Ever have an ex live rent free in your head?

[Anonymous]

Why and how did you finally remove them?

[Anonymous]

Two years and haven't been able to yet. Have dated a lot since and no one compares so I let them go.

[Anonymous]

They just live there. Sometimes quiet sometimes not. I gave up and just figure it is like an invisible friend except I don’t talk about it out loud.

For a long time I didn’t think about them At all (like 15+ years) but a pandemic fueled mid life crisis brought them back.

[Anonymous]

I haven’t found the cure for it yet…

[Anonymous]

Took two years to exorcise them. I stopped letting thoughts of them enter my brain and finally decided to focus on myself. But it did take time.

[Anonymous]

Stop trying to remove the thought. You can’t.

You say “hi thought, those were good time” “bye thought I’ve got things to do”

The reality is you can’t stop a thought from happening, what you do with that thought you control. Do you ruminate? Don’t do you get sad? Don’t

Just say hi and dismiss it.

[Anonymous]

Three years and counting. But maybe part of that is I don’t mind so much anymore . At least once a day to think of them.

[Anonymous]

Not the ex- but the Ho that was part of it. Working hard to get rid of that anger and disgust.

[Anonymous]

Yes. It has been 17 years.

[Anonymous]

I found that new, vivid memories helped to remove her from my brain. And several young women.

[Anonymous]

Not ex, but the abuse towards me. Every time I see him I'm reminded what he put our family through.
The current man would live in my head for a long time if he were to leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop trying to remove the thought. You can’t.

You say “hi thought, those were good time” “bye thought I’ve got things to do”

The reality is you can’t stop a thought from happening, what you do with that thought you control. Do you ruminate? Don’t do you get sad? Don’t

Just say hi and dismiss it.

This is what I do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not the ex- but the Ho that was part of it. Working hard to get rid of that anger and disgust.

Yep, same. The thoughts haunt me. I wish I could make them go away, but I can’t. I can’t sleep at night because of thoughts of that person that won’t go away. When I finally do fall asleep, those thoughts makes me feel so sad every morning when I wake up. I have a minute or two when I first wake up where I feel that my life is the same as I thought, but then those thoughts come back and I feel terrible again.

I’m not sure I’ll ever feel “normal” again.

[Anonymous]

This time of year is particularly difficult remembering the times we had together.

[Anonymous]

Relationship ended 21 years ago, I still think of him regularly. It was an intense and valuable three years of my life and I don't want to ignore that. It wasn't bad until it ended badly. I think I kind of mourn him and the relationship as if they were both dead even though he isn't. I do know, however, he is not and will never be anyone I would want to have anything to do with now so it's not longing for him, it's just memories.