Wife calls me lazy in front of the kids
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Anonymous
| Complaining, I don't do housework or cook. My job pays the bills and I am tired when I am off work to do extra activities with the kids. She's pissed I haven't been to the swim club yet. She is threatening me that she will quit her part-time job because she doesn't want two jobs. |
Anonymous
| Is this a creative writing exercise? |
Anonymous
This is a relationship forum. If you don't want to give advice, then move on. Hang out here just to be mean, I see. It's Friday, do something else with your time. |
Anonymous
| She’s tired too. She wants you both to pitch in with the kids. |
Anonymous
It is just so in alignment with another thread… |
Anonymous
Op. I do cook but not enough. She exaggerates. |
Anonymous
| The weather has been bad for swimming. It's been a weird year. |
Anonymous
| So stop beiing lazy. Both her part time job and her housework pay the bills too. |
Anonymous
| Married to a hard working dh, he also would come home and be too tired to engage with the family. That used to be okay when women stayed at home but we work now also. The end of the story is that your kids will grow up and not be interested in having a relationship with you because as they see it, and social media has spun it, you didn’t “earn” that from them. So try to do better there where you can even if it’s board games, puzzles, reading and not throwing the ball. As for your wife, it’s never okay to disrespect the spouse in front of the kids/others and you absolutely should discuss this with her. That’s not okay. |
Anonymous
OP these years with young kids are hard. Hard hard hard. Both spouses battle through a lot of fatigue and resentment. Although this is very normal I’m sorry you’re going through it. These years are also fleeting. Once your kids hit the preteen years and are more self sufficient, you will both have more time for yourselves and this score keeping about who is working harder will fade. (Of course you’ll have other and bigger issues with your kids then but that’s another post.) You just have to battle through these years realizing it does get much easier and you will be glad you did. Make the first gesture to your wife. Get someone to watch the kids tomorrow and go out and have some fun. It doesn’t have to be fancy- play golf, ride bikes, go out to eat, whatever. Try not talking about kids or work. Do it once and see what happens |
Anonymous
| Move out and get your own place. Stop paying her bills. Cancel swim club membership. Once she has to get a full time job she might understand better. |
Anonymous
She does work and does all the other stuff. That means she does work full-time, moron. If he's not doing anything at home, she won't realize anything new. Getting a full-time job would make it even harder. |
Anonymous
Not if she has no paycheck to show for it. When her husband leaves, who will be the moron with no way to support her children? |
Anonymous
She works part-time and the husband will have to pay child support. Nice try. Obviously written by a lazy man. |
Anonymous
Its tough to take care of yourselves, nurture a marriage, raise young kids, earn a living, deal with social obligations and to manage a household. Both of you are overwhelmed. Be a team, wow to be fair to each other and to communicate calmly. You can do it. |