Class of '26 Instagram College Decisions

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter? if your DC is top 10% at CSH or Marymount, vs. top 70% at Brearley? TTs like Brearley is impossible to get into. You probably have a pretty good idea whether the kid is going to perform well at either tier of schools by the age of 10 or 12.

Half or more of the ivy admits at these schools are hooked. 10% CSH or Marymount doesn't mean top 10% all go to an ivy. Probably means only 3 or 5 unhooked kids from CSH or Marymount are accepted into ivies each year.

are you saying more than half of us with kids at a TT are hooked?

don't think so.

Definitely not.

But half of ivy admits at the TT are hooked: donor, legacy, low income, first gen, athlete, connection, faculty.

at TT i’d bet one of the parents of more than half the kids is an ivy+ alum

The number has to be higher. My child EC have over 80%. The ones who don’t tend to be new money families. You have to come from an old money family and have multiple generation of Ivy+ alum to distinguish yourself.

Your child EC? What's EC?

Extracurricular activities - my child is in preschool. They attend TT preschools. A few are already admitted to HM.

Oh dear . . . please don't worry about college prospects now, even when considering where to send your child to kindergarten. Focus on fit and where your child and family will feel comfortable and a valued part of the school community, and stay away from threads like these that are full of anxious parents of older children who want to believe that there is some magic formula (discoverable through IG posts, no less that will land their child in the college of their dreams.

Honestly, I think this is bad advice. Not because we’re all just jockeying for Harvard, but because there’s only so much you can glean from an open house, presentation, tour, and maybe 1-2 events. Absent having close friends with DCs already there (and even that can be skewed), those impressions are pretty curated. A lot rides on who leads the tour, and in our experience, reality often differed quite a bit from the pitch—sometimes for the better. DC attends a TT that’s known as a pressure cooker, and it’s been outrageously warmer than expected.

Also, most kids are adaptable. Most families are adaptable. You’ll probably find your way in a lot of places.

But college placements are objective. You can argue about what drives them—legacy, athletes, donors, whatever—but the numbers are the numbers. DC2 attends a 3T with meaningfully different college placements, and the difference is obvious. That doesn’t necessarily mean one school is “better,” but pretending it doesn’t matter doesn’t make much sense.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter? if your DC is top 10% at CSH or Marymount, vs. top 70% at Brearley? TTs like Brearley is impossible to get into. You probably have a pretty good idea whether the kid is going to perform well at either tier of schools by the age of 10 or 12.

Half or more of the ivy admits at these schools are hooked. 10% CSH or Marymount doesn't mean top 10% all go to an ivy. Probably means only 3 or 5 unhooked kids from CSH or Marymount are accepted into ivies each year.

are you saying more than half of us with kids at a TT are hooked?

don't think so.

Definitely not.

But half of ivy admits at the TT are hooked: donor, legacy, low income, first gen, athlete, connection, faculty.

at TT i’d bet one of the parents of more than half the kids is an ivy+ alum

The number has to be higher. My child EC have over 80%. The ones who don’t tend to be new money families. You have to come from an old money family and have multiple generation of Ivy+ alum to distinguish yourself.

WTF is a TT preschool?

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter? if your DC is top 10% at CSH or Marymount, vs. top 70% at Brearley? TTs like Brearley is impossible to get into. You probably have a pretty good idea whether the kid is going to perform well at either tier of schools by the age of 10 or 12.

Half or more of the ivy admits at these schools are hooked. 10% CSH or Marymount doesn't mean top 10% all go to an ivy. Probably means only 3 or 5 unhooked kids from CSH or Marymount are accepted into ivies each year.

are you saying more than half of us with kids at a TT are hooked?

don't think so.

Definitely not.

But half of ivy admits at the TT are hooked: donor, legacy, low income, first gen, athlete, connection, faculty.

at TT i’d bet one of the parents of more than half the kids is an ivy+ alum

The number has to be higher. My child EC have over 80%. The ones who don’t tend to be new money families. You have to come from an old money family and have multiple generation of Ivy+ alum to distinguish yourself.

Your child EC? What's EC?

Extracurricular activities - my child is in preschool. They attend TT preschools. A few are already admitted to HM.

