When a guy invites you over…

[Anonymous]

On my 4th date with a guy I met online. He’s invited me over to his house (he says his dog wants to meet me lol). Does this always mean he wants sex?

[Anonymous]

Definitely

[Anonymous]

The dog? No, the dog probably does not want to have sex with you.
The guy? For sure. Or at least move it in that direction.

[Anonymous]

Ok, serious question: would you WANT to go on a fourth date with someone who didn’t want to have sex with you? I’m not saying it’s not too soon (it would be for me) but the answer to your question is yes, hopefully!

You could say you’re really excited to see him but aren’t up for meeting his dog quite yet. If he’s a decent guy, he’ll get the hint and be excited to see you anyway.

[Anonymous]

Yep.

[Anonymous]

If you are not ready for X, tell him so BEFORE you go over.
If he still pressures you, then you'll know you cannot trust him
If he respects you and just makes you dinner and introduces you to his dog, you may have found a catch.
And that he's into you if he calls again after that date.

Signed, nice guy (and yes, we finish last sometimes).

[Anonymous]

OP - I never had sex on a 4th date (usually it happens in a month or two, eg. 7-8 dates). But I would absolutely want to visit his place, to see if he's tidy, doesn't have a GF or a wife, and just spend some time in private. You are not teenagers to kiss in pubic all the time.

I've always been open with men telling them that I'm not ready for sex. But it doesn't need to be sex - there are things in between, too!

[Anonymous]

All men want sex so let just say he’s hopeful but a lot depends on what you have done on prior dates. If nothing I’m sure he’s hoping for something but not necessarily full sex. On my second date with my now DH we had dinner at his house and I was so excited I packed a small overnight bag. I had never done anything like that before but i was more than happy to take advantage of him. He didn’t have a dog.

[Anonymous]

The real answer is….who cares? It’s a free country and he can expect whatever the hell he wants to—if YOU don’t want to have sex yet then don’t!!!!

Excuse yourself and catch your uber home once he turns the lights down and gets that heavy, dreamy look in his eyes.

[Anonymous]

I’ve dated a couple guys who definitely would’ve been okay not having sex on the fourth date. They would’ve hoped for a kiss by that point but not necessarily expected more.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It's sex he wants.

[Anonymous]

Just use your hands OP and get some nudity - he'll be happy even if you don't have sex

[Anonymous]

His dog=his penis

[Anonymous]

If for you sex is out of the question at this point think of a clever way to tell him upfront. Tell him you you don’t usually go to a guys home on the fourth date but that you do like dogs! That will send him a subtle message and if he doesn’t get it, be less subtle.

[Anonymous]

If the dog starts bumping the furniture it’s your clue to leave. He learned that somewhere!