Why are UMC people cold and unfriendly?

[Anonymous]

I have come across this interesting phenomenon where the UMC young professionals I come across in their twenties and thirties are sort of cold and aloof. They aren’t very friendly and do not go out of their way to befriend you.

In comparison middle class people are so warm and friendly. As are the upper class people.

Why do you think this is?

[Anonymous]

Maybe they have instincts about you that you’d be the type of person to post this sort of silly thing.

[Anonymous]

What do you have to offer? What is the reason for you to be acquaintance, they strategically pick friends that is how you stay successful

[Anonymous]

I think you don't really know somebody's income and even if you do, possibly anything you've noticed is a coincidence.

[Anonymous]

In my experience UMC people focus mostly on status and money so they tend to connect only with people they consider ‘the right crowd’, people with similar status or people that can provide connections in those circles.
MC people are more focused on daily struggles and tend to sympathize more with other people because they know life can be hard and often is enough getting very sick or being layoff to end up in a time of hardship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience UMC people focus mostly on status and money so they tend to connect only with people they consider ‘the right crowd’, people with similar status or people that can provide connections in those circles.
MC people are more focused on daily struggles and tend to sympathize more with other people because they know life can be hard and often is enough getting very sick or being layoff to end up in a time of hardship

Yup. It’s pretty clear in my UNW neighborhood that once neighbors know what I do and then guess how much I make and how much power I don’t have they have pretty immediately relegated me to being just the neighbor they say “hi” to when our paths cross. They suck. I’m smarter than most of them.

[Anonymous]

OP I feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have come across this interesting phenomenon where the UMC young professionals I come across in their twenties and thirties are sort of cold and aloof. They aren’t very friendly and do not go out of their way to befriend you.

In comparison middle class people are so warm and friendly. As are the upper class people.

Why do you think this is?

People say this is foolish. However,
I have lived her close to 18 years and I share this feeling. We are the farmers. East coasters owned people like us. For generations.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

But I think it’s ridiculous that UMC people think they have actual “status”?

What kind of network or status does, say, a random engineer have even if he makes a 300k income? What are his connections?

[Anonymous]

I think it’s a US coastal thing. West coast people generally do not act the same way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience UMC people focus mostly on status and money so they tend to connect only with people they consider ‘the right crowd’, people with similar status or people that can provide connections in those circles.
MC people are more focused on daily struggles and tend to sympathize more with other people because they know life can be hard and often is enough getting very sick or being layoff to end up in a time of hardship

Yup. It’s pretty clear in my UNW neighborhood that once neighbors know what I do and then guess how much I make and how much power I don’t have they have pretty immediately relegated me to being just the neighbor they say “hi” to when our paths cross. They suck. I’m smarter than most of them.

Why would you being smarter than them mean they should want to be your friend? That's a weird complaint.

[Anonymous]

First, truly upper class people know that you’re no competition. Their assured success for themselves and their offspring have nothing to do with you. So they can be gracious with you.

Middle-class people are clowns. They are truck drivers and secretaries, or maybe they are Feds destined to max out at GS-12. They think you’re supposed to follow the Golden Rule rather than assessing whether the other person is worthy.

UMCs have attained success but know it’s tenuous. After all, this is America. So yeah, I’ll coach your kid, but mine will pitch and play shortstop. Unless of course your FIL is GC at a corporation that could lock in my partnership if I bring their business. Then my kid will play 3b or 2b, pitch #2, and play short when yours pitches.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In my experience UMC people focus mostly on status and money so they tend to connect only with people they consider ‘the right crowd’, people with similar status or people that can provide connections in those circles.
MC people are more focused on daily struggles and tend to sympathize more with other people because they know life can be hard and often is enough getting very sick or being layoff to end up in a time of hardship

Yup. It’s pretty clear in my UNW neighborhood that once neighbors know what I do and then guess how much I make and how much power I don’t have they have pretty immediately relegated me to being just the neighbor they say “hi” to when our paths cross. They suck. I’m smarter than most of them.

Why would you being smarter than them mean they should want to be your friend? That's a weird complaint.

Because presumably those who shun lower-paid people are looking for people "on their level" intellectually. They are snubbing people because they don't appear to be smart enough to be a BL partner or start-up CEO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First, truly upper class people know that you’re no competition. Their assured success for themselves and their offspring have nothing to do with you. So they can be gracious with you.

Middle-class people are clowns. They are truck drivers and secretaries, or maybe they are Feds destined to max out at GS-12. They think you’re supposed to follow the Golden Rule rather than assessing whether the other person is worthy.

UMCs have attained success but know it’s tenuous. After all, this is America. So yeah, I’ll coach your kid, but mine will pitch and play shortstop. Unless of course your FIL is GC at a corporation that could lock in my partnership if I bring their business. Then my kid will play 3b or 2b, pitch #2, and play short when yours pitches.

LOL. I can't even imagine going through life in such a colorless and shallow way. I pity you.