Do you feel judged for living in the suburbs? How you respond to that judgement?

[Anonymous]

You know how there are some New Yorkers who think that anyone who doesn’t live in New York is a bumpkin who is envious of those who live in New York? Your friends are just a different version of that. I am friends with all types of people but geography snobs are a type of person who I can’t be friends with.

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[Anonymous]

Only on DCUM. In my real life nobody gives a crap where anybody lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get new friends.

+1 you will have more in common with them and it will be easier to get together with ppl who live nearby.

I wish we had small, tightly-drawn districts in the DMV!

[Anonymous]

Also a lot of these judging city ppl are very ignorant anyway. We had ppl make comments about where we moved and actually our district has more Hispanic than white kids. But ppl acted like "oh it's 100,% white ppl there."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We currently live in a different state where school districts are very small and vary dramatically in quality & demographic composition depending on what town or city you’re in.

We recently moved from our city to the “city” next door that has a certain reputation, and our friends have made snide comments about it. How do you politely respond?

Get new friends and ignore. You don't have to respond to any comment. If they say something rude just let that comment hang.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, are you making comments about how you left for the burbs because you just couldn’t stand the low quality of life/schools in the city? Because if you’re saying that to your city-dwelling friends, stop.

OP here. No. But where we live is pretty fraught with stereotypes. Think moving from Dallas to one of the Park Cities.

Did you move to Plano or Southlake? Because if you did then you know exactly why you are getting these comments.

[Anonymous]

Why do you allow friends' opinions to influence your basic life choices so much? Maybe start there, OP.

[Anonymous]

Boo hoo. People make ignorant, stupid, mean comments about people who live in cities. People can't handle others making different choices, or not agreeing wholeheartedly with their choices. If you didn't move to this suburb for racist, classist reasons, then these comments shouldn't bother you. If you did, then these comments bother you because they hit home. A hit dog hollers, after all. Figure out why you made the choice you made, honestly, and then figure out why these comments bother you, and then deal with that.

[Anonymous]

It's difficult to respond to this without more context. There are some cities were the schools are pretty good and people still "flee" to the suburbs. There are others where the system is extremely bad. And sometimes the suburbs are much less expensive than the city, other times not.

[Anonymous]

Why do you care op? We aren’t in middle school. This would be the least of my concerns.
Let them whine about it. You do what’s best for you. They aren’t paying your bills so who cares

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why do you care op? We aren’t in middle school. This would be the least of my concerns.
Let them whine about it. You do what’s best for you. They aren’t paying your bills so who cares

+1

They aren’t living with you or taking care of your family so who cares? Let them worry about themselves. If the burbs fits your family needs more, do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, are you making comments about how you left for the burbs because you just couldn’t stand the low quality of life/schools in the city? Because if you’re saying that to your city-dwelling friends, stop.

OP here. No. But where we live is pretty fraught with stereotypes. Think moving from Dallas to one of the Park Cities.

Did you move to Plano or Southlake? Because if you did then you know exactly why you are getting these comments.

Exhibit A ^^^^^^

OP, find new friends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Boo hoo. People make ignorant, stupid, mean comments about people who live in cities. People can't handle others making different choices, or not agreeing wholeheartedly with their choices. If you didn't move to this suburb for racist, classist reasons, then these comments shouldn't bother you. If you did, then these comments bother you because they hit home. A hit dog hollers, after all. Figure out why you made the choice you made, honestly, and then figure out why these comments bother you, and then deal with that.

People usually move to the suburbs for better schools. That is reason enough, and perfectly valid.

[Anonymous]

They're just repeating stereotypes. It's a good reminder to not do the same. I'm sure they don't want to personally offend you as they're your friend.