Do you feel judged for living in the suburbs? How you respond to that judgement?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, are you making comments about how you left for the burbs because you just couldn’t stand the low quality of life/schools in the city? Because if you’re saying that to your city-dwelling friends, stop.

OP here. No. But where we live is pretty fraught with stereotypes. Think moving from Dallas to one of the Park Cities.

This doesn’t make sense. They’re both in the heart of Dallas and about as urban as Dallas gets, not suburban at all. No one in Preston Hollow gives a flying ef if you move across the street. Moving to the suburbs would be Capitol Hill to Vienna in which yes that’s a lifestyle shift - one that’s not for many folks and why do you care if it’s better for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We moved for excellent schools and safe neighborhoods we would feel comfortable letting our young kids roam freely in. Go ahead and judge. I judge not prioritizing schools and safety right back.

You sound like a treasure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We moved for excellent schools and safe neighborhoods we would feel comfortable letting our young kids roam freely in. Go ahead and judge. I judge not prioritizing schools and safety right back.

+100

Agree that urban snobs are the worst, in many respects. Most of the ones I know brag about staying in the city, but wouldn't dream of sending their kids to the public schools there (privates funded by grandparents, of course).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We currently live in a different state where school districts are very small and vary dramatically in quality & demographic composition depending on what town or city you’re in.

We recently moved from our city to the “city” next door that has a certain reputation, and our friends have made snide comments about it. How do you politely respond?

Uh, no. Who gives an eff what other people think? What a peculiar way to think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, are you making comments about how you left for the burbs because you just couldn’t stand the low quality of life/schools in the city? Because if you’re saying that to your city-dwelling friends, stop.

OP here. No. But where we live is pretty fraught with stereotypes. Think moving from Dallas to one of the Park Cities.

Did you move to Plano or Southlake? Because if you did then you know exactly why you are getting these comments.

I know nothing about that part of the country. What would this mean? What are the reputations of Plano and Southlake?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, are you making comments about how you left for the burbs because you just couldn’t stand the low quality of life/schools in the city? Because if you’re saying that to your city-dwelling friends, stop.

OP here. No. But where we live is pretty fraught with stereotypes. Think moving from Dallas to one of the Park Cities.

What is a Park City?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We moved for excellent schools and safe neighborhoods we would feel comfortable letting our young kids roam freely in. Go ahead and judge. I judge not prioritizing schools and safety right back.

You sound like a treasure.

She actually sounds very smart. Not sure the word "treasure" is appropriate here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, are you making comments about how you left for the burbs because you just couldn’t stand the low quality of life/schools in the city? Because if you’re saying that to your city-dwelling friends, stop.

OP here. No. But where we live is pretty fraught with stereotypes. Think moving from Dallas to one of the Park Cities.

What is a Park City?

Highland Park/University Park, Texas. Two Chevy-Chase/Bethesda type bubbles within the city limits of Dallas. The problem with OP, who is likely a troll, is that Dallas completely surrounds the Park Cities and most of Dallas is very suburban in density and sprawl. As a PP commented, Preston Hollow (within Dallas proper) versus the Park Cities? WTF makes this distinction?

[Anonymous]

There’s a lot more judgment in reverse: people in rural or suburban areas very judgmental about those who raise their kids in urban areas. As if people in urban areas don’t love or care about their kids.

The comments are way more off the charts in the other direction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There’s a lot more judgment in reverse: people in rural or suburban areas very judgmental about those who raise their kids in urban areas. As if people in urban areas don’t love or care about their kids.

The comments are way more off the charts in the other direction.

I never hear rural or suburban people discuss this. You may want to get new friends.

[Anonymous]

When I moved from the DMV to Atlanta, some friends reacted like I was moving to an illiterate, uncivilized encampment of savages who separate by race, take child brides, and communicate with grunts and head movements. I found this mostly hilarious. Some people, even good people, are insular and a bit xenophobic. You just need to roll with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a lot more judgment in reverse: people in rural or suburban areas very judgmental about those who raise their kids in urban areas. As if people in urban areas don’t love or care about their kids.

The comments are way more off the charts in the other direction.

I never hear rural or suburban people discuss this. You may want to get new friends.

See every post on the internet or Fox News hyperventilating about crime in Chicago. It’s the same people who definitely judge people raising their kids in cities.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s a lot more judgment in reverse: people in rural or suburban areas very judgmental about those who raise their kids in urban areas. As if people in urban areas don’t love or care about their kids.

The comments are way more off the charts in the other direction.

I never hear rural or suburban people discuss this. You may want to get new friends.

A common one I get from acquaintances (to my face) when visiting family in rural areas is "must be nice to be out here!"