My BFF will only date "tall" men so that she feels small in comparison

[Anonymous]

We've been friends for decades. So I felt comfortable pushing really hard -- past her politic, but obviously BS initial responses -- to get an honest answer to this question: "Friend, why do you have an absolute, inviolable requirement that men on dating apps must be 6 ft or taller?" She'll swipe all day long past great guys who say they are 5' 10". "Too short, " she says. "Too bad."

She's well past childbearing at 55 and also past needing to build a life with a potential presidential candidate (who, I admit must be 6'1").

No, it just comes down to relativism. If he's close to her height, then she won't feel "small" (her words.). She will instead feel "big" next to a guy whose only 4 inches taller.

My question -- is THIS what's actually behind so many of you women who post here? That is an ick, as the kids say.

[Anonymous]

OP there is a reason your friend is single and dating at 55. I suspect you will uncover many layers of craziness if you go deep enough

[Anonymous]

Behind the women who post here? This is a mommy board. We are overwhelmingly married women with kids. There are a few single people but the vast majority settled on whatever height their spouse has.

I don’t ever get these posts targeted at the single women of DCUM and their dating standards. It’s like opening a space heater store in Dubai.

[Anonymous]

So you’re 5’10”, OP?

[Anonymous]

I only like shorter men, OP. I don't want to crick my neck to look up at my loved one for ever.

Don't you understand that there's someone out there for everyone?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you’re 5’10”, OP?

Honest answer: I have a son who is 5'10". -- OP

[Anonymous]

Who cares? Tall men are the equivalent of skinny women for men - sometimes it’s literally the only thing they care about.

[Anonymous]

I preferred to date men over 6”0 when I was in my 20s. Ended up married to one — just a matter of personal preference. Did I end up dating other men under 6”? Yep. My tall gfs were always annoyed though about it (I’m 5”5). Shrug.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
I only like shorter men, OP. I don't want to crick my neck to look up at my loved one for ever.

Don't you understand that there's someone out there for everyone?

Sure, there's a lid for every pot, blah blah blah. But at 55 and having lived a worldly, full life, it strikes me as childish to unapologetically use a physical trait as a gatekeeper to love and companionship.

Presumably, at 55 you've experienced enough life to know that, despite your preference for redheads, it turns out that occasionally a brunette will manifest who is brilliant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares? Tall men are the equivalent of skinny women for men - sometimes it’s literally the only thing they care about.

I care, because I am concerned my friends is mentally damaged and I've missed that all these years. OP

[Anonymous]

She is 55, she likes what she likes. Leave her TF alone.

She clearly doesn’t NEED a man she just prefers certain ones.

WTF do you care who she dates?

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'7" and have always preferred tall men but was in a LT relationship with someone who was 5'10." Also dated someone my height and it was fine. Married someone over 6' but shorter heights were never disqualifying per se.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares? Tall men are the equivalent of skinny women for men - sometimes it’s literally the only thing they care about.

I care, because I am concerned my friends is mentally damaged and I've missed that all these years. OP

OP again -- this issue here isn't a preference for a 'look.' It's my grown-ass-adult friend's need to feel "small." A middle aged professional "small" thing. Yuck.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who cares? Tall men are the equivalent of skinny women for men - sometimes it’s literally the only thing they care about.

I care, because I am concerned my friends is mentally damaged and I've missed that all these years. OP

Look in the mirror if you want to see the mentally damaged one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She is 55, she likes what she likes. Leave her TF alone.

She clearly doesn’t NEED a man she just prefers certain ones.

WTF do you care who she dates?

I care that I just discovered she's kind of pathetic.