Do you feel judged for living in the suburbs? How you respond to that judgement?

[Anonymous]

We currently live in a different state where school districts are very small and vary dramatically in quality & demographic composition depending on what town or city you’re in.

We recently moved from our city to the “city” next door that has a certain reputation, and our friends have made snide comments about it. How do you politely respond?

[Anonymous]

Get new friends.

[Anonymous]

We got rude comments about moving from a middle class suburb to a wealthy suburb from one of our friends, who was clearly insecure. We just ignored them.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, your friends suck.

[Anonymous]

Well, are you making comments about how you left for the burbs because you just couldn’t stand the low quality of life/schools in the city? Because if you’re saying that to your city-dwelling friends, stop.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, are you making comments about how you left for the burbs because you just couldn’t stand the low quality of life/schools in the city? Because if you’re saying that to your city-dwelling friends, stop.

OP here. No. But where we live is pretty fraught with stereotypes. Think moving from Dallas to one of the Park Cities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get new friends.

Seriously. They sound like fake acquaintances as opposed to real friends. Who needs that? I'd let the fake friendship fade away with the move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, are you making comments about how you left for the burbs because you just couldn’t stand the low quality of life/schools in the city? Because if you’re saying that to your city-dwelling friends, stop.

OP here. No. But where we live is pretty fraught with stereotypes. Think moving from Dallas to one of the Park Cities.

So they are saying these jokes in a fun playful way or is there a jealous/mean intent behind these jokes?

[Anonymous]

Get suburban friends.

[Anonymous]

“We’re excited about the change of scenery — we’ll see how it goes.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get suburban friends.

This. At some point, you realize that people live in the city and the suburb can’t be friends anymore. Friendship takes time to maintain, and your location determines how much time you can spend with these people’s

[Anonymous]

lol sounds like your friends are either salty or jealous. Why would they care if you want to live in the suburbs?? Some people are weird. Let them be insecure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Get suburban friends.

This. At some point, you realize that people live in the city and the suburb can’t be friends anymore. Friendship takes time to maintain, and your location determines how much time you can spend with these people’s

I live in a city and have lots of friends who live in the suburbs. I totally understand the appeal of the suburbs and could see myself living there. They understand the appeal of the city and most used to live here. We don’t see each other as much as we used to but I think that’s more a function of kids/work than distance. It’s often easier to visit suburban friends than someone who lives in another part of the city because it’s easier to park.

“City people and suburb people can’t be friends” is like some 4th grade logic. Being able to maintain friendships over time with people who don’t just make the same lockstep choices as you is a sign of maturity.

[Anonymous]

What are the snide comments about? The size of your house or the school system?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What are the snide comments about? The size of your house or the school system?

There a lot of people who think you’re “betraying” the city if you “flee” to the suburbs.