Bisexual men married to a woman

[Anonymous]

Prove it

[Anonymous]

I think my XH was bi. I mean he kind of said he believes everyone was bi on some level. He wanted to open up the marriage to threesomes (him, me and another man) and described wanting to be penetrated by other men. When we did open it up I hooked up with an ex and XH flipped out from jealousy. The thing is, he was always emotionally abusive to me over the years.

I don't blame this on being bi unless he was closeted and that's why he hated me?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend found out that I have been with a couple guys in the past. I thought she would freak out and leave, but she didn't. She said it doesn't bother her in the least. Asked if I'm gay, which I'm not. Told me that as long as we are faithful to each other that is all that matters. Didn't make me feel like a freak or anything. She's pretty awesome.

I think she's normal. What matters is that a couple is loyal to each other. Who the heck cares what tendencies they have? I wouldn't be bothered in the least if my husband was attracted to men as well, as long as he was attracted to me and was caring and affectionate.

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Anonymous wrote:My girlfriend found out that I have been with a couple guys in the past. I thought she would freak out and leave, but she didn't. She said it doesn't bother her in the least. Asked if I'm gay, which I'm not. Told me that as long as we are faithful to each other that is all that matters. Didn't make me feel like a freak or anything. She's pretty awesome.

I think she's normal. What matters is that a couple is loyal to each other. Who the heck cares what tendencies they have? I wouldn't be bothered in the least if my husband was attracted to men as well, as long as he was attracted to me and was caring and affectionate.

+1

[Anonymous]

Yes and yes. Hard to imagine being satisfied without my wife knowing such a significant detail about me. No real desire to have sex outside of our relationship, but the real issues is finding ways to feel a connection to that part of myself being in a committed straight relationship.

Also, queer spaces have become sort of overrun as the LGBTQ tent has gotten bigger (which I think is a good thing, overall!), but it's hard to not feel like an intruder when you are not visibly queer. Maybe I am overthinking it?

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Anonymous wrote:Yes and yes. Hard to imagine being satisfied without my wife knowing such a significant detail about me. No real desire to have sex outside of our relationship, but the real issues is finding ways to feel a connection to that part of myself being in a committed straight relationship.

Also, queer spaces have become sort of overrun as the LGBTQ tent has gotten bigger (which I think is a good thing, overall!), but it's hard to not feel like an intruder when you are not visibly queer. Maybe I am overthinking it?

Have you thought about wearing bi colors? If I saw a man wearing those colors I would definitely say hi.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish we had good data on bi men because many of us are still in the closet.

I agree with PP that it’s just fine to stay closeted once you e chosen to commit to someone.

Who teaches this? It was totally not fine. Eventually this type of person cheats but they've convinced themselves that the spouse doesn't need to know because now it's been too long. Sexuality is the basis of romantic relationships. Be honest people.

People who keep double lives secret from their partners are the worst people. Not to mention the diseases out there, which they have no right to risk their partner's health. I had a friend of two years, and recently found out he was hooking up with others during his 20 year relationship with his gf. I told him exactly how horrible he is, and now that he is single he is hooking up with everything out there. Found out he is addicted to porn, and apparently a dysfunctional life style. Which explains his many broken relationships over the years. I too dumped him.

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Anonymous wrote:Bi-men married to women are cheaters if they haven’t told them they are bi. There reason they hide it is so they can cheat with other men.

It's certainly a BIG lie. Kind of like omitting a divorce or two. Not sure I agree about the cheating, but maybe it's an attraction they don't plan to pursue. It's still a behavior choice. For example, I may be attracted to others, but it doesn't mean I would act on it if I'm in a marriage. Or maybe they were Bi in their single days. Again don't assume they will absolutely cheat.

[Anonymous]

Hey yall, I just recently informed my wife of 42 years I’m bisexual, wow, she took it quite well. She is my life but I would like to experience what I feel after all these years. What do yall say…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey yall, I just recently informed my wife of 42 years I’m bisexual, wow, she took it quite well. She is my life but I would like to experience what I feel after all these years. What do yall say…

Is she ok with it? Dead bedroom? I’d personally divorce you so you could live your life fully. I have 3 or 4 friends whose dad’s came out in their late 50s/60s.

[Anonymous]

Thanks for the reply, yes she is cool with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hey yall, I just recently informed my wife of 42 years I’m bisexual, wow, she took it quite well. She is my life but I would like to experience what I feel after all these years. What do yall say…

If she is fine with it and you aren’t sexually actively and putting her life at risk - sure. You assume the risk - don’t expose her.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey yall, I just recently informed my wife of 42 years I’m bisexual, wow, she took it quite well. She is my life but I would like to experience what I feel after all these years. What do yall say…

If she is fine with it and you aren’t sexually actively and putting her life at risk - sure. You assume the risk - don’t expose her.

He's putting her life more at risk by driving her to the grocery store more than he's putting her life at risk having protected sex with a disease free male partner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey yall, I just recently informed my wife of 42 years I’m bisexual, wow, she took it quite well. She is my life but I would like to experience what I feel after all these years. What do yall say…

If she is fine with it and you aren’t sexually actively and putting her life at risk - sure. You assume the risk - don’t expose her.

He's putting her life more at risk by driving her to the grocery store more than he's putting her life at risk having protected sex with a disease free male partner.

Big assumption there “disease free male partner”. My DH was SURE this was the case until it wasn’t.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hey yall, I just recently informed my wife of 42 years I’m bisexual, wow, she took it quite well. She is my life but I would like to experience what I feel after all these years. What do yall say…

Is she ok with it? Dead bedroom? I’d personally divorce you so you could live your life fully. I have 3 or 4 friends whose dad’s came out in their late 50s/60s.

Thats just it, me and my wife have a great sex life at our ages, she knows I want to experience what I did back in my teenage days.