out to yourself and you haven’t told your partner then that is absolutely dishonest and wrong. That being said, I don’t know his circumstances and neither do you. You don’t get to judge someone that’s living closeted. Usually they don’t feel safe to come out or they would have. Straight people should make it safe for every queer person to be out.