Boyfriend wants to get a motorcycle

[Anonymous]

We are both 40 and divorced and have kids (4 total). He has always wanted a motorcycle and his ex-wife wouldn't let him have one.

I'm not crazy about it, but not going to stop him if it's his dream to ride one. Any tips or advice when discussing this with your significant other?

And ladies, would you ride on it with your man?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, make sure you have a nice life insurance policy on him, and a living will, so everything doesn’t end up in his kids’ hands when he ends up splattered on the pavement.

[Anonymous]

My husband has a Vespa — and I don’t mean a little 50cc one. His can go up to 80-85MPH.

The reason I’m ok with him driving it is that he has had a motorcycle license for over 10 years and has driven extensively. When he was in his 20s and was a poor grad student, it was his only form of transportation.

I would be much more hesitant if he had never driven one before. He needs to take a full motorcycle safety course and really take it slowly.

Oh, and I don’t ride on it with him because if something were to happen to him (even him just feeling sick and not feeling comfortable driving), I can’t take over. I also don’t want both of us on it, in case god forbid something happens.

[Anonymous]

I’ve known two people to die on a motorcycle, and my kids still remember a terrible accident we passed where EMTs were working on a guy on the highway and it looked very grim. Motorcycles are extremely dangerous.

I would share your concerns but obviously he’s a friend man and will do what he pleases. I’d be a nervous wreck, though snd you couldn’t pay me to ride on one of those things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve known two people to die on a motorcycle, and my kids still remember a terrible accident we passed where EMTs were working on a guy on the highway and it looked very grim. Motorcycles are extremely dangerous.

I would share your concerns but obviously he’s a friend man and will do what he pleases. I’d be a nervous wreck, though snd you couldn’t pay me to ride on one of those things.

He’s a *grown man

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband has a Vespa — and I don’t mean a little 50cc one. His can go up to 80-85MPH.

The reason I’m ok with him driving it is that he has had a motorcycle license for over 10 years and has driven extensively. When he was in his 20s and was a poor grad student, it was his only form of transportation.

I would be much more hesitant if he had never driven one before. He needs to take a full motorcycle safety course and really take it slowly.

Oh, and I don’t ride on it with him because if something were to happen to him (even him just feeling sick and not feeling comfortable driving), I can’t take over. I also don’t want both of us on it, in case god forbid something happens.

I have a friend who also had been riding his whole life. The man who struck him and killed him had also been driving on a clean record for his whole life. Oh, well!

[Anonymous]

Friend of mine in grad school had a boyfriend who rode a motorcycle. He had an accident and wound up paralyzed. Fortunately she wasn't on it with him.

My advice is to stop him from doing that, and never ride on it with him.

[Anonymous]

Family member dealing with the fall out of brother in law’s motorcycle accident. Make sure you have disability insurance, going on a year since he could work, will delay or no longer have kids. But many things can change your life so I’d not be no just a be prepared!

[Anonymous]

He's a boyfriend, not a spouse. He doesn't need permission as he presumably is paying for the bike, insurance, license etc. Try to be happy for him. Nothing is without risk.

[Anonymous]

These posters are only being honest, OP. It’ll seriously a gamble each time he heads out on the bike.

He can be the best motorcycle rider, take all the classes, follow all the rules of the road. All it takes is one moron to hit him and he could be paralyzed, or brain dead, or killed. Are you both willing to take that risk?

I hate that I have to put my life in the hands of idiot drivers everywhere, and I’m in my car that is full of safety implements like seatbelts and airbags, not to mention a reinforced steel frame, tempered glass, all designed to save my life.

All your husband has between himself and the road or a vehicle, is a helmet, a leather jacket, and some boots and jeans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He's a boyfriend, not a spouse. He doesn't need permission as he presumably is paying for the bike, insurance, license etc. Try to be happy for him. Nothing is without risk.

Motorcycles are stupidly risky. You can not protect yourself adequately period. Visit any head injury rehab facility and it is chock full of severely injured young males that were in motorcycle accidents. Do this before you get a bike

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are both 40 and divorced and have kids (4 total). He has always wanted a motorcycle and his ex-wife wouldn't let him have one.

I'm not crazy about it, but not going to stop him if it's his dream to ride one. Any tips or advice when discussing this with your significant other?

And ladies, would you ride on it with your man?

Is it a crotch rocket or a Harley (old guy bike)?

I rode a crotch rocket once with a boyfriend in my twenties. I’d never ever ever do it now. I value my life alot more now. A Harley would be fun though I think!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We are both 40 and divorced and have kids (4 total). He has always wanted a motorcycle and his ex-wife wouldn't let him have one.

I'm not crazy about it, but not going to stop him if it's his dream to ride one. Any tips or advice when discussing this with your significant other?

And ladies, would you ride on it with your man?

Is it a crotch rocket or a Harley (old guy bike)?

I rode a crotch rocket once with a boyfriend in my twenties. I’d never ever ever do it now. I value my life alot more now. A Harley would be fun though I think!

How is either different at posted speeds? Explain to me how, if following posted speeds and the laws of the road, how you’re safer from crashing or being hit, on a Harley vs a “crotch rocket”?

[Anonymous]

Quick get life insurance.

Win-win

He doesn’t die great, he dies great

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We are both 40 and divorced and have kids (4 total). He has always wanted a motorcycle and his ex-wife wouldn't let him have one.

I'm not crazy about it, but not going to stop him if it's his dream to ride one. Any tips or advice when discussing this with your significant other?

And ladies, would you ride on it with your man?

I rode a sport bike in my youth, my wife wouldn't let me near one now. It was fun, open air riding, lean on the turn...sigh.

Anyway, just support him. Let he has his dream.

As a parent, I wouldn't ride on with him though since he's still inexperience and you have kids.