Why do some parents let their kids throw boozy parties
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Anonymous
| How truly dumb can you be? just heard of a HS classmate who was arrested for this on Friday. |
Anonymous
| Some parents want their kids to be cool above all else. I know several such parents. The parents themselves are also usually preoccupied with their own social lives and are probably borderline alcoholics themselves. |
Anonymous
Student arrested or parent? |
Anonymous
Social engineering! The parents I know who do such things are the type to tailgate at U12 youth sporting events, host huge theme or birthday parties at their house regularly and get carted away by ambulance after passing out in the field house bathroom at a HS football game. Zip code:2218X |
Anonymous
| Yes. “Cool” parents who invest a lot of energy in having “cool” kids. |
Anonymous
The parent, for hosting a boozy bash and turning a blind eye. |
Anonymous
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I was thinking about this recently OP. I remember as a teen I was SO jealous of the kids with “cool” parents. Not even just the boozy parties but that in general these kids seemed to have no definable curfew and seemed to live such a “grown up” life to me. In order to go to any parties I had to concoct rigorous sleepover stories with a phone number to call that my friend with a very “mom sounding voice” could answer. It only happened on a few occasions and I was amazed at how many kids just acted like it was NBD to be out at these parties at 1 am, no elaborate scheme needed.
As an adult, I’m now aghast. I realize these peers of mine basically had either checked out parents or parents who wanted them to be cool. I’m so grateful that my parents were tough on me with the drunk driving lectures and curfew. I have a totally different view of the “cool” parents now that I’m a mom myself and frankly those adults are pretty big losers, often trying to make themselves seem young and fun. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
Where and what HS? |
Anonymous
| Seriously. I wish people would search before starting a new topic. There's already multiple active topics on teen drinking and there's a recent specifically on the angle asking why some parents host teen drinking: https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/1124175.page |
Anonymous
I guess each new thread brings fresh insights though, right? Resurfacing a new thread can be unproductive. |
Anonymous
Scary. I’ve seen all of that and now know some parents who we have known since kindergarten who let their kids and friends drink at their houses. That is our zip code so the stereotype is true. |
Anonymous
| We know one of those parents. The kids are horrible too. |
Anonymous
| We are never hosting a boozy party and do not permit high school drinking. Nonetheless, if my kids were to drink, I’d prefer that they be doing so at someone’s house rather than random parking lots and fields where we drank as high school students. While I don’t want to allow my kids to drink, I also don’t want their first experiences with alcohol to be in college. I saw how that played out for many kids and it was not good. |
Anonymous
I really cannot wrap my heads around this. So you want your kids to break the law? You do realize that drinking under the age of 21 is illegal and as this very thread pointed out, that kids and parents can and do get fined and jailed for underaged drinking, right? What other crimes do you want your kid to get out of the way under your nose or their friends' parents noses so you can say they aren't doing it for the first time in college? An adult experimenting with risky behavior, which is what college students are, is ALWAYS going to be far superior to an underdeveloped minor. |