Oh dear . . . please don't worry about college prospects now, even when considering where to send your child to kindergarten. Focus on fit and where your child and family will feel comfortable and a valued part of the school community, and stay away from threads like these that are full of anxious parents of older children who want to believe that there is some magic formula (discoverable through IG posts, no less that will land their child in the college of their dreams.

Honestly, I think this is bad advice. Not because we’re all just jockeying for Harvard, but because there’s only so much you can glean from an open house, presentation, tour, and maybe 1-2 events. Absent having close friends with DCs already there (and even that can be skewed), those impressions are pretty curated. A lot rides on who leads the tour, and in our experience, reality often differed quite a bit from the pitch—sometimes for the better. DC attends a TT that’s known as a pressure cooker, and it’s been outrageously warmer than expected.

Also, most kids are adaptable. Most families are adaptable. You’ll probably find your way in a lot of places.

But college placements are objective. You can argue about what drives them—legacy, athletes, donors, whatever—but the numbers are the numbers. DC2 attends a 3T with meaningfully different college placements, and the difference is obvious. That doesn’t necessarily mean one school is “better,” but pretending it doesn’t matter doesn’t make much sense.

Agree. The private schools don't have much objective information out there. Some schools don't even publish their average SAT scores anymore. They don't disclose the acceptance rate as most colleges do. It's extremely hard for people, especially the ones who don't grow up in NYC, to tell the differences. I don't think any parents will just pick schools based on the college matriculation, but it's a good information to have.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter? if your DC is top 10% at CSH or Marymount, vs. top 70% at Brearley? TTs like Brearley is impossible to get into. You probably have a pretty good idea whether the kid is going to perform well at either tier of schools by the age of 10 or 12.

Half or more of the ivy admits at these schools are hooked. 10% CSH or Marymount doesn't mean top 10% all go to an ivy. Probably means only 3 or 5 unhooked kids from CSH or Marymount are accepted into ivies each year.

are you saying more than half of us with kids at a TT are hooked?

don't think so.

Definitely not.

But half of ivy admits at the TT are hooked: donor, legacy, low income, first gen, athlete, connection, faculty.

at TT i’d bet one of the parents of more than half the kids is an ivy+ alum

The number has to be higher. My child EC have over 80%. The ones who don’t tend to be new money families. You have to come from an old money family and have multiple generation of Ivy+ alum to distinguish yourself.

WTF is a TT preschool?

The more I think about it the more I believe that most of the people on this board are New York private school LARPers from overseas or recent immigrants with a very warped understanding of how life in the city works. The language is very ESL.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter? if your DC is top 10% at CSH or Marymount, vs. top 70% at Brearley? TTs like Brearley is impossible to get into. You probably have a pretty good idea whether the kid is going to perform well at either tier of schools by the age of 10 or 12.

Half or more of the ivy admits at these schools are hooked. 10% CSH or Marymount doesn't mean top 10% all go to an ivy. Probably means only 3 or 5 unhooked kids from CSH or Marymount are accepted into ivies each year.

are you saying more than half of us with kids at a TT are hooked?

don't think so.

Definitely not.

But half of ivy admits at the TT are hooked: donor, legacy, low income, first gen, athlete, connection, faculty.

at TT i’d bet one of the parents of more than half the kids is an ivy+ alum

The number has to be higher. My child EC have over 80%. The ones who don’t tend to be new money families. You have to come from an old money family and have multiple generation of Ivy+ alum to distinguish yourself.

Your child EC? What's EC?

Extracurricular activities - my child is in preschool. They attend TT preschools. A few are already admitted to HM.

Oh dear . . . please don't worry about college prospects now, even when considering where to send your child to kindergarten. Focus on fit and where your child and family will feel comfortable and a valued part of the school community, and stay away from threads like these that are full of anxious parents of older children who want to believe that there is some magic formula (discoverable through IG posts, no less that will land their child in the college of their dreams.

Honestly, I think this is bad advice. Not because we’re all just jockeying for Harvard, but because there’s only so much you can glean from an open house, presentation, tour, and maybe 1-2 events. Absent having close friends with DCs already there (and even that can be skewed), those impressions are pretty curated. A lot rides on who leads the tour, and in our experience, reality often differed quite a bit from the pitch—sometimes for the better. DC attends a TT that’s known as a pressure cooker, and it’s been outrageously warmer than expected.

