Your childhood memories of vacation, food, and going out to eat? Are you resentful?

[Anonymous]

I saw something recently, an article that mentioned someone resenting that their parents never took them out and always brought food from home when they went on vacations.

I’ve been on here about 13/14 years now and see that people still do bring foods to cook while on vacations. I never traveled as a child but I’ve done this as an adult to my own children never realizing this can be a negative memory. Not for every meal but I have taken things like oatmeal, cereal for quick breakfasts in the hotel room.

I did not go out to eat often as a child either, we had little money, single mom household and I loved every second and have fond memories of those times. I could count them on one hand but they were throughly appreciated. I even remember what I ordered.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I saw something recently, an article that mentioned someone resenting that their parents never took them out and always brought food from home when they went on vacations.

I’ve been on here about 13/14 years now and see that people still do bring foods to cook while on vacations. I never traveled as a child but I’ve done this as an adult to my own children never realizing this can be a negative memory. Not for every meal but I have taken things like oatmeal, cereal for quick breakfasts in the hotel room.

I did not go out to eat often as a child either, we had little money, single mom household and I loved every second and have fond memories of those times. I could count them on one hand but they were throughly appreciated. I even remember what I ordered.

This person sounds like a monumental brat, in desperate need of some adversity in their life.

[Anonymous]

Resentful?

My parents were children of the Depression. We didn’t go out to eat at all until we were teenasgers. We had no sweet treats in the house - not even sugared cereals. A treat was McDonalds for dinner. Both my parents were excellent cooks, and taught their children to cook as well. Why would I resent any of that? They were way ahead when it came to eating non-processed food. Plus we all are capable of cooking nutritious and tasty meals for our families.

[Anonymous]

The person in that article is ridiculous. I suspect that if it allows comments the author is being skewered.

[Anonymous]

What an unkind and unfair way to judge parents. Mine did the best they could. We didn’t go out to dinner or do movie theatre candy, for example. I would never resent them for it.

[Anonymous]

My parents 100% did that. We always had a cooler with us! There was very little eating out.

I can't imagine feeling resentful about it. My parents are in terrific financial shape now, and I always had plenty of food to eat. We just ate at home 95% of the time. We didn't get take out too often either.

What makes me resentful is my spoiled children don't LIKE eating out because they think it is boring. It's still such a treat to me and I do it regularly now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I saw something recently, an article that mentioned someone resenting that their parents never took them out and always brought food from home when they went on vacations.

I’ve been on here about 13/14 years now and see that people still do bring foods to cook while on vacations. I never traveled as a child but I’ve done this as an adult to my own children never realizing this can be a negative memory. Not for every meal but I have taken things like oatmeal, cereal for quick breakfasts in the hotel room.

I did not go out to eat often as a child either, we had little money, single mom household and I loved every second and have fond memories of those times. I could count them on one hand but they were throughly appreciated. I even remember what I ordered.

That person needs help. If you eat out all the frigging time, you get fat. Pack at least some meals and snacks and show your kids how to eat healthfully. Eating out should be a treat, not the norm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Resentful?

My parents were children of the Depression. We didn’t go out to eat at all until we were teenasgers. We had no sweet treats in the house - not even sugared cereals. A treat was McDonalds for dinner. Both my parents were excellent cooks, and taught their children to cook as well. Why would I resent any of that? They were way ahead when it came to eating non-processed food. Plus we all are capable of cooking nutritious and tasty meals for our families.

Maybe the parents were terrible cooks, AND would not bring their family out to eat, which would kind of suck, frankly.

My parents didn't have much, but we did have a family outing every Sunday, sometimes going to a very modest local restaurant, which me and all my siblings tend to remember fondly.

I could see forced togetherness, with people who didn't communicate much or get along all that well, to result in negative memories. Maybe that is what OP is citing.

[Anonymous]

Any kids who gets to go on family vacation is already lucky / privileged.

Of course the adults get to decide how to eat when they are there.

Are you worried whether brining cereal is up to your kids' standards? Whether that might breed resentment in their adulthood?

Please tell me you are not.

[Anonymous]

Some of my fondest childhood memories are camping trips and staying in a camper at the beach. We always brought our own food. It was such a fun adventure. I think kids remember the feelings and having fun with the family/friends rather than what restaurants they went to!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I saw something recently, an article that mentioned someone resenting that their parents never took them out and always brought food from home when they went on vacations.

I’ve been on here about 13/14 years now and see that people still do bring foods to cook while on vacations. I never traveled as a child but I’ve done this as an adult to my own children never realizing this can be a negative memory. Not for every meal but I have taken things like oatmeal, cereal for quick breakfasts in the hotel room.

I did not go out to eat often as a child either, we had little money, single mom household and I loved every second and have fond memories of those times. I could count them on one hand but they were throughly appreciated. I even remember what I ordered.

This person sounds like a monumental brat, in desperate need of some adversity in their life.

This. I didn't grow up with much money and in years that my parents could afford a trip to the beach we did it as cheaply as possible. We still had a great time, and I have great memories.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some of my fondest childhood memories are camping trips and staying in a camper at the beach. We always brought our own food. It was such a fun adventure. I think kids remember the feelings and having fun with the family/friends rather than what restaurants they went to!

+1

[Anonymous]

My parents are big “pack a cooler” people for outings, like the beach, the park, etc. but I barely remember what we did on vacations. I can’t even fathom why someone’s memories of family vacations are focused on what they ate.

[Anonymous]

My aunt always felt resentful that we only went out to eat once to a nice restaurant. And maybe ordered pizza out. We cooked the rest of the time. It didn't feel like a vacation to her.

[Anonymous]