WWYD with this rude child?
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Anonymous
| Friend’s same aged kid has all-around issues with being domineering, entitled, manipulative and demanding. DH and I are separated (I left for multiple A reasons) and DH moved cross country for a job in his extremely specialized field. At lunch other kid said to mine, “wow, your dad must really hate your mom to move that far away.” His dad immediately told him that was inappropriate to say. I refrained from punching the kid when I found out. But I was stunned at how cruel and out of line the kid was (and also, wrong) and am inclined to take a break from this family and tell the parents why, and/or to demand an apology. I am not sure how else to convey my fury at how their kid treated mine. Thoughts? |
Anonymous
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Awful thing to say, I am sorry OP.
I would 100% take a break from the kid. See your friend separately if you wish to do so. |
Anonymous
| How old are the kids? The logic in the child statement is appropriate for lower elementary. Anything past that it was rude. But it also sounds like the other child's father stepped in right away and reprimanded the child. What more do you want from them? |
Anonymous
| Teach your kid how to speak up. It's their friendship, not yours. Kids say dumb things but it depends on how your child feels. You can tell them your thoughts on it for sure but why are you taking a break from the relationship? What relationship do you have with the kid? |
Anonymous
We spend a lot of time all together since the parents like each other and the kids are same aged. |
Anonymous
| We need to know how old the kid is. |
Anonymous
| How did your kid feel about it? Your post is all about your feelings. |
Anonymous
Kid told me the story and was offended and said so. |
Anonymous
| Kid should have shut friend down. Teach child to be assertive and stay out of it. Then get over it, because this is far from the worst thing kid will ever have to deal with. |
Anonymous
Other kid is bad for your kid. Telling the parents will not change the fact that their kid is rude (not soon enough for your kid anyway.) Meet as grown ups only if you can. |
Anonymous
| Also- dad said something to the kid. This sounds very typical for a young child. I think you are being defensive. |
Anonymous
Hmmm... being told that your dad left because he wanted to get away from you. Do you know know there are 30 page threads in the Family section about father/kid relationships? Maybe this is one of the worst things this child will have to deal with. |
Anonymous
Wait, so you weren't even present to hear what was said? A lot can get lost/changed in a second hand retelling. I get how hurtful it is to both you and son, and it sounds like you don't like the child to begin with, but it seems like it has been handled. Also you needed to restrain yourself from punching a child over something he said? I realize this may be just something you are saying in a post, but even thinking it is a little over the top. |
Anonymous
| If that kid's dad already corrected him, then no, you don't contact the parents. WTF? Why woudl you do that? |
Anonymous
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You need to come up with strategies do your kid knows what to say.
Sounds like kid was corrected by parent so for now you let it go. If your kid wants some space from the friend allow that |