Also, most kids are adaptable. Most families are adaptable. You’ll probably find your way in a lot of places.

But college placements are objective. You can argue about what drives them—legacy, athletes, donors, whatever—but the numbers are the numbers. DC2 attends a 3T with meaningfully different college placements, and the difference is obvious. That doesn’t necessarily mean one school is “better,” but pretending it doesn’t matter doesn’t make much sense.

I say this as a parent who has put children through two preschools, a K-8, and two TT high schools….college placement should not be a thing you worry about for kindergarten. Stop the madness.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter? if your DC is top 10% at CSH or Marymount, vs. top 70% at Brearley? TTs like Brearley is impossible to get into. You probably have a pretty good idea whether the kid is going to perform well at either tier of schools by the age of 10 or 12.

Half or more of the ivy admits at these schools are hooked. 10% CSH or Marymount doesn't mean top 10% all go to an ivy. Probably means only 3 or 5 unhooked kids from CSH or Marymount are accepted into ivies each year.

are you saying more than half of us with kids at a TT are hooked?

don't think so.

Definitely not.

But half of ivy admits at the TT are hooked: donor, legacy, low income, first gen, athlete, connection, faculty.

at TT i’d bet one of the parents of more than half the kids is an ivy+ alum

The number has to be higher. My child EC have over 80%. The ones who don’t tend to be new money families. You have to come from an old money family and have multiple generation of Ivy+ alum to distinguish yourself.

WTF is a TT preschool?

The more I think about it the more I believe that most of the people on this board are New York private school LARPers from overseas or recent immigrants with a very warped understanding of how life in the city works. The language is very ESL.

It’s probably a troll. And TBH this ridiculous thread roundly deserves one.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter? if your DC is top 10% at CSH or Marymount, vs. top 70% at Brearley? TTs like Brearley is impossible to get into. You probably have a pretty good idea whether the kid is going to perform well at either tier of schools by the age of 10 or 12.

Half or more of the ivy admits at these schools are hooked. 10% CSH or Marymount doesn't mean top 10% all go to an ivy. Probably means only 3 or 5 unhooked kids from CSH or Marymount are accepted into ivies each year.

are you saying more than half of us with kids at a TT are hooked?

don't think so.

Definitely not.

But half of ivy admits at the TT are hooked: donor, legacy, low income, first gen, athlete, connection, faculty.

at TT i’d bet one of the parents of more than half the kids is an ivy+ alum

The number has to be higher. My child EC have over 80%. The ones who don’t tend to be new money families. You have to come from an old money family and have multiple generation of Ivy+ alum to distinguish yourself.

Your child EC? What's EC?

Extracurricular activities - my child is in preschool. They attend TT preschools. A few are already admitted to HM.

Oh dear . . . please don't worry about college prospects now, even when considering where to send your child to kindergarten. Focus on fit and where your child and family will feel comfortable and a valued part of the school community, and stay away from threads like these that are full of anxious parents of older children who want to believe that there is some magic formula (discoverable through IG posts, no less that will land their child in the college of their dreams.

Honestly, I think this is bad advice. Not because we’re all just jockeying for Harvard, but because there’s only so much you can glean from an open house, presentation, tour, and maybe 1-2 events. Absent having close friends with DCs already there (and even that can be skewed), those impressions are pretty curated. A lot rides on who leads the tour, and in our experience, reality often differed quite a bit from the pitch—sometimes for the better. DC attends a TT that’s known as a pressure cooker, and it’s been outrageously warmer than expected.

Also, most kids are adaptable. Most families are adaptable. You’ll probably find your way in a lot of places.

But college placements are objective. You can argue about what drives them—legacy, athletes, donors, whatever—but the numbers are the numbers. DC2 attends a 3T with meaningfully different college placements, and the difference is obvious. That doesn’t necessarily mean one school is “better,” but pretending it doesn’t matter doesn’t make much sense.

