I know this is really dumb but…
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Anonymous
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I’ve been seeing a guy and we have been texting often as he’s been away this week. I told him I was taking my kids to an amusement park and he told me a story about how he went on an amusement park ride once and let out a “stink bomb.”
Like I said, I know this is dumb but I’m seriously turned off and feel myself unattracted to him now. I replied to his message asking why would he tell me that and saying it’s a serious turn off. I feel like I don’t even want to see him anymore. Maybe these are my true feelings coming out? I feel bad as he’s a nice person and has been very nice to me but if I’m dating someone I need to feel attracted to him. (Context: I am middle aged and divorced and have been seeing this guy for a few weeks.) |
Anonymous
| Why do you think your reaction is dumb? Dating is about getting to someone and how you feel around them - not about convincing yourself you need to like them and overriding your authentic reactions. |
Anonymous
Such a good point PP. I’m not used to honoring my instincts (OP here). |
Anonymous
| Are you actually attracted to him, outside of this? Maybe see him once more to see if your reaction went away, but otherwise, be done. Don’t invest time in something you don’t want. |
Anonymous
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Wow - are you always this uptight, OP? I laughed out loud at your post.
He sounds like a fun guy to me. |
Anonymous
| Are you one of those people that only farts in the bathroom? |
Anonymous
And I think he sounds immature. To each their own taste. |
Anonymous
Flatulence is natural for anyone with a gastrointestinal system, it happens, may stink, no big deal. However, a middle age joking about it is not natural, mature or attractive. Just because you are middle age and a divorced mom, doesn't mean you can't have standards, you are enough by yourself and don't need to make such compromises. |
Anonymous
| ....so what did he say??? |
Anonymous
Gross |
Anonymous
| This is causing you to no longer being attracted to him? Definitely time to stop seeing him, your senses of humor are not aligned. |
Anonymous
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Op: you are entitled to a preference
- for who you are around - for who is around your kids Maybe you need to become the adult you'd like to be, have an opinion about these things. And live your life that way. |
Anonymous
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OP here—I couldn’t edit my original post but I found out it was a stink bomb (not a fart) and he said he did that when in his twenties.
So now I’m not sure what to think or do. |
Anonymous
In his twenties? I’ll pass on that. |
Anonymous
A stink bomb is a fart. |