Wife calls me lazy in front of the kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No matter what you do, it is toxic for her to call you lazy in front of the kids. It will taint their relationship with both of you and may cause them to overwork and people please.

It sounds like you need to have a conversation with your wife.

Watching one parent slack off at home while the other one does nothing is also going to be bad for their relationships.

[Anonymous]

Get up and do stuff when she is up doing stuff. It can be stuff that you kind of like doing around the house. It doesn’t have to be swimming.

She just doesn’t want to see you playing on your phone or watching TV when she is up doing stuff around the house.

[Anonymous]

OP: quit your job and be a house husband. Maybe get a part-time job doing something you enjoy. Your wife and earn the money and pay all the bills for a change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: quit your job and be a house husband. Maybe get a part-time job doing something you enjoy. Your wife and earn the money and pay all the bills for a change.

We wouldn't be able to pay the mortgage. As I said, my job pays the bills. She works to have a life outside of the house. She does help with expenses such as sports, tutoring, gym memberships, kids clothing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: quit your job and be a house husband. Maybe get a part-time job doing something you enjoy. Your wife and earn the money and pay all the bills for a change.

We wouldn't be able to pay the mortgage. As I said, my job pays the bills. She works to have a life outside of the house. She does help with expenses such as sports, tutoring, gym memberships, kids clothing.

So your kids can’t live a middle class lifestyle on your salary alone. You can’t afford for her to SAH. So get over yourself and start contributing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: quit your job and be a house husband. Maybe get a part-time job doing something you enjoy. Your wife and earn the money and pay all the bills for a change.

We wouldn't be able to pay the mortgage. As I said, my job pays the bills. She works to have a life outside of the house. She does help with expenses such as sports, tutoring, gym memberships, kids clothing.

So your kids can’t live a middle class lifestyle on your salary alone. You can’t afford for her to SAH. So get over yourself and start contributing.

They could live on my salary alone. Some people work for other reasons, and I mentioned that she works more to get out of the house and have a life outside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: quit your job and be a house husband. Maybe get a part-time job doing something you enjoy. Your wife and earn the money and pay all the bills for a change.

Is he cool with her just doing her own thing before and after work and on the weekends? Kind of showing up for meals he’s prepared and to hang out with the kids when she feels like it, but otherwise she just lives her own life? Will he move wherever she wants to go for her job and find “fulfilling part time work” there?

That sounds like a pretty good deal.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: quit your job and be a house husband. Maybe get a part-time job doing something you enjoy. Your wife and earn the money and pay all the bills for a change.

We wouldn't be able to pay the mortgage. As I said, my job pays the bills. She works to have a life outside of the house. She does help with expenses such as sports, tutoring, gym memberships, kids clothing.

You own too much house then. One day, you'll be divorced from her and still paying for too much house. Better to lose it now.

[Anonymous]

You sound like my husband. He works on his feet all day. I have an office job, full-time. But guess what, I'm tired too. Stop dumping all the work on her and step up. My entire life is one big game of chicken and it's exhausting. The resentment just builds and builds.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: quit your job and be a house husband. Maybe get a part-time job doing something you enjoy. Your wife and earn the money and pay all the bills for a change.

We wouldn't be able to pay the mortgage. As I said, my job pays the bills. She works to have a life outside of the house. She does help with expenses such as sports, tutoring, gym memberships, kids clothing.

So your kids can’t live a middle class lifestyle on your salary alone. You can’t afford for her to SAH. So get over yourself and start contributing.

They could live on my salary alone. Some people work for other reasons, and I mentioned that she works more to get out of the house and have a life outside.

If you can’t afford basics like clothes, and middle-class items like tutoring and sports, then her job isn’t “to get her out of the house” it’s to support household necessities.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: quit your job and be a house husband. Maybe get a part-time job doing something you enjoy. Your wife and earn the money and pay all the bills for a change.

We wouldn't be able to pay the mortgage. As I said, my job pays the bills. She works to have a life outside of the house. She does help with expenses such as sports, tutoring, gym memberships, kids clothing.