If your kid is in K, they won't be applying to college for another 12 years. Do you really think these schools are going to remain the same for that long? So many things could change. You child, who may seem like a perfect genius headed for Harvard now (if only you could get them to the perfect right TT school!) will also change, sometimes dramatically. None of these statistics matter, just find the right school that fits your values, switch schools if it doesn't seem like a great fit and stop putting so much pressure on yourself and your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter? if your DC is top 10% at CSH or Marymount, vs. top 70% at Brearley? TTs like Brearley is impossible to get into. You probably have a pretty good idea whether the kid is going to perform well at either tier of schools by the age of 10 or 12.

Half or more of the ivy admits at these schools are hooked. 10% CSH or Marymount doesn't mean top 10% all go to an ivy. Probably means only 3 or 5 unhooked kids from CSH or Marymount are accepted into ivies each year.

are you saying more than half of us with kids at a TT are hooked?

don't think so.

Definitely not.

But half of ivy admits at the TT are hooked: donor, legacy, low income, first gen, athlete, connection, faculty.

at TT i’d bet one of the parents of more than half the kids is an ivy+ alum

The number has to be higher. My child EC have over 80%. The ones who don’t tend to be new money families. You have to come from an old money family and have multiple generation of Ivy+ alum to distinguish yourself.

Your child EC? What's EC?

Extracurricular activities - my child is in preschool. They attend TT preschools. A few are already admitted to HM.

Oh dear . . . please don't worry about college prospects now, even when considering where to send your child to kindergarten. Focus on fit and where your child and family will feel comfortable and a valued part of the school community, and stay away from threads like these that are full of anxious parents of older children who want to believe that there is some magic formula (discoverable through IG posts, no less that will land their child in the college of their dreams.

Honestly, I think this is bad advice. Not because we’re all just jockeying for Harvard, but because there’s only so much you can glean from an open house, presentation, tour, and maybe 1-2 events. Absent having close friends with DCs already there (and even that can be skewed), those impressions are pretty curated. A lot rides on who leads the tour, and in our experience, reality often differed quite a bit from the pitch—sometimes for the better. DC attends a TT that’s known as a pressure cooker, and it’s been outrageously warmer than expected.

Also, most kids are adaptable. Most families are adaptable. You’ll probably find your way in a lot of places.

But college placements are objective. You can argue about what drives them—legacy, athletes, donors, whatever—but the numbers are the numbers. DC2 attends a 3T with meaningfully different college placements, and the difference is obvious. That doesn’t necessarily mean one school is “better,” but pretending it doesn’t matter doesn’t make much sense.

I say this as a parent who has put children through two preschools, a K-8, and two TT high schools….college placement should not be a thing you worry about for kindergarten. Stop the madness.

If you’re applying to K-12 and hoping your kids stays there for all 13 years, and say you’re not thinking about college matriculation, you’re either lying or naive.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter? if your DC is top 10% at CSH or Marymount, vs. top 70% at Brearley? TTs like Brearley is impossible to get into. You probably have a pretty good idea whether the kid is going to perform well at either tier of schools by the age of 10 or 12.

Half or more of the ivy admits at these schools are hooked. 10% CSH or Marymount doesn't mean top 10% all go to an ivy. Probably means only 3 or 5 unhooked kids from CSH or Marymount are accepted into ivies each year.

are you saying more than half of us with kids at a TT are hooked?

don't think so.

Definitely not.

But half of ivy admits at the TT are hooked: donor, legacy, low income, first gen, athlete, connection, faculty.

at TT i’d bet one of the parents of more than half the kids is an ivy+ alum

The number has to be higher. My child EC have over 80%. The ones who don’t tend to be new money families. You have to come from an old money family and have multiple generation of Ivy+ alum to distinguish yourself.

Your child EC? What's EC?

Extracurricular activities - my child is in preschool. They attend TT preschools. A few are already admitted to HM.

Oh dear . . . please don't worry about college prospects now, even when considering where to send your child to kindergarten. Focus on fit and where your child and family will feel comfortable and a valued part of the school community, and stay away from threads like these that are full of anxious parents of older children who want to believe that there is some magic formula (discoverable through IG posts, no less that will land their child in the college of their dreams.

