Adult niece wants nothing to do with me

[Anonymous]

After being extremely close for several years, my young adult niece suddenly wants nothing to do with me.

She doesn't answer texts or calls and does not seem open to telling me what's wrong.

I have backed off in contacting her to give her space but miss her very much.

What would you do in my situation? Our relationship is very important to me and would hate to lose it.

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Is she standoffish niece?

[Anonymous]

What is your relationship with her parents?

[Anonymous]

Is this you?
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/45/1052711.page

[Anonymous]

Don’t give up but give it time. I found that there were a few years where they were really busy and there was no time for me. But as they got a bit older and more settled the closeness came back. If she lives close enough maybe you could take her for a drink or pedicures or something that is a short commitment but nice to do together.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she standoffish niece?

No, she's a very loving person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is she standoffish niece?

No, she's a very loving person.

You’re clearly the same poster as in the other forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t give up but give it time. I found that there were a few years where they were really busy and there was no time for me. But as they got a bit older and more settled the closeness came back. If she lives close enough maybe you could take her for a drink or pedicures or something that is a short commitment but nice to do together.

Thank you, this is great advice and I'll try it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this you?
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/45/1052711.page

No, that's not me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is your relationship with her parents?

They're divorced so I've had no contact with her dad and her mom (my sister) doesn't keep in touch very often.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this you?
https://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/45/1052711.page

No, that's not me.

Uh huh.

[Anonymous]

Probably one of both of her parents bath mouthed you and instruct her not to communicate with you.

[Anonymous]

What did you do to cause it?

[Anonymous]

I actually think you’re my aunt. What letter does your name start with?

[Anonymous]

She's your niece not your daughter. If she doesn't want you in her life, stop prying. You don't have any legal or family right to "be in her life". She's just your niece. Now if she was your daughter it would be different.

Most kids as they entire young adulthood don't want anything to do with adults. You may have did something that upset her and you don't know it. Or, just give her space to live her life. Seems like you want to be part of her life and she doesn't. So, stop prying.