Is AM vs PM dishes a deal breaker?

[Anonymous]

If you’re the kind of person that puts dishes in the dishwasher as they happen, can you ever be happy with a spouse who leaves everything until morning?

[Anonymous]

Leaving them all day until evening is fine with me, but I don't like to leave them overnight. I would simply be the person who did the dishes, and we'd work out something equivalent DH was responsible for.

[Anonymous]

I don’t care about overnight, but I wouldn’t want dishes from a previous meal sitting in the sink while I was trying to make the next one.

I would just do them though. Or make the kids do them. It’s not any kind of dealbreaker.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think this specific thing is a deal breaker, but I don’t see how you can make a relationship work with two people who are both super rigid about doing every tiny thing their way.

Someone has to give and either leave the dishes out longer or put them away sooner. If neither person can change on this small thing, then you are just going to be constantly fighting over everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think this specific thing is a deal breaker, but I don’t see how you can make a relationship work with two people who are both super rigid about doing every tiny thing their way.

Someone has to give and either leave the dishes out longer or put them away sooner. If neither person can change on this small thing, then you are just going to be constantly fighting over everything.

Agreed. The real question is probably closer to can an uptight control freak ever be happy with anyone?

[Anonymous]

This is me and my husband. I put the dishes in the dishwasher as I use them, he leaves them in the sink and waits to load them all at once. I end up just putting his sink dishes in the dishwasher throughout the day to leave the sink clear. Drives me crazy but is what it is.

[Anonymous]

My husband does most of the dishes. I place my breakfast dishes in the sink and they are handled after he eats. Problem solved.

[Anonymous]

Why do they even need to go into the sink? I take them from the table, scrape any food, and put them in the dishwasher. I only rinse if there is a sauce that will spill in to the dishwasher.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Just take care of it yourself and don’t bean count. Presumably the person you married has good qualities that make them a good partner.

[Anonymous]

Petty… 🤦‍♂️

[Anonymous]

My spouse leaves dishes in the sink when the empty dishwasher is right next to it. Yes it drives me bonkers. But I’m pretty sure I do things that drive them bonkers too. It’s not a dealbreaker, that’s crazy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think this specific thing is a deal breaker, but I don’t see how you can make a relationship work with two people who are both super rigid about doing every tiny thing their way.

Someone has to give and either leave the dishes out longer or put them away sooner. If neither person can change on this small thing, then you are just going to be constantly fighting over everything.

Agreed. The real question is probably closer to can an uptight control freak ever be happy with anyone?

Which one is the uptight control freak?

[Anonymous]

Yes, it might be a dealbreaker for me (luckily we don't have this problem). Why would you put the dishes in the sink if the dishwasher is RIGHT there??? So gross. Your sink smells and you can't use the sink effectively until somebody loads all the gross dishes into the dishwasher. I don't understand this procrastination about doing dishes. Eat and take care of your dishes!!

Like .. you don't poop and save the poop to flush later. Just wash the dishes!

[Anonymous]

Just depends on situation. M-f morning rush to get to school and work, rinse and let soak until someone has time to load them. But if around the house and active dishes get done soon after use or they just multiply. An occasional soaking pot will sit over night

[Anonymous]

Why are you people eating stinky food?