Honestly, I think this is bad advice. Not because we’re all just jockeying for Harvard, but because there’s only so much you can glean from an open house, presentation, tour, and maybe 1-2 events. Absent having close friends with DCs already there (and even that can be skewed), those impressions are pretty curated. A lot rides on who leads the tour, and in our experience, reality often differed quite a bit from the pitch—sometimes for the better. DC attends a TT that’s known as a pressure cooker, and it’s been outrageously warmer than expected.

Also, most kids are adaptable. Most families are adaptable. You’ll probably find your way in a lot of places.

But college placements are objective. You can argue about what drives them—legacy, athletes, donors, whatever—but the numbers are the numbers. DC2 attends a 3T with meaningfully different college placements, and the difference is obvious. That doesn’t necessarily mean one school is “better,” but pretending it doesn’t matter doesn’t make much sense.

If your kid is in K, they won't be applying to college for another 12 years. Do you really think these schools are going to remain the same for that long? So many things could change. You child, who may seem like a perfect genius headed for Harvard now (if only you could get them to the perfect right TT school!) will also change, sometimes dramatically. None of these statistics matter, just find the right school that fits your values, switch schools if it doesn't seem like a great fit and stop putting so much pressure on yourself and your kids.

Actually the TTs have been remarkably consistent over the last decade plus (or more). And you can consider this in your school calculus without putting pressure on your kids.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter? if your DC is top 10% at CSH or Marymount, vs. top 70% at Brearley? TTs like Brearley is impossible to get into. You probably have a pretty good idea whether the kid is going to perform well at either tier of schools by the age of 10 or 12.

Half or more of the ivy admits at these schools are hooked. 10% CSH or Marymount doesn't mean top 10% all go to an ivy. Probably means only 3 or 5 unhooked kids from CSH or Marymount are accepted into ivies each year.

are you saying more than half of us with kids at a TT are hooked?

don't think so.

Definitely not.

But half of ivy admits at the TT are hooked: donor, legacy, low income, first gen, athlete, connection, faculty.

at TT i’d bet one of the parents of more than half the kids is an ivy+ alum

The number has to be higher. My child EC have over 80%. The ones who don’t tend to be new money families. You have to come from an old money family and have multiple generation of Ivy+ alum to distinguish yourself.

Your child EC? What's EC?

Extracurricular activities - my child is in preschool. They attend TT preschools. A few are already admitted to HM.

Oh dear . . . please don't worry about college prospects now, even when considering where to send your child to kindergarten. Focus on fit and where your child and family will feel comfortable and a valued part of the school community, and stay away from threads like these that are full of anxious parents of older children who want to believe that there is some magic formula (discoverable through IG posts, no less that will land their child in the college of their dreams.

Honestly, I think this is bad advice. Not because we’re all just jockeying for Harvard, but because there’s only so much you can glean from an open house, presentation, tour, and maybe 1-2 events. Absent having close friends with DCs already there (and even that can be skewed), those impressions are pretty curated. A lot rides on who leads the tour, and in our experience, reality often differed quite a bit from the pitch—sometimes for the better. DC attends a TT that’s known as a pressure cooker, and it’s been outrageously warmer than expected.

Also, most kids are adaptable. Most families are adaptable. You’ll probably find your way in a lot of places.

But college placements are objective. You can argue about what drives them—legacy, athletes, donors, whatever—but the numbers are the numbers. DC2 attends a 3T with meaningfully different college placements, and the difference is obvious. That doesn’t necessarily mean one school is “better,” but pretending it doesn’t matter doesn’t make much sense.

I say this as a parent who has put children through two preschools, a K-8, and two TT high schools….college placement should not be a thing you worry about for kindergarten. Stop the madness.

If you’re applying to K-12 and hoping your kids stays there for all 13 years, and say you’re not thinking about college matriculation, you’re either lying or naive.

So many kids switch schools for HS for many reasons. Yours may or may not. Wrap your mind around the present. It’s a long road, and whether you choose a school that sent six kids to Yale versus two in 2026 really will not matter much 2039.

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter? if your DC is top 10% at CSH or Marymount, vs. top 70% at Brearley? TTs like Brearley is impossible to get into. You probably have a pretty good idea whether the kid is going to perform well at either tier of schools by the age of 10 or 12.

