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Child leaving for college in five days - pain is gut wrenching
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Anonymous
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My emotions are all over the place right now. In fact, this is the most emotionally unstable I’ve ever been. I’m excited for my daughter to start her new adventure, but I am deeply and profoundly sad that her childhood and my days of raising a child are ending.
For those of you who have already gone through this, any words of advice on how to cope? |
Anonymous
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First week sad
Second week dancing and partying |
Anonymous
It's okay to feel your feelings. You're going to be fine and your child will as well.No advice but staying busy is likely a good idea. |
Anonymous
| Focus on how happy your DD is and will be—that should be your focus. If you are that sad when your child is so very happy you need to regroup. |
Anonymous
| This is how it is supposed to be OP. It is a new chapter for you both. It is fine to mourn the end of this era, but hopefully you will look forward to this new period after a few weeks. |
Anonymous
| It’s ok to be sad. But please put on a happy face, don’t let her see you distraught. |
Anonymous
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Ignore people who don’t get it. My friend has a rising sophomore and last year she was devastated he was gone. She didn’t fall apart but she certainly mourned the loss of her first born child no longer being home every day.
We all process things differently. I’m a cryer. I’ll cry a lot, I’m sure. |
Anonymous
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It's initially hard but there are lots of vacations where they are back and so the separation feels slow. You get a new feel of what this new kind of parenting is like and it's rewarding. Good luck!
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Anonymous
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We give our kids roots and wings. The roots are the easy part. Letting them fly away on their wings is the hard part.
Be proud of the great job you’ve done and let her fly on. |
Anonymous
| It’s a transition time for you. Just like we prepare our kids for independence, you should be preparing yourself as well. Get a hobby, make some friends, make the most of your next phase. Your child will be happy that you’re growing without them. |
Anonymous
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Be grateful this is the hardest thing you and your family have had to go through.
Don’t make it harder for her to go. |
Anonymous
| Don’t make this moment about you. It’s about your daughter starting the next phase of her life. Don’t try to outshine her moment. |
Anonymous
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You will get over it.
My kid leaves for his 2nd year in 4 days and I cannot wait. |
Anonymous
| I’m happy for my kid to go. He is more than ready. I’m excited for him. Fall is also very busy at my work so I feel ready to drop him off and then focus on my own stuff |
Anonymous
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Her childhood ended long ago- likely when elementary school started.
Please make sure you move from parenting to friend during this transition. I had one parent that continued to “parent” and tell me what to do nonstop while I was in college and also after I started my job, purchased my own home and was successful. It hurt that they couldn’t be my friend and give me the independence I deserved and had earned. My other parent just wanted to hear how college was going and I called them 10x more (my parents are married). Aren’t you excited to be back with your Dh alone? Romantic vacations? Hobbies with friends? |