So your kids can’t live a middle class lifestyle on your salary alone. You can’t afford for her to SAH. So get over yourself and start contributing.

They could live on my salary alone. Some people work for other reasons, and I mentioned that she works more to get out of the house and have a life outside.

If you can’t afford basics like clothes, and middle-class items like tutoring and sports, then her job isn’t “to get her out of the house” it’s to support household necessities.

I can afford these things, but she wants to contribute. People love to argue on this forum.

[Anonymous]

Kids need their dad.

Everyone who was a kid knows that mom taking you to the pool is not the same as dad coming along. Dad will throw you in the water and encourage you to do stuff you normally wouldn’t do and maybe he will invent a game or get in a fight with the lifeguard. You never know what will happen when dad’s there.

Kids need that. I get that you are tired, and probably pissed at your wife, but you have to do stuff with your kids after you get home from work.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: quit your job and be a house husband. Maybe get a part-time job doing something you enjoy. Your wife and earn the money and pay all the bills for a change.

We wouldn't be able to pay the mortgage. As I said, my job pays the bills. She works to have a life outside of the house. She does help with expenses such as sports, tutoring, gym memberships, kids clothing.

So your kids can’t live a middle class lifestyle on your salary alone. You can’t afford for her to SAH. So get over yourself and start contributing.

They could live on my salary alone. Some people work for other reasons, and I mentioned that she works more to get out of the house and have a life outside.

If you can’t afford basics like clothes, and middle-class items like tutoring and sports, then her job isn’t “to get her out of the house” it’s to support household necessities.

I can afford these things, but she wants to contribute. People love to argue on this forum.

And insecure men like to treat their wives jobs as cute hobbies to justify their own laziness. Wives of high-earning men who have hobby jobs aren’t buying the clothes and paying for the kids tutors. Start treating your wife as the equal partner she is, and you start being an equal partner at home.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: quit your job and be a house husband. Maybe get a part-time job doing something you enjoy. Your wife and earn the money and pay all the bills for a change.

We wouldn't be able to pay the mortgage. As I said, my job pays the bills. She works to have a life outside of the house. She does help with expenses such as sports, tutoring, gym memberships, kids clothing.

So your kids can’t live a middle class lifestyle on your salary alone. You can’t afford for her to SAH. So get over yourself and start contributing.

They could live on my salary alone. Some people work for other reasons, and I mentioned that she works more to get out of the house and have a life outside.

If you can’t afford basics like clothes, and middle-class items like tutoring and sports, then her job isn’t “to get her out of the house” it’s to support household necessities.

I can afford these things, but she wants to contribute. People love to argue on this forum.

Isn’t she contributing by doing childcare and taking care of stuff around the house? I mean, if she disappeared, you would probably have to hire out at least some of this stuff, right? Plus you wouldn’t have her income.

Likely, you both need each other in order to have the lifestyle you have right now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP: quit your job and be a house husband. Maybe get a part-time job doing something you enjoy. Your wife and earn the money and pay all the bills for a change.

We wouldn't be able to pay the mortgage. As I said, my job pays the bills. She works to have a life outside of the house. She does help with expenses such as sports, tutoring, gym memberships, kids clothing.

So your kids can’t live a middle class lifestyle on your salary alone. You can’t afford for her to SAH. So get over yourself and start contributing.

They could live on my salary alone. Some people work for other reasons, and I mentioned that she works more to get out of the house and have a life outside.

If you can’t afford basics like clothes, and middle-class items like tutoring and sports, then her job isn’t “to get her out of the house” it’s to support household necessities.

I can afford these things, but she wants to contribute. People love to argue on this forum.

And insecure men like to treat their wives jobs as cute hobbies to justify their own laziness. Wives of high-earning men who have hobby jobs aren’t buying the clothes and paying for the kids tutors. Start treating your wife as the equal partner she is, and you start being an equal partner at home.

What the? Guys can never win.