Explaining lack of playing time

[Anonymous]

If your kid is going through recruiting, how does he/she explain this? My kid is approaching peak recruiting time (not saying kid will go to a top program, or even D1 at all, but kid is very good wants to try and see what happens. Is open to other levels). This upcoming season DC will not see much if any playing time at HS or club (same coaches). We have our own views about why this is but it is irrelevant, frankly. We have not control here.

So if you've gone through this:
-what did your kid say to coaches? How was this addressed/explained? (Clearly, will not mention our opinions as to lack of time. We have never brought up our concerns, complained to coaches, etc. We know we cannot.)
-How did you get film and exposure when the kid isn't playing?

My kid is truly going to get screwed, losing an almost entire year of meaningful play time. And this is going to really affect the process. How can it not? It's disheartening to see this playing out. Leaving our club isn't an option.

[Anonymous]

Change clubs?

If your kid is good enough to be recruited anywhere, then surely there are clubs where they'd get playing time, unless the issue is an injury.

As to how to explain it, it would depend on the explanation. What is the reason?

[Anonymous]

I don’t know which sport, but there are other ways to get video. You can video stand alone skills - my kid is a pitcher and we video bullpens. I’ve seen videos of catchers pop times and fielders fielding ground balls indoors, and of kids hitting in batting practice so you can see the mechanics of their swing.

There are also camps and showcases and tryouts that provide film and metrics as part of the package you pay for. Finally, colleges have camps your kid can attend where the coach can watch them play, so you could see if you can identify a few of those for your kid to attend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Change clubs?

If your kid is good enough to be recruited anywhere, then surely there are clubs where they'd get playing time, unless the issue is an injury.

As to how to explain it, it would depend on the explanation. What is the reason?

The HS and clubs are affiliated. So if we leave one, it affects the other. So not an option unless we leave both.
I won't get into the reasons and all of the circumstances. I will say it is not ability, and that is per neutral parties.

[Anonymous]

If it’s not ability then is it attitude? This is obviously a huge red flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it’s not ability then is it attitude? This is obviously a huge red flag.

No. It's not attitude. Kid is an extremely hard worker, coachable, and never misses practice. Does a lot of extra work on own time.

[Anonymous]

Well then what is the reason. If you want help here, you need to provide some details.

[Anonymous]

So if he isn’t getting time in either and he switches clubs and gets time, wouldn’t that be better even if he can’t ride the bench ar HS?

Can he get film at camps?

[Anonymous]

Are you outside the US?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Change clubs?

If your kid is good enough to be recruited anywhere, then surely there are clubs where they'd get playing time, unless the issue is an injury.

As to how to explain it, it would depend on the explanation. What is the reason?

The HS and clubs are affiliated. So if we leave one, it affects the other. So not an option unless we leave both.
I won't get into the reasons and all of the circumstances. I will say it is not ability, and that is per neutral parties.

If he’s not playing anyway, it doesn’t seem like much of a loss to leave both and play for someone else.

[Anonymous]

Great player + great attitude but doesn’t get to play in high school or club? Someone sounds like they are deluding themselves, OP. Maybe the coach is your ex and still bitter about the breakup?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well then what is the reason. If you want help here, you need to provide some details.

The question has nothing to do with the reasons. But how to work around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Great player + great attitude but doesn’t get to play in high school or club? Someone sounds like they are deluding themselves, OP. Maybe the coach is your ex and still bitter about the breakup?

Lol. No. Kid played this year. And played extremely well. Team makeup changes next year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Great player + great attitude but doesn’t get to play in high school or club? Someone sounds like they are deluding themselves, OP. Maybe the coach is your ex and still bitter about the breakup?

NP. Come on. This is almost absurdly idealistic. There are many terrible reasons this happens, including racism, bias against the kid for reasons totally out of their control, classicism, etc. I’ve seen coaches blackball a kid because a sibling ten years earlier was not good. I’ve seen coaches refuse to play a kid for reasons that in the employment context would be overtly illegal.

I have one kid who is a current college athlete and another on the way. I have been through it. You people who believe in the myth of meritocracy in youth sports are ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your kid is going through recruiting, how does he/she explain this? My kid is approaching peak recruiting time (not saying kid will go to a top program, or even D1 at all, but kid is very good wants to try and see what happens. Is open to other levels). This upcoming season DC will not see much if any playing time at HS or club (same coaches). We have our own views about why this is but it is irrelevant, frankly. We have not control here.

So if you've gone through this:
-what did your kid say to coaches? How was this addressed/explained? (Clearly, will not mention our opinions as to lack of time. We have never brought up our concerns, complained to coaches, etc. We know we cannot.)
-How did you get film and exposure when the kid isn't playing?

My kid is truly going to get screwed, losing an almost entire year of meaningful play time. And this is going to really affect the process. How can it not? It's disheartening to see this playing out. Leaving our club isn't an option.

What year in HS?