Sister in law told my elderly mother this is the last Christmas she’ll see their family
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Anonymous
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Was this out of line?
SIL told my mother this is the last Christmas or Christmas Eve (or even Christmas Eve Eve) she’ll see them and their two kids as they’re planning family vacations next year and moving forward. This is a thing at the private school their kids go to, so they are dropping out of participating in Christmas with our family; a tradition going back 20 plus years of all of us getting together for Christmas Eve or Christmas Eve Eve. Brother and SIL live near my mother, so no travel involved. My mom was so sad. Can’t help but think how many more Christmases does she have left. They can’t go on their vacation a day or two later? |
Anonymous
| Why is it a huge deal if they visit with your mother on a day that is not exactly Dec 24-25? |
Anonymous
| Not out of line, she made other plans big deal. |
Anonymous
| Good for your SIL. They want to make some immediate family memories as her kids get older. Why does it have to be the same thing every year. I kept thinking the same thing yesterday but am not gutsy enough to say it. I want an immediate family only vacation next year. |
Anonymous
| They live nearby and she'll see them at other times, no? Then what's the big deal? |
Anonymous
| What a terrible lesson to teach her children. Keeping up with the joneses and materialism and bragging rights is more important than family. |
Anonymous
| Christmas can be celebrated slightly earlier or later. |
Anonymous
| From your dramatic title I thought your family had some big blowout fight, and they were cutting ties forever. But they just want to start going on vacation at Christmas? Good lord, OP. They are not beholden to your 20 year tradition. They want to start a new tradition with their family. It's not that serious. |
Anonymous
| Your brother and SIL have every right to make other plans and should not be expected on the 24th or 25th (or any specific day) each year. It would be nice to celebrate Christmas together another day- many extended families do! I’d go that route. Invite your mom to your house for Christmas. |
Anonymous
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Nice that you mentioned the private school.
You should blame your brother and not SIL if it bothers you. No wonder they want to do something else. |
Anonymous
| Don’t blame SIL for a decision she made with your brother. |
Anonymous
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Than maybe you should embrace Hinduism and celebrate Diwali. That way, you are done with the BIG FAMILY FESTIVAL in Oct-Nov. Problem solved.
Or, you can make THANKSGIVING the big family festival. Or 4th of July. Or any other day but Christmas. |
Anonymous
+1 Why didn't he tell your mom? |
Anonymous
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Agree with the others.
Am curious- How does SIL’s extended family factor in here? Do they not see them over Christmas? They come to your side’s celebrations every single year? Honestly you are lucky the tradition has lasted as long as it has |
Anonymous
+2 yes blaming the SIL as usual…where is your brother in this OP?! |