Happily married but have feelings for someone else
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Anonymous
| Happily married with kids for 16 years and find myself attracted to a married coworker. Why is this happening? |
Anonymous
Anonymous
Its not about feeling attracted to someone but about removing yourself from any possible situations which may lead you to be emotionally or physically unfaithful. |
Anonymous
+1 You can’t control feelings but you can control your actions. DONT INDULGE THESE FEELINGS. Keep things professional and limit conversation about non work-related topics. |
Anonymous
Difficult to fight my feelings |
Anonymous
| Shame on you for being human! |
Anonymous
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Is this coworker giving you attention, building up your ego? Do you find yourself finding ways to be around them and talk to them?
If the answer is yes, then back away far and fast. You’ll find yourself in an EA that makes matters much worse. Avoid at all costs if you care about your marriage and want to keep your family intact. |
Anonymous
| Divorce immediately |
Anonymous
because human nature |
Anonymous
| Crush. You’ll get over it. |
Anonymous
No kidding. You feel what you feel. As the person said, you’re human. An adult human who presumably can control their actions. If you think your feelings will make it difficult to control your actions, then separate yourself from the temptation as much as possible. But do not make the mistake of saying you can’t control yourself. That’s a child’s excuse. |
Anonymous
Listen to this wise poster. |
Anonymous
It happens! The first time I felt that attraction to someone (about 10 years into a marriage )I questioned my whole life and seriously considering blowing everything up. Would have been a bad bad decision. Second time it happened (13 years in) i was like "oh." Kept strict boundaries. It happens, we are human! The key is just to act like a grownup when it does. |
Anonymous
| We are human |
Anonymous
| It happens. Just create more distance and don’t talk about your personal lives. Also, put in a little more effort at home to keep the fire burning. |