When do you expect your DC to move out?
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When do you expect your DC to move out?
just looking forward to when MY DD is out of college what should I expect? White Family (I moved when I was 23 and MY DH moved out at 19.. |
Anonymous
| Oldest is almost out at 22 - he just graduated from college and is starting a job in September. He is doing some traveling between now and then, so a lot of his stuff is still here, but he's already lined up an apartment to share with a friend. The middle one will probably stay through the grad school - her chosen career requires a Masters degree, and I don't see a reason to spend more money on housing if she can live at home. We'll see what her options are for grad school. In general, I would expect the kids to be out by 25 or so, unless they are in grad school. |
Anonymous
| why are you saying you're a white family??? |
Anonymous
some Middle Eastern's families will not move out till they get married, so is uncommon for them to move out after college. |
Anonymous
lol the us census says middle eastern folks are white. |
Anonymous
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DC, 25, is moving out Friday. DC graduated in Dec 2019. They moved home for a year to figure out where they wanted to live and to save a bit of money. Covid extended that. I know dozens who did similar and this summer seems to be the summer they are moving out.
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Anonymous
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just talked about this with my 10 yo. we expect her to move out when she gets married. i don't see the point of moving out if you are not starting a family.
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Anonymous
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Oldest child purchases a condo and moved out then at the age of 25.
Two sons in college so TBD |
Anonymous
| I am moving out as soon as my youngest turns 18. That will complete 33 years of parenting, from #1 to #6. All of my children had to be ready to fly before 18, because they need to hit the ground running. You're free to go wherever and do whatever, so go do that and have fun at it. That's my policy. 18 is a legal adult. |
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No expectation really. My older kids all moved out when they were 22-23, but my youngest is 24 and is likely to stay here a while longer. She's starting grad school & working full-time, and she also has issues with depression. For the time being, she's saving money and enjoying the emotional family support.
It's fine with me if she stays here for years. DH and I honestly appreciate the company & also her help when we travel, as we have 2 dogs who need care. |
Anonymous
| DS graduated this spring. He is working on a very low paying but important project this summer. He will then come home and look for a job. At some point we will start charging him rent (which we will refund when he is working and has his own place). Not sure how long we will give him...longer if we think he is really trying hard to find something. |
Anonymous
Probably because it's common in the Caribbean, South America, the Middle East, and many other places to reside in the family home until marriage, in my family, it would be very odd and unacceptable if a child moved out before marriage for anything beyond a great job opportunity that only existed far away from family. Uni, sure, coming back and forth. But we stay put until marriage. And we have a good bit more wealth than other people in the area, so it's not a money thing. |
Anonymous
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When he is ready to move out, I suppose. We are pushing it.
- Purple family |
Anonymous
| No expectation. It depends on what she does after college. If she wants to live at home while working and saving up money, that would be reasonable. If she has some kind of issue that requires extra support, that might be reasonable, too. It would also depend on whether it seems like living at home is helping her achieve a goal or just enabling her to tread water. |
Anonymous
You don't see a point in learning independence and how to manage on your own ( with roommates perhaps? That's sad! |