GS-14 Enough?

[Anonymous]

I turned 32 this year and made a resolution to find someone to settle down with. Last month I hit it off with someone who seemed great. The problem is he’s civil service, GS-14.

Everyone I’ve dated in the past has been much higher income (private industry). I’m worried long term I’m going to be resentful if he can’t contribute to our lifestyle.

Should I cut him loose?

[Anonymous]

You should cut him loose so he can dodge a bullet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should cut him loose so he can dodge a bullet

This!!!

[Anonymous]

For me, yes! For you, no,

[Anonymous]

If you want to settle down, that job stability, work-life balance, and the benefits will all be a plus! Sus out if they’d be willing to be the primary parent.

[Anonymous]

What? Do you even hear yourself?

[Anonymous]

Wow… Greedy much?

[Anonymous]

What do you bring to the table, OP? It better not just be looks, because those will fade.

[Anonymous]

Op, how much do you make and in what career field?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should cut him loose so he can dodge a bullet

+1

If you are already thinking about this then YES you will be resentful. Spare everybody some pain.

[Anonymous]

I’m a GS-14, stepped out. I have great flexibility. I work from home. I have great health benefits and retirement savings.

It’s around $180k (including bonus). The true genius of it is job security and ability to have a great family life with the flexibility and leave.

[Anonymous]

Insufficient information— how old is *he* and GS14 *what*.

If he’s a 30 y/o GS14 it’s very different than a 40 y/o GS14. Bear in mind the GS14-15 jump is a trap— going into the 15 without your 5-7 year plan for leaving government in place means accepting wage stagnation.

If you don’t know this much about government salaries by 32, living in the DC area, it may be better for you to just continue to date industry.

[Anonymous]

Yes, release him. You are a nightmare.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Insufficient information— how old is *he* and GS14 *what*.

If he’s a 30 y/o GS14 it’s very different than a 40 y/o GS14. Bear in mind the GS14-15 jump is a trap— going into the 15 without your 5-7 year plan for leaving government in place means accepting wage stagnation.

If you don’t know this much about government salaries by 32, living in the DC area, it may be better for you to just continue to date industry.

Doesn’t matter. There is very little difference between a GS 14 and GS 15 in stepped out salaries. Some GS 14s make more than some GS15s, as 15s max at 7 now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a GS-14, stepped out. I have great flexibility. I work from home. I have great health benefits and retirement savings.

It’s around $180k (including bonus). The true genius of it is job security and ability to have a great family life with the flexibility and leave.

And amazing health insurance and retirement.

I know a crap ton of people making $250,000 who have nothing saved for retirement.