Unequal inheritance

[Anonymous]

My mom is 75. My brother divorced at 38 and moved back in with her. She is widowed. My brother quit his job at 40 with plans to get another job someday. It's been 10 years and mom has been supporting him. He has an excellent degree and would easily have been employable. He just says he hates work and work is stressful. His kids who are now 19 and 20 also lived with my mom since the divorce.

My mom is worth a few million around 3-4. She previously told me the will is 50/50. She has been doing questionable things recently. So, I asked her about the will and she said " I need to protect people in the will. You have had much more success than your brother. He has not been successful and will need more money". We will meet to discuss this further. After many instances of being treated unfairly, I am done. I am punished for working hard throughout my life. If it is not equal, then I don't want any money.

[Anonymous]

It’s none of your business how she divides things. You should be grateful and appreciative for whatever you get.

[Anonymous]

Wow, that sounds like a bad mother. Reward the lazy one.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry OP. It's hurtful but try to let it go.

[Anonymous]

You should be thankful to get anything. It is up to her as to how she wants to divide things. I think it's very petty to say 50/50 or nothing. If you really feel that way give your part to charity. I'm sure you could find a deserving one.

Signed, someone who will likely get a smaller portion than her brother as well for similar reasons.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s none of your business how she divides things. You should be grateful and appreciative for whatever you get.

Bullshit. You would be angry if you wre treated unequally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You should be thankful to get anything. It is up to her as to how she wants to divide things. I think it's very petty to say 50/50 or nothing. If you really feel that way give your part to charity. I'm sure you could find a deserving one.

Signed, someone who will likely get a smaller portion than her brother as well for similar reasons.

I will give it to charity. I don't want it.

[Anonymous]

Of course this is hurtful.

[Anonymous]

My parents did this and I have not spoken to them for 10 years. I have completely cut them off. It's not the money, it's the inequity.

[Anonymous]

It's scenarios like these that make me grateful to be an only child.

[Anonymous]

What a great way to ensure these siblings will never have a relationship

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s none of your business how she divides things. You should be grateful and appreciative for whatever you get.

Bullshit. You would be angry if you wre treated unequally.

We are treated unequally because we are not equal. We have different capabilities, different professions, different lifestyles, etc. I keep my eye on my own life. How much money anyone else gets is none of my business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My parents did this and I have not spoken to them for 10 years. I have completely cut them off. It's not the money, it's the inequity.

The above is inequality but not inequity.

Equity is giving more to those that have less..most people on DCUM agree with it..now not sure if they have double standards when its about their own pockets .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s none of your business how she divides things. You should be grateful and appreciative for whatever you get.

Bullshit. You would be angry if you wre treated unequally.

We are treated unequally because we are not equal. We have different capabilities, different professions, different lifestyles, etc. I keep my eye on my own life. How much money anyone else gets is none of my business.

But it's crazy for a sibling to get more because of their own poor choices.

[Anonymous]

OP is completely ignoring the fact that her brother has been living with their mother and presumably assisting her way more than OP is, and the burden will only get bigger as she ages. OP should be grateful for that, and recognize that it might come at a price.