What would you have said?
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Anonymous
| Sister in law reprimanded by child aged 8 for not using “aunt” before the name of her aunt, calling her Susie vs. aunt Susi. Said it was disrespectful. I was honestly stunned a bit and didn’t even think of anything to say, I am not us born and never really thought my kids that they have to say aunt or uncle. My mother in law stepped in and said a couple things to diffuse the conversation but my sister in law kept at it, then got up and said she had to run an errand. Btw the aunt in question wasn’t in the room. The more I think of this the more I feel like it was rude and out of place for her to say this about my child, shouldn’t she be minding her own business and keep her unsolicited advice to herself? What do you think?? Thanks!! |
Anonymous
| My child or by child? |
Anonymous
| You're okay with your 8 year old addressing an adult two generations older than them by their first name? It's rude (IMO), and SIL likely addressed it since you were not. |
Anonymous
| welcome to the American south. A child does not address an adult on a first name basis. I have southern roots and that’s just the way it is. |
Anonymous
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"You already made your point, Larla. Susie is fine with being called Susie, so I do not think my daughter did anything wrong." Even if Aunt X was the commonly expected title in your family, OP, ultimately the adult is in the wrong for berating a child. The child can be excused for an innocent mistake, but the adult cannot be excuse for venting their spleen on a child. The adult is held to higher expectations when it comes to controlling what comes out of their mouth. SIL could just have said nicely: "Larlette, in this family, don't forget to use the word Aunt in front of your aunts' names. It's more respectful. Thank you." |
Anonymous
+1 You and your child are in the wrong. It takes a village and your SIL is part of your village. If your kid made a mess and SIL told them to clean it up, would you also have a problem? |
Anonymous
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^^^
I didn't answer your question. I would have said "larla, auntie Susie is right. Please address her the way she wants to be called" |
Anonymous
Meant to say “my child”. Interesting responses. I see the point of “it takes a village” but in this case what my child was doing wasn’t harming anyone and I wasn’t looking for advice or help. We have very different parenting approaches and I have never ever said anything to demean her approach, but clearly she did that to me today. Seemed really off, hard to describe the contex and tone in a post but thank you still for chiming in. |
Anonymous
Op here. Sorry I failed to mention that aunt Susie really doesn’t care about being called aunt, and my child always calls her by her name when we are just us without the rest of the extended family. |
Anonymous
After the mess is cleaned up and SIL won't shut the heck up about it, then SIL is in the wrong. |
Anonymous
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Posters who are supporting SIL did not pick up on the fact that SIL wouldn't shut up about it. That makes her in the wrong.
Also, and this seems so obvious but the Southern Belles can't accept it apparently, but if Susie is fine with Susie and not Aunt Susie, then the kid is fine!!! |
Anonymous
| SIL is nuts |
Anonymous
Op. That’s what my husband said 
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Anonymous
+1 And sounds like a bully. |
Anonymous
Np. We know exactly what you meant and exactly what happened because this has happened to all of us. I have been told this as a child. |