Adult niece wants nothing to do with me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually think you’re my aunt. What letter does your name start with?

why did you cut her off?

[Anonymous]

Are you politically different? I know many young adults who cut off their conservative relatives.

[Anonymous]

I would just be civil and try to reach out and chat a bit when you are thrown together at family events but otherwise not worry about it. Kids like those are often messed up and deserve compassion even though they are jerks, so I would continue to be civil and open even though she’s being a jerk. She could change. At any rate having her aunt react by being a jerk back is not going to help.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t take it personally and keep your side of communication open. Young adults are often going through self discovery, therapy, etc and need space. If you value her relationship, give her space but also an open door to come back to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually think you’re my aunt. What letter does your name start with?

It’s M. And no, my niece is not on this forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:After being extremely close for several years, my young adult niece suddenly wants nothing to do with me.

She doesn't answer texts or calls and does not seem open to telling me what's wrong.

I have backed off in contacting her to give her space but miss her very much.

What would you do in my situation? Our relationship is very important to me and would hate to lose it.

Thank you.

Sorry to hear this. >hugs<. I'd send her a Xmas card.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you politically different? I know many young adults who cut off their conservative relatives.

I'm not, just a run of the mill Democrat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:After being extremely close for several years, my young adult niece suddenly wants nothing to do with me.

She doesn't answer texts or calls and does not seem open to telling me what's wrong.

I have backed off in contacting her to give her space but miss her very much.

What would you do in my situation? Our relationship is very important to me and would hate to lose it.

Thank you.

Sorry to hear this. >hugs<. I'd send her a Xmas card.

Thank you for your kindness.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t take it personally and keep your side of communication open. Young adults are often going through self discovery, therapy, etc and need space. If you value her relationship, give her space but also an open door to come back to.

This is the best advice, thank you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would just be civil and try to reach out and chat a bit when you are thrown together at family events but otherwise not worry about it. Kids like those are often messed up and deserve compassion even though they are jerks, so I would continue to be civil and open even though she’s being a jerk. She could change. At any rate having her aunt react by being a jerk back is not going to help.

You're right and I would never respond by being a jerk back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I actually think you’re my aunt. What letter does your name start with?

why did you cut her off?

Thank you to the poster who asked this. If this was my niece, I would really like to know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I actually think you’re my aunt. What letter does your name start with?

K for Karen

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you politically different? I know many young adults who cut off their conservative relatives.

I'm not, just a run of the mill Democrat.

That's probably the issue.

[Anonymous]

You spent her life smothering and judging her. Now she wants space and freedom.

[Anonymous]

I would occasionally contact her for her birthday and holidays and leave it at that. You could ask her what is wrong, but I would not pursue it if she is not open to talking about it.