Why are UMC people cold and unfriendly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In my experience UMC people focus mostly on status and money so they tend to connect only with people they consider ‘the right crowd’, people with similar status or people that can provide connections in those circles.
MC people are more focused on daily struggles and tend to sympathize more with other people because they know life can be hard and often is enough getting very sick or being layoff to end up in a time of hardship

+10000

UMC people are the most status conscious of them all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:But I think it’s ridiculous that UMC people think they have actual “status”?

What kind of network or status does, say, a random engineer have even if he makes a 300k income? What are his connections?

LMAO so true

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:People who need other people often have stronger social networks by necessity. People who give each other rides home from work,
watch each others kids, help each other move, loan a pick up truck, etc. When you don’t have a lot of money, you develop an informal economy where you barter for services.

Who do you hear worrying or complaining about childcare, days of school, etc? It’s often UMC moms because they don’t have a network of people to help out. When I was a kid, I didn’t go to extended day. My mom paid a stay at home mom on our street a small amount to walk me to the bus with her own kids each morning. We also lived in a place where the dentist, the woman who cleaned our house, our mechanic, the manager of a local restaurant we frequented - all were parents of kids at my school.

I am now in a position that I can pay for a lot of services. I don’t know the women who clean my house. I don’t know where my hairdresser or dentist live. I don’t need to - nor is it considered rude that I don’t know their kids names. I am friendly and connected to my neighbors, my coworkers, parents at my kids school or their activities and sports teams. I am not outgoing with people outside those groups. I like to think I am courteous and polite, but I am not asking your dog’s name or trying to figure out if your grandmother went to high school with my uncle.

This is probably why so many UMC women are depressed and lonely.

This is not the flex you think it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is true in my experience. I think it's cultural and also the types of jobs people have. UC people who have jobs are usually in roles where their success depends partly on charming lots of people - CEO, lobbyist, law firm partner, etc. - those people tend to have a decent amount of charisma and do well with people. They get used to glad-handing and that crosses over into their day-to-day interactions.

MC people often have service-type jobs or teaching or nursing or otherwise work in environments with a lot of human interaction. So again, they are used to interacting with lots of different types of people successfully.

UMC folks often have email jobs where they don't see a lot of people except on Zoom meetings. Plus they are busy and stressed and striving so they don't have time for new friends.

+100 Best analyzation in this thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love DCUM but one thing I will never understand is the fixation on UMC. Specifically UMC. Not the upper class, not even the uber wealthy. Just UMC. It's so highly specific and makes me wonder who is walking around classifying people by social class every day.

I don't think it's an obsession, I think it's just the biggest demographic on here. People who have too much income/wealth to be considered middle class, but who are not wealthy enough to just not work or to just pursue passion projects and non-profit work because the trust takes care of everything else. Tons of dual-income white collar professional couples who have lots of money but not enough to just stop caring about money.

And I think people on here, who are mostly UMC, like to talk about the UMC a lot because (as several posters on this specific thread have noted) they don't feel comfortable with their class status. They fear that a job loss or a bad choice could drop them down in into the MC, and they hope/believe/fantasize that with enough work and strategic moves, they or their kids could become UC. They are probably actually wrong about both, for the most part. But they feel uncomfortable nevertheless. They feel caught in the middle.

Which is probably why they are so rude! They are preoccupied with their class status and lack the mental bandwidth to just say hello, remember the name of little Larla's mom who their kid has been going to school with since preschool, and make 90 seconds of small talk.

+1000
This is it.