Is cosmetic breast surgery in your late 40's really stupid?

[Anonymous]

I'm almost 48. Married for 20 years.
I hate my breasts. I used to be a B cup and now I'm easily a D cup. My breasts are uneven and are now quite a bit lower and sort of splay out to my sides.
I just feel gross and matronly. I know my breasts make me look heavier than i am.

I am super low maintenance but I quietly really want a breast lift. I feel like the cosmetic surgeon would look at me like "huh,
I'm not sure your breasts are your biggest issue" and he'd be right because I'm no longer a head turner in many other ways either.

We can afford it and I'm fine with undergoing surgery.

Is this totally crazy? My friends would never expect this of me. My husband would probably wonder if I'm thinking of leaving because I really don't
think he cares. (Ultimately he would be supportive because he's of the 'whatever makes you happy" mindset)

Thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I think it’s worth at least exploring—go for a consultation and see what the surgeon says.

[Anonymous]

Why not? I wouldn't recommend implants at this stage, but cleaning things up and a slight reduction? Sure. I would only consider how stable your weight is -- I would make sure that's stable before doing anything.

[Anonymous]

I’m 44 and planning on a reduction and lift.
Go for it.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I had a breast augmentation at 46 from barely an A to a D. I love my decision. A good PS will not judge you for wanting a breast lift. They will not suggest doing anything else unless you ask.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why not? I wouldn't recommend implants at this stage, but cleaning things up and a slight reduction? Sure. I would only consider how stable your weight is -- I would make sure that's stable before doing anything.

A reduction is pretty serious surgery, far more complicated than augmentation. OP, I’d try therapy first, to see if you can come to terms with your current body.

[Anonymous]

Get hobby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s worth at least exploring—go for a consultation and see what the surgeon says.

+1. By the way, plastic surgeons regularly deal with people who are unhappy with objectively trivial flaws. They will be kind to you and offer their best advice. I am very low maintenance and had a reduction in my 40s. I’m very happy with it and insurance paid.

[Anonymous]

You have likely paid your dues, taken care of your responsibilities, and at this stage in the game can start focusing on you before it’s too late. Invest in yourself, OP. Do that in whatever way is meaningful to you. Your wants may be different than others but that doesn’t make them any less valid. I say go for it!

[Anonymous]

I would talk to some people who have had the reduction in middle age to find out more about the surgery.

I would also explore other ways to feel less "gross and matronly" and see if those help. For me, those would be things like solo travel, new clothes, new kinds of exercise classes, new experiences.

[Anonymous]

Go for it!

Dr Jabs in Bethesda is not only a great surgeon but he’s really nice. He won’t judge you. I think most surgeons won’t, but I have personal experience with him so I can vouch for his kindness.

[Anonymous]

My best friend got a reduction at that age and was thrilled. It cured all of your issues.

[Anonymous]

I got a lift at 46. It really helped my breasts and they look much better. I didn’t find the recovery that bad.

The surgery didn’t stop my feels of loathing my body. I actually felt worse after. I had expectations of loving my new body, and all I can see are my other flaws. I’ve gained 25 lbs and probably look worse overall now.

It’s a mental and physical issue.

[Anonymous]

Breasts don’t grow larger with age, so it is weight gain. It would seem like losing weight is less risky than surgery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got a lift at 46. It really helped my breasts and they look much better. I didn’t find the recovery that bad.

The surgery didn’t stop my feels of loathing my body. I actually felt worse after. I had expectations of loving my new body, and all I can see are my other flaws. I’ve gained 25 lbs and probably look worse overall now.

It’s a mental and physical issue.

OP here. Thanks for this perspective. I have to think this through.
I never used to think very much about my body---I was average sized and athletic and could wear what i wanted to and look reasonably good.
Pretty much textbook low maintenance.
Now I can't wear many things (they look dreadful) and have these industrial bras to lift and compress my chest and they dig into my shoulders. I'm not sure what happened to my body. I had 3 kids and am somewhere in perimenopause.
It all got much worse post age 45.

I don't think I will start to be consumed by other flaws but who knows. My body has never been my focus.