Would you be angry if your DC’s roommate was constantly absent without explanation?

[Anonymous]

My first-year DC’s roommate, has, since the beginning of the school year, been constantly absent for days or weeks at a time. Mostly sleeps in bed each night but is gone from sunrise to late night most of the time. Really disappointing socially. What would your child do?

[Anonymous]

No because my freshman has made friends beyond his roommate. This is a non-issue.

[Anonymous]

My kid would probably be happy to mostly have a single.

[Anonymous]

What? OP you’re being silly.

[Anonymous]

Do? Nothing. There’s no social obligation to being a roommate. Nice if they connect, fine/normal if they don’t

[Anonymous]

Seriously?

[Anonymous]

Why would you be angry? Your roommate isn’t responsible for your social life.

[Anonymous]

Your freshman roommate is just a person you cohabitate with, not an assigned friend.

[Anonymous]

Angry?? Why does the roommate need to be around the room all day? This is a crazy complaint.

[Anonymous]

They are not contracted to be friends or even social outlets. It's nice when it happens, but no obligation.

The obligation is to be a respectful roommate, not a friend.

[Anonymous]

Of course not. Firstly, this would not be MY issue. I don't absorb my kids issues. Secondly, this is a non-issue. My kid would never rely on ONE person to be their entire social life. To be honest, I wouldn't be surprised if both my college kids spent very little time in their dorm rooms during the day too. Classes, clubs, meetings, study groups, library, errands, meals, etc. None of those things get done in the dorm room.

[Anonymous]

This us what having a roommate means, someone that sleeps in the same room. What’s the issue?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My first-year DC’s roommate, has, since the beginning of the school year, been constantly absent for days or weeks at a time. Mostly sleeps in bed each night but is gone from sunrise to late night most of the time. Really disappointing socially. What would your child do?

Your post is confusing: "constantly absent for days or weeks at a time" yet "Mostly sleep in bed each night" ?????

Is the roommate there each night ?

Any idea where the roommate goes from dawn to dusk ? (School & job ?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are not contracted to be friends or even social outlets. It's nice when it happens, but no obligation.

The obligation is to be a respectful roommate, not a friend.

+1

[Anonymous]

You have to talk to the manager, this isunacceptable!