I don't understand people who do not love their family

[Anonymous]

Your mother and father raise you with so much love and care, putting their own lives hopes and dreams on hold to stay up with you all night, wiping your poop, paying for your clothes, watching loving you just as you are. Your siblings are people you were automatic best friends, and companions in this wild ride through life. You grew up together!

And then people grow up and want to move away from their parents and aren't close to their siblings...How?

How can any one else in the world replace this kind of love??

[Anonymous]

Is this satire?

[Anonymous]

My grandmother neglected my mother, told her she did not love her, and that she wanted a boy and not her, and slapped her around any chance she got, then as soon as she was old enough, sent her to convent school to be educated (abused) by nuns. Then at 16, my mother was taken out of school, because her parents wanted to marry her off, but my mother left instead, to work without a diploma and try and fend for herself. Her parents never gave her a penny.

The funny thing is that when my grandmother lost all her money in her old age, she sued her own kids for money. Some tried to help. My mother did help for falls and other emergencies (I remember going with her). But she did her best to avoid seeing her mother, most of the time.

So what was it you were saying, OP?

[Anonymous]

My sibling was in no way my automatic best friend. Not even close.
Now my parents I love very much.

[Anonymous]

Are you really this obtuse? Some people's parents did not raise them with love and care. They may have raised them with violence and other abuse, or total indifference. It screws you up a lot and requires an enormous amount of work in adulthood to make yourself halfway functional as a person when you don't get the unconditional love you're talking about as a child. I have been in therapy for 20 years and have had to lear to give myself the love I never got at home as a child, and it is HARD work because I started out feeling like a worthless, broken human being since that's how my parents treated me.

Seriously, you're either a troll or unbelievably sheltered. Read a book or something! Many people do not have the good fortune of loving, caring families of origin. People talk about it constantly, I don't know how you missed dit.

[Anonymous]

Worse are people who live with their spouse and kids and are so cold to them.

[Anonymous]

OP - your experience isn't everyone's experience.

[Anonymous]

OP. Consider yourself fortunate. I would give anything to have loving parents and now loving grandparents for my kids.
Some of us got ripped off.

[Anonymous]

It's Smug Grandma again.

[Anonymous]

I agree OP. As an immigrant, it’s shocking to me how many Americans seem to hate their families.

[Anonymous]

If I were you, I wouldn't confess to such ignorance, OP. You and 19:20 act all holier-than-thou, but really all you're showing is emotional immaturity, and perhaps a double-digit IQ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your mother and father raise you with so much love and care, putting their own lives hopes and dreams on hold to stay up with you all night, wiping your poop, paying for your clothes, watching loving you just as you are. Your siblings are people you were automatic best friends, and companions in this wild ride through life. You grew up together!

And then people grow up and want to move away from their parents and aren't close to their siblings...How?

How can any one else in the world replace this kind of love??

Not all wealth is money, OP. In the "loving family" category, some of us grew up flat broke.

[Anonymous]

My mom is an abusive alcoholic and my brother molested me. Must be nice to live in your perfect world, op.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree OP. As an immigrant, it’s shocking to me how many Americans seem to hate their families.

There are cultural norms about supporting families, helping parents with young kids, "it takes a village"-style community structures, and other forms of social support in other cultures that the US doesn't have and it shows.

It's not a child's job to unfsck that. You're not required to love people who abused you just because someone else's better-structured culture says family is important.

Healthy family relationships are a two-way street, at least. And honestly? That's not enough for families with kids. It takes a community effort to raise a child, and the US went the way of stand-alone "every man for himself" culture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
It's Smug Grandma again.

It’s totally the one who hosts Thanksgiving and Christmas at her second home with all 1864524 of her kids and their spouses and grandkids.