“She is going to marry rich”

[Anonymous]

I have two friends who, when they were in college, other girls made comments about, along the lines of, “ she is going to marry rich.” Or, “ you can tell she’ll be a rich stay at home mom one day.”

I recall being confused and surprised by these comments at the time as both of these girls were middle class and had relatively humble roots. I’m curious what it must’ve been that others picked up on as these two did indeed marry rich and live that typical t
Rich stay at home mom lifestyle.

[Anonymous]

You can only say that of someone who expresses that goal. Otherwise, how on earth would you know?

[Anonymous]

I was voted "most likely to marry a millionaire" twice in silly votes as a teen.
I ended up unmarried in my late forties lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two friends who, when they were in college, other girls made comments about, along the lines of, “ she is going to marry rich.” Or, “ you can tell she’ll be a rich stay at home mom one day.”

I recall being confused and surprised by these comments at the time as both of these girls were middle class and had relatively humble roots. I’m curious what it must’ve been that others picked up on as these two did indeed marry rich and live that typical t
Rich stay at home mom lifestyle.

Did they want that lifestyle and try to date rich? Were they very attractive? Were they very outgoing and personably? If all three are true, then it's a reasonable prediction

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m curious what it must’ve been that others picked up on as these two did indeed marry rich and live that typical t
Rich stay at home mom lifestyle.

Bottom line? They were smokin’ hot
Potential supporting evidence but completely speculative? They showed more interest into privileged young men than their studies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have two friends who, when they were in college, other girls made comments about, along the lines of, “ she is going to marry rich.” Or, “ you can tell she’ll be a rich stay at home mom one day.”

I recall being confused and surprised by these comments at the time as both of these girls were middle class and had relatively humble roots. I’m curious what it must’ve been that others picked up on as these two did indeed marry rich and live that typical t
Rich stay at home mom lifestyle.

Did they want that lifestyle and try to date rich? Were they very attractive? Were they very outgoing and personably? If all three are true, then it's a reasonable prediction

Op here. Hmm they were both pretty although not strikingly so. Both did dress in a conservative preppy fashion with Pearl earrings and lily pulitzer dresses.

One of them would wear expensive clothes and go into debt to look a certain way. The other turned down any guy who wasn’t also preppy and I guess by association, rich?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two friends who, when they were in college, other girls made comments about, along the lines of, “ she is going to marry rich.” Or, “ you can tell she’ll be a rich stay at home mom one day.”

I recall being confused and surprised by these comments at the time as both of these girls were middle class and had relatively humble roots. I’m curious what it must’ve been that others picked up on as these two did indeed marry rich and live that typical t
Rich stay at home mom lifestyle.

I have a friend like this and my parents suggested they thought she'd marry rich someday and did she ever! She married into a well known family with very deep generational wealth. She's pretty but far from gorgeous, but she has a huge personality and from a young age she was smart and ambitious. Her family is also wealthy but not even close to the level of wealth she married into.

[Anonymous]

Pretty but not too pretty
Smart but not too smart

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pretty but not too pretty
Smart but not too smart

Not enough. You need proximity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Pretty but not too pretty
Smart but not too smart

Not enough. You need proximity.

OP said college. College is a 4 year span where a middle class girl will have the most ability date rich

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have two friends who, when they were in college, other girls made comments about, along the lines of, “ she is going to marry rich.” Or, “ you can tell she’ll be a rich stay at home mom one day.”

I recall being confused and surprised by these comments at the time as both of these girls were middle class and had relatively humble roots. I’m curious what it must’ve been that others picked up on as these two did indeed marry rich and live that typical t
Rich stay at home mom lifestyle.

One of my college friend seriously dreamt of becoming a SAHM but ended up becoming a dentist and marrying a lawyer. She gave up work after 3 years of practice when she had kids and recently went back to work after 22 years. She is 56 and planning to retire again when her husband retires. He is 62 and planning to retire at 66. If it weren't for being an empty nester and husband bust at office, she wouldn't have gone back to work. Some people are just chill and not ambitious.

[Anonymous]

I have only ever heard this said about women who behave in ways that make it clear that "marrying well" is their goal.

So women who keep themselves up very well with very good hygiene and dressing in a way that is appealing and eye catching without being overly trendy or overtly sexy. Often outgoing personalities with really strong social skills -- good at drawing people out, asking questions, making people feel good about themselves. But also status conscious. So they aren't just super nice and friendly, they also know the score and focus their energy and attention on activities and opportunities that will bring them into contact with higher status people. So they don't volunteer at a soup kitchen, but the volunteer for an organization that holds an annual gala to raise money for the soup kitchen. They might major in business (but they'll have a marketing emphasis, not finance) which will put them in contact with ambitious people who value financial success. In college, they are likely to rush a sorority and will be drawn to certain sororities that tend to have more people from wealthy backgrounds or are closely associated with frats with this profile. And so on.

Like I don't think people assign this to someone for their inherent qualities. Being really beautiful or really smart (or not as pretty, or not as smart) is not the qualifier. It's women who seem to be crafting lives to but themselves in a position to marry someone well off.

Also, the women I knew like this in my 20s had no problem cutting a guy loose if he didn't seem ambitious enough or if she was worried about his earning potential. I went to a very high ranked law school and a friend of mine dumped our classmate because, she told me, she could tell he wasn't partnership material and she didn't want to to be carrying them financially after he burned out at a BigLaw job and wanted to go work for the government or in-house for like 200k/yr. She said it matter of fact, like this was a very normal concern. And to her it was. She wanted to marry someone who would afford her a certain lifestyle and opportunities (including the opportunity to SAHM and just do volunteer work if she wanted) and she made dating choices based on that. It's a specific outlook.

She did in fact marry rich and her DH is now a partner at a very profitable NYC firm and she no longer works but is on the board of a couple arts organizations.

[Anonymous]

So she's a gold-digger?

[Anonymous]

"He's going to marry rich"

I know several guys that married doctors from wealthy families.

Why the gender stereotype ?

[Anonymous]

My roommate at UF in the 1980's early 80's lol sat herself at the law library to meet a lawyer.

She was from Ohio, had no intention of finishing school.

Took her six weeks. I never saw her again. She moved out of the dorm into BF's apartment and never looked back.

Last I heard she was divorced back in Ohio.

it was bizarre to me at the time.