Half or more of the ivy admits at these schools are hooked. 10% CSH or Marymount doesn't mean top 10% all go to an ivy. Probably means only 3 or 5 unhooked kids from CSH or Marymount are accepted into ivies each year.

are you saying more than half of us with kids at a TT are hooked?

don't think so.

Definitely not.

But half of ivy admits at the TT are hooked: donor, legacy, low income, first gen, athlete, connection, faculty.

at TT i’d bet one of the parents of more than half the kids is an ivy+ alum

The number has to be higher. My child EC have over 80%. The ones who don’t tend to be new money families. You have to come from an old money family and have multiple generation of Ivy+ alum to distinguish yourself.

Your child EC? What's EC?

Extracurricular activities - my child is in preschool. They attend TT preschools. A few are already admitted to HM.

Oh dear . . . please don't worry about college prospects now, even when considering where to send your child to kindergarten. Focus on fit and where your child and family will feel comfortable and a valued part of the school community, and stay away from threads like these that are full of anxious parents of older children who want to believe that there is some magic formula (discoverable through IG posts, no less that will land their child in the college of their dreams.

Honestly, I think this is bad advice. Not because we’re all just jockeying for Harvard, but because there’s only so much you can glean from an open house, presentation, tour, and maybe 1-2 events. Absent having close friends with DCs already there (and even that can be skewed), those impressions are pretty curated. A lot rides on who leads the tour, and in our experience, reality often differed quite a bit from the pitch—sometimes for the better. DC attends a TT that’s known as a pressure cooker, and it’s been outrageously warmer than expected.

Also, most kids are adaptable. Most families are adaptable. You’ll probably find your way in a lot of places.

But college placements are objective. You can argue about what drives them—legacy, athletes, donors, whatever—but the numbers are the numbers. DC2 attends a 3T with meaningfully different college placements, and the difference is obvious. That doesn’t necessarily mean one school is “better,” but pretending it doesn’t matter doesn’t make much sense.

If your kid is in K, they won't be applying to college for another 12 years. Do you really think these schools are going to remain the same for that long? So many things could change. You child, who may seem like a perfect genius headed for Harvard now (if only you could get them to the perfect right TT school!) will also change, sometimes dramatically. None of these statistics matter, just find the right school that fits your values, switch schools if it doesn't seem like a great fit and stop putting so much pressure on yourself and your kids.

Actually the TTs have been remarkably consistent over the last decade plus (or more). And you can consider this in your school calculus without putting pressure on your kids.

Or you can take the advice of BTDT old moms and stop worrying about whether your four year old will be brokered to U Chicago one day.

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I’d worry more about the quality of teaching and curriculum at your kid’s individual school. Some places go through bad periods and while you are calculating stats, the quality of teaching goes downhill.

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Anonymous wrote:I’d worry more about the quality of teaching and curriculum at your kid’s individual school. Some places go through bad periods and while you are calculating stats, the quality of teaching goes downhill.

I know: donors, legacy, tiger parents, whatever; but what better barometer of teaching quality and curriculum than college matriculation is there out there? Sitting in on one teachers class for 20 minutes? Someone else telling you the teachers are good?

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter? if your DC is top 10% at CSH or Marymount, vs. top 70% at Brearley? TTs like Brearley is impossible to get into. You probably have a pretty good idea whether the kid is going to perform well at either tier of schools by the age of 10 or 12.

Half or more of the ivy admits at these schools are hooked. 10% CSH or Marymount doesn't mean top 10% all go to an ivy. Probably means only 3 or 5 unhooked kids from CSH or Marymount are accepted into ivies each year.

are you saying more than half of us with kids at a TT are hooked?

don't think so.

Definitely not.

But half of ivy admits at the TT are hooked: donor, legacy, low income, first gen, athlete, connection, faculty.

at TT i’d bet one of the parents of more than half the kids is an ivy+ alum

The number has to be higher. My child EC have over 80%. The ones who don’t tend to be new money families. You have to come from an old money family and have multiple generation of Ivy+ alum to distinguish yourself.

Your child EC? What's EC?

Extracurricular activities - my child is in preschool. They attend TT preschools. A few are already admitted to HM.

