Grandma’s been secretly proselytizing with DC
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My mother has been very upset that we’ve held off in baptizing our kids. Neither DH nor I are religious and have decided to hold off on introducing it. Well, Dc informed us a few weeks ago that on the weekend afternoon s when she visits snd we’ve been letting her spend one on one time with DC hat she’s been whipping out a Bible and holy water and forcing DC to read aloud from it. From what my DC, who is in 5th grade, says, it sounds like my mom is really pushing it hard. I think she’s probably been doing this for months now. So, what’s next? She will
Fight hard for this and I feel like we may need to limit visits. |
Anonymous
| You and DH need to decide together. My call would be that anyone who engages in behavior with our kids that we have specifically asked them not to is untrustworthy and cannot be alone with our kids ever again, the end. |
Anonymous
| Oh, HELL NO. You’re going to get a bunch of replies from people telling you she meeeeeans well and it’s harmless (as if they’d say the same if she was a convert to Islam and was indoctrinating your kid in that). Absolutely not. Shut it down hard or no more visits. How disrespectful. |
Anonymous
It's unclear if OP has forbid her mom from talking about religion with her child, or if OP is just complaining about grandma doing it. My guess is the latter. You have to be clear with boundaries if they are so non-negotiable that you would ban grandma from ever being alone with the kid ever again. |
Anonymous
| You “feel like we may need to limit time?” ARE YOU KIDDING? Grow a spine and shut this down. I would never allow my child to be alone with her again. |
Anonymous
Meh. There may be a slight gray area here, but the fact that grandma has been keeping this hidden means that she 100% knows that the parents would not be OK with it. |
Anonymous
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So. I loved reading the Bible as a child (I started at 7). I was a bookworm, and the Bible was just another book.
I am not religious at all 
If it's just reading, I think it's great he's getting a bit of culture. He should read other religious texts from other religions as well, to compare all the wonderful and nonsensical things they say
If Grandma is trying to convince him that all that stuff is real and he should believe, then that's a breach of trust and I wouldn't leave them alone very frequently. I would also talk about religions with my kid. There are books for children that compare religions - you can get him one of those and start a Humanist discussion. |
Anonymous
| OP here. It’s not just reading, it’s making DC resist prayers over and over. I know my mother. This is not a nice open ended discussion about Jesus. This id fir her own satisfaction. She’s gotten sneaky in her old age. |
Anonymous
Recite prayers over and over. (Yeah I think DC has been resisting based on what he says). |
Anonymous
| Omg, this is the end for me. I cut off my mother so this would not happen (but also for a lot of ther good reasons, trust me). I saw my mom show a crucifixion video to my 5yo nephew after my sister explicitly forbade it, before leaving.. "But he was begging to watch it!" Grandma said. Not true. I was never gonna let her alone with my kids. Ever. |
Anonymous
So what are you going to do about it? |
Anonymous
| Chill out OP. |
Anonymous
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You know DCUM is going to tell you to cut her off FOREVER, so pretty sure this is a troll....
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Anonymous
Don't chill out, OP. This is boundary breaking and "sneaky" as you said. It is abusive, in my opinion. |
Anonymous
| What kind of church does Grandma attend? |