Child in the hospital: need ideas
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Anonymous
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I’m sure there may be an easy solution here, but I’m so exhausted I may have missed it.
Long story short: my DS - now almost 3 - was born with a condition that would require spinal surgery. Two weeks ago he had the surgery which was stressful as it was 10+ hours with many sub-specialists. Thankfully he came through it fine and spent a week inpatient with several days in the PICU. As was expected he is now at a children’s inpatient rehab center where he will relearn how to crawl, walk, etc. We are obviously thankful for the surgery as he would have lost all mobility over time and had severe pain as he grew. It is expected he will be inpatient here for 4-6 weeks. Here is my issue: all the rooms on the children’s ward are doubles so we share with a sweet little girl and her mom. I am exhausted though and don’t sleep as I’m on the chair/ bed (like DH had after kids were born) and neither kid is sleeping well as they are in new beds and for my DS, we need to be very careful with his movements. My DH is home with the other kids. I would love a night a home, but my DH has said he is uncomfortable rooming with the other patient and her mom (which while I know nothing would ever occur, I understand his concern). And I am sure she wouldn’t love it either. My mom and friends are helping during the day so I can see my other kids/ run an errand, but I hesitate to ask them to stay overnight. If you were in this situation would you just push through? Or is there some obvious solution I am missing? Thank you from a very tired mom. |
Anonymous
| i mean, i'm sure there is a curtain to separate their side from your side. Use it and have your husband come and spend the night. It is beyond ridiculous to think anything would happen; it's about making your child comfortable, not the other mom (I sure she doesn't care). Or you can. Ask to be switched to a room that has a little boy in it or spring for a private room. It's not that big of a deal at all. It's the hospital. Everyone understands |
Anonymous
| Can you sleep during day at home and have husband be there during day. Just to even give you some solid sleep. Even if it requires taking off work. |
Anonymous
| Your husband is an ass. He can suck it up for one night in the chair. |
Anonymous
| Your husband is being ridiculous. Tell the other mom that tomorrow night your husband will be here so you can get some sleep, so she can swap with her own husband if she’s uncomfortable. Then do it. |
Anonymous
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I would ask my mom or a friend to stay.
I’m a friend whose H was recently paralyzed and I go to the hospital weekly to give her a break. I would be mad if you didn’t ask me for help. |
Anonymous
| Agree that your husband needs to get over himself. You need a night to sleep at home. Twice a week minimum. |
Anonymous
| You need a break to sleep through the night, at least every other night. I know it’s hard but you have to do it. The nurses can care for your child if nobody else can be there. |
Anonymous
agree!! |
Anonymous
Agree. He’s being ridiculous. |
Anonymous
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1. Tell DH he needs to get over it. I would be awkward too in the reverse scenario but this is not sustainable.
2. Ask your mom or a friend to do overnight. I would gladly. 3. Combine 1 and 2! You need sleep! |
Anonymous
| Insane. Like those men who can’t have a business lunch with a woman. Grow up. |
Anonymous
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I see NO issues with your dh staying there overnight. In fact, I think it's a little sexist that the mom needs to always be the one staying.
I'd get DH some sweatpants and a hoodie (nothing PJ looking) and have him spend the night. |
Anonymous
| He should stay. What is he concerned about? Why do you understand his concern, as it's ridiculous? |
Anonymous
| I would never give any thought to a Dad being in the room regardless of the gender of the children. Dad should take at least 1 night a week. |