DD only kid in her friend group not invited

[Anonymous]

DD15 told me tonight all her friends are headed to a Halloween party at another of her friend's house. She is the only one not invited. She said she has no idea why she isn't included, and I feel so badly for her, yet she seems pretty stoic for now. She has been included so nicely in high school up until now, so if anyone has any advice for me to give her, I would welcome it.

[Anonymous]

Does she really have no idea why? I would imagine whatever the reason is, it isn't a good one -- but that kind of relational aggression is wielded for a reason; excluding someone like that doesn't really do it's job if the person doesn't know why they were excluded.

[Anonymous]

Weird. Maybe the parent is the kind of person who puts a hard and fast rule on number of people a kid is allowed to invite?

[Anonymous]

Kids are crummy as are their parents. Go do something nice with her.

[Anonymous]

Sorry that hurts.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you're more upset than she is, and that she doesn't need any advice.

[Anonymous]

It might be an innocent oversight. Your daughter need to tell her friend "I felt really hurt when I want invited to the party" and leave it at that. My guess is the friend will be embarrassed and come up with some half arsed response of something your daughter did. Then they'll be friends again. For you - STAY OUT OF IT! The kids are learning social skills and must navigate this with you there for advice and support for your daughter - that's where your job ends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It might be an innocent oversight. Your daughter need to tell her friend "I felt really hurt when I want invited to the party" and leave it at that. My guess is the friend will be embarrassed and come up with some half arsed response of something your daughter did. Then they'll be friends again. For you - STAY OUT OF IT! The kids are learning social skills and must navigate this with you there for advice and support for your daughter - that's where your job ends.

Wasn't

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weird. Maybe the parent is the kind of person who puts a hard and fast rule on number of people a kid is allowed to invite?

This is much more common than people realize.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids are crummy as are their parents. Go do something nice with her.

What did the parents do in this case?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She should’ve just asked if she could go nobody would care weirdo

Do you know nothing of teen girl relationships?

[Anonymous]

Maybe she’s the only non drinker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:She should’ve just asked if she could go nobody would care weirdo

Do you know nothing of teen girl relationships?

Well, I did raise four of them

[Anonymous]

Wow that’s awful. I’m wondering if it’s an oversight. As a parent I keep an eye on guest lists when parties are at my house. I thought most did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow that’s awful. I’m wondering if it’s an oversight. As a parent I keep an eye on guest lists when parties are at my house. I thought most did.

OP here. That was the only explanation she could come up with, which I am not so sure about. Anyway, I'm staying out of it and will do something fun with her tomorrow.