Parents: please let your adult children live with you as long as they want to.

[Anonymous]

Not only would you be doing them a great favor, but you'd be doing me a great favor as well. You see, I'd wanted to live on my own since I was 19. But everybody who I asked to help me with that said I would have to get my undergrad degree before I could get a stable enough job. When I finally had my degree at 22, I was glad that it looked like I was apparently about to live on my own, albeit later than I had been hoping. But that still wasn't good enough. Everyone then told me I would have to get a Master's Degree. The only problem is, I didn't have a way to pay for grad school on my own, and everyone I talked to said that their parents didn't help them through grad school. Not wanting to suffer the humiliation of being the only student in college history to have their graduate education paid for by their parents, I kept snatching at job after job, hoping I could just forget about my education and start living on my own anyway. I wasn't offered a job that allowed me to do this until I was 28. As of now, I am probably the oldest person in history to move out of my parents' house into my own house. If you allow your children to stay with you until they're 29, they'll have broken my record, and I will no longer bear the humiliation of being the oldest person to have lived at home. Wouldn't it make you feel good knowing you were helping a complete stranger?

[Anonymous]

LOL - I would have stayed that long but my parents gave me tough love. Started charging rent so I was outta there. Best thing to happen for me. I was 26.

[Anonymous]

You’re fine. My mentally ill son will definitely beat your record. My oldest might too - even though he’s got a good income and stable job with no debt, he’s in no hurry. Guess I should feel lucky he likes us.

[Anonymous]

My son will turn 29 in one month. Still living here with us. Your short lived record.

[Anonymous]

My best friend lived at home until she was 38. Totally functional adult, same job since we graduated college, got her masters. Just had a situation that worked out for them and her. Her dad had a stroke at one point so it helped to have her around. She paid off $100k of student loans and had 20% down for a house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not only would you be doing them a great favor, but you'd be doing me a great favor as well. You see, I'd wanted to live on my own since I was 19. But everybody who I asked to help me with that said I would have to get my undergrad degree before I could get a stable enough job. When I finally had my degree at 22, I was glad that it looked like I was apparently about to live on my own, albeit later than I had been hoping. But that still wasn't good enough. Everyone then told me I would have to get a Master's Degree. The only problem is, I didn't have a way to pay for grad school on my own, and everyone I talked to said that their parents didn't help them through grad school. Not wanting to suffer the humiliation of being the only student in college history to have their graduate education paid for by their parents, I kept snatching at job after job, hoping I could just forget about my education and start living on my own anyway. I wasn't offered a job that allowed me to do this until I was 28. As of now, I am probably the oldest person in history to move out of my parents' house into my own house. If you allow your children to stay with you until they're 29, they'll have broken my record, and I will no longer bear the humiliation of being the oldest person to have lived at home. Wouldn't it make you feel good knowing you were helping a complete stranger?

I moved out of my parents' home when I got married at 28. It's a cultural thing and I feel no shame or embarrassment over it. Life is too short to look back on your past and judge yourself based on your present.

[Anonymous]

Op, there are plenty of people who live with their parents longer than you. People in my own family but I am not going to mention. One may never move out and not due to special needs or financial issues. If you want to move out and are able to, great. If you are comfortable living with them and are able to live an independent life, good for you. Don’t worry about what others think.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son will turn 29 in one month. Still living here with us. Your short lived record.

+1. Mine is 30, finishing his PhD and saving most of his earnings. He will move out after graduation with a nice nest egg.

[Anonymous]

I know plenty of people still living with their parents well over 28. Some are married with kids and they live in what seems to be a pretty happy multi-generational situation.

It’s common and often a key driver of familial wealth. I don’t know why you are embarrassed OP.

[Anonymous]

I have a BIL that was still living with his parents in his 60's. I know many other failures to launch who lived with their parents into middle age - none of them went to college so no student debt, but they did a lot of dope and drank a lot. So it happens.

OP you win no awards for your delayed lauch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know plenty of people still living with their parents well over 28. Some are married with kids and they live in what seems to be a pretty happy multi-generational situation.

It’s common and often a key driver of familial wealth. I don’t know why you are embarrassed OP.

I think OP is American, so it's hard to get dates for someone living like a kid.

[Anonymous]

My kids can live with me after college if they figure out how to unload the dishwasher without asking. Wiping down the counters would be a plus too.

If not, out they go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL - I would have stayed that long but my parents gave me tough love. Started charging rent so I was outta there. Best thing to happen for me. I was 26.

26 lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My son will turn 29 in one month. Still living here with us. Your short lived record.

+1. Mine is 30, finishing his PhD and saving most of his earnings. He will move out after graduation with a nice nest egg.

He may be better off financially, but being independent, capable of caring for yourself on your own, etc, are great qualities in a man. I would hate to date someone in their 30’s that has not lived on their own.

[Anonymous]

My 51 year old brother still lives on mom and dad’s dole. It’s pathetic.