Oh dear . . . please don't worry about college prospects now, even when considering where to send your child to kindergarten. Focus on fit and where your child and family will feel comfortable and a valued part of the school community, and stay away from threads like these that are full of anxious parents of older children who want to believe that there is some magic formula (discoverable through IG posts, no less that will land their child in the college of their dreams.

Honestly, I think this is bad advice. Not because we’re all just jockeying for Harvard, but because there’s only so much you can glean from an open house, presentation, tour, and maybe 1-2 events. Absent having close friends with DCs already there (and even that can be skewed), those impressions are pretty curated. A lot rides on who leads the tour, and in our experience, reality often differed quite a bit from the pitch—sometimes for the better. DC attends a TT that’s known as a pressure cooker, and it’s been outrageously warmer than expected.

Also, most kids are adaptable. Most families are adaptable. You’ll probably find your way in a lot of places.

But college placements are objective. You can argue about what drives them—legacy, athletes, donors, whatever—but the numbers are the numbers. DC2 attends a 3T with meaningfully different college placements, and the difference is obvious. That doesn’t necessarily mean one school is “better,” but pretending it doesn’t matter doesn’t make much sense.

Is the placements difference due to the kids (work ethic, brains, ECs) or school?

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Anonymous wrote:Does it matter? if your DC is top 10% at CSH or Marymount, vs. top 70% at Brearley? TTs like Brearley is impossible to get into. You probably have a pretty good idea whether the kid is going to perform well at either tier of schools by the age of 10 or 12.

Half or more of the ivy admits at these schools are hooked. 10% CSH or Marymount doesn't mean top 10% all go to an ivy. Probably means only 3 or 5 unhooked kids from CSH or Marymount are accepted into ivies each year.

are you saying more than half of us with kids at a TT are hooked?

don't think so.

Definitely not.

But half of ivy admits at the TT are hooked: donor, legacy, low income, first gen, athlete, connection, faculty.

at TT i’d bet one of the parents of more than half the kids is an ivy+ alum

The number has to be higher. My child EC have over 80%. The ones who don’t tend to be new money families. You have to come from an old money family and have multiple generation of Ivy+ alum to distinguish yourself.

Your child EC? What's EC?

Extracurricular activities - my child is in preschool. They attend TT preschools. A few are already admitted to HM.

Oh dear . . . please don't worry about college prospects now, even when considering where to send your child to kindergarten. Focus on fit and where your child and family will feel comfortable and a valued part of the school community, and stay away from threads like these that are full of anxious parents of older children who want to believe that there is some magic formula (discoverable through IG posts, no less that will land their child in the college of their dreams.

Honestly, I think this is bad advice. Not because we’re all just jockeying for Harvard, but because there’s only so much you can glean from an open house, presentation, tour, and maybe 1-2 events. Absent having close friends with DCs already there (and even that can be skewed), those impressions are pretty curated. A lot rides on who leads the tour, and in our experience, reality often differed quite a bit from the pitch—sometimes for the better. DC attends a TT that’s known as a pressure cooker, and it’s been outrageously warmer than expected.

Also, most kids are adaptable. Most families are adaptable. You’ll probably find your way in a lot of places.

But college placements are objective. You can argue about what drives them—legacy, athletes, donors, whatever—but the numbers are the numbers. DC2 attends a 3T with meaningfully different college placements, and the difference is obvious. That doesn’t necessarily mean one school is “better,” but pretending it doesn’t matter doesn’t make much sense.

If your kid is in K, they won't be applying to college for another 12 years. Do you really think these schools are going to remain the same for that long? So many things could change. You child, who may seem like a perfect genius headed for Harvard now (if only you could get them to the perfect right TT school!) will also change, sometimes dramatically. None of these statistics matter, just find the right school that fits your values, switch schools if it doesn't seem like a great fit and stop putting so much pressure on yourself and your kids.

Actually the TTs have been remarkably consistent over the last decade plus (or more). And you can consider this in your school calculus without putting pressure on your kids.

Be interesting to see if we could go back to the early days of UB and see what where the TT schools then. and what are the TT schools now.
the only difference i know is that Trevor has joined the ranks, but i think the rest are pretty much the same.