Adult children arriving up to family parties with their parents & not bringing their own gifts—is this a new thing?
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Anonymous
| Recently I’ve noticed at family baby & bridal showers, weddings, milestone birthdays 25+ year old adult children being RVSP’ed by their parents, thinking their parents’ gift counts as theirs etc. This comes across as very immature, FYI! |
Anonymous
| That's because it is. |
Anonymous
| Are they separately invited or on one "family" invite? Sounds like all on one if the parents RSVP. One family = 1 gift. |
Anonymous
| Gauche to pay attention to what gifts other people are bringing, OP. |
Anonymous
| In our family you're considered okay on your parents' present until you've moved out (after college). |
Anonymous
| Greedy grab fest |
Anonymous
| We factor the number of people in our party into our gift amount and all sign the gift card. |
Anonymous
| I have no desire to go to your 60th birthday party, Aunt Larla. If I have to bring my own gift, I won’t be in attendance. |
Anonymous
| It’s not new. |
Anonymous
| Yep all my cousins in their 20s/early 30s do this. The same goes for Thanksgiving/Easter, they don’t bring their own dish. |
Anonymous
What do you mean??? |
Anonymous
| Arriving “up?” |
Anonymous
| Why do you care? |
Anonymous
| Do you really want more stuff? |
Anonymous
| Not new, IMO. In both of our extended families, not abnormal in the <30ish crowd, especially among the young men. When you sit and think about it, I suppose it is lame in many cases, but why do